Research indicates that in many cases when people are feeling physical pain, general malaise and chronic weariness the cause can be linked to unexpressed emotion. As a society, and especially as men, we are not taught how to properly express our feelings or even to notice the message they are trying to send us.
As another year moves closer to its inevitable end, it is human nature to look back and reflect on the things that happened and to glean whatever useful information we can from it. There were many occasions and situations that happened over the past year which has given us a new experience or taught us a new lesson. The year has certainly taught me many interesting lessons. It seems the older that I am the more I learn, and I look forward to the new year with anticipation about all the things that I will learn. But before we move forward, let me look back at the year and the lessons it has taught me.
I was faced with the question today of whether or not anger is a bad thing or a good thing. It is my personal belief that anger is one of the emotions that you should avoid because it is one of the emotions that stems from fear. However being the open-minded person that I am, I am willing to look at the emotion of anger from a neutral standpoint and decide once and for all if it is desirable to be anger or not.
All People live by a code of beliefs, that are accepted over the course of their lives, based on their accepted moral code. What has worked and what has not worked in my life has led to a list of core beliefs that generally guide my day to day actions. There are days I lose my focus but I have found that getting back to the core of beliefs is a step in the right direction.
These are ever evolving and I am editing completely but at that time this is what they were, in no particular order.
Avoiding the Negative Media
It was about four years ago that I had simply had enough. No matter what was happening in the world it seemed the media had to spend its time spreading fear, unhappiness or promoting programs on their network of stations that even further spread fear and unhappiness. Enough was enough and I tentatively started my own personal news boycott to avoid the negative media and their effects on me.
This is a great video on creating new perspectives from one of survival to a vision of abundance. Kyle Cease is a speaker/comedian who helps people develop their abilities. He believes these perspectives that come from inside us have control over our reality.
Understanding New Perspectives
There are things we love to do and talents we have in order to find our purpose in life. Overcoming fear is important in our development. He advocates creativity and imagination in order to overcome the limits that society puts on us. Feel complete as you are and being what you love, there is no fear. Things outside of you do not complete you.
Many problems come from the illusion of separation that people have been taught throughout life. Almost from birth, we are taught to group people and label them based on arbitrary measures. Separation by race, religion, region, economics or any other measure is designed to create an identity but they only serve to build walls between people. Security is a big reason for this, where you fit in, you are safe, but later it can be attached to a person’s self-worth, and value. We are not separate, we are connected. The truth is that we are far more connected than we are different. Eliminate the separations between us and the world will be a much more functional place.
Fears Control Us
Fear is our brain warning us about the potential of pain or harm coming our way. Often it is based on
“Life is a boomerang. What you give you get.”~ Dale Carnegie~ Karma
We are all in control of the energy we give to the world each day. It begins with the thoughts we decide to pay attention to in our minds these become the actions we perform and our actions determine what we get back from life. Like a boomerang the energy, you decide to send out will come back to you, always, inevitably and usually with interest. That’s Karma.
It is amazing that life continually puts you into situations that challenge and change you. It is also eye-opening that I continue to be surprised by this. Yet here I am looking at what I want to create, standing on the precipice of going for it and tentatively cringing. It is not rare, I think, for people to feel this way. When you look at the majority of people, they have put their real goals and dreams aside to accept living in a rut of consistency and security that life provides. Safe is the choice, but we still have dreams that we are not acting on. Today I am looking to act and am encouraging you to come with me.
Each day we are given a new opportunity to create greatness both in the world we live in and in our personal lives. It seems that as we embark on our daily adventure it can be derailed most often by our own limiting thoughts and fear based behavior. I wonder what would happen if we were able to fully grasp the magic that is available in each and every day and make life the grand show it was meant to be.
If you had to teach something, what would you teach?
Presented with the opportunity to teach anything I wanted, and assuming that anyone wanted to learn, there is no doubt that I would try to teach a few of the things I have learned from life that I think are important.
There were many important things that I never really considered early on in life, which has proven to be invaluable and nearly vital knowledge today.
These lessons may not be mind blowing but I think they are important for you to be all that you want to be in life. Whether you think they have a place in your life or not is up to you.
I am tremendously grateful for a conscious decision I made about four years ago to stop watching the national news and leaving the fear mongering and celebrity worship behind.
I don’t seem to be missing out on anything positive and am just as informed as I always have been, but the real benefit is the fact that I have not been subject to the consistent stream of negativity that comes from any of the national news outlets. I think this enables me to be happier on a daily basis.
All of us have a deep desire inside to know what is going to happen next. Where are we going? What is the next step? What should I do now?
Sometimes it seems like it would be much easier if our lives were scripted in a book that we could read before hand, like a play. Follow the script and you will eventually come to your happy ending and everything will be alright. A happy ending for all situations. That is just not the way that life works and I, for one, am grateful for it. Face the new experiences of life and bravely embrace the unknown. You really don’t have any other choice.
It is easy to look at the struggles and challenges of life and forget to see all of the things that make each day a positive experience. One of the best practices is to set aside a time of day to look at the past day and decide what it is that you are grateful for.
An individual’s greatest power is that they have the ability to analyze a situation, determine if it is beneficial to them and then taking action to enhance the current situation or to move in a new direction. Taking action is a necessary factor in any success story.
Fear is so ingrained in our society that sometimes it is difficult to even recognize it anymore. If you are like me then it is time for you to get onto common ground with your fear and face up to it.
One of the most common blocks people face in accomplishing their goals is the worry about what others think of your choices, behaviors or talents. How often have you stopped doing something because you didn’t want to look foolish or be picked on by someone else?
This is a limiting thought that can be easily changed if you start to focus on what you are doing in the moment and forget what others might be thinking about it, you will enjoy life a whole lot more and find success as well. There are several simple reasons that this is true.
Lost in a flow of unfamiliar folks. Found in an instant by you.
Thinking and resigned to my fate, there is a waking up that leads me here.
I don’t know where I’ve been for so long, now I am sure it’s time to move on.
Moving on into the abyss of the dark, scary, exciting and inevitable.
not possible to know if circumstances will improve, but moving forward is the only thing to do. It is then you will find the message with only your name, left just for you.