What Others Think of You is Their Problem

caring-what-others-think-2One of the most common blocks people face in accomplishing their goals is the worry about what others might think of your choices, behaviors or talents. How often have you stopped doing something because you didn’t want to look foolish or be picked on by someone else?  This is a limiting thought that can be easily changed if you start to focus on what you are doing in the moment and forget what others are thinking about it, you will enjoy life a whole lot more and find success as well. There are several simple reasons that this is true.

Choosing Personal Growth

Personal Growth Leads to Living Well

personal growth 22In our lives, there is nothing so important as seeking out and pursuing opportunities to grow as a person. Just as any other living creature, our purpose in life is to contribute and to continually move toward becoming our best selves. Just as plants are born and start to grow throughout their lives.

As you look at your life and each activity that you are participating in asking yourself if there is a chance for growth in doing this.  We are all consciously, physically and mentally going one of two ways. 1. We are getting better or becoming more or growing  2. We are getting worse, becoming less or shrinking.

Learning from Mistakes In Life

Learning From Mistakes Of Life

everyone makes mistakes
Mistakes help you learn.

Life is continually teaching each of us lessons, and we merely need to pay attention to the daily events we experience, our reactions to them and even the experience of others in our lives to learn something on any given day.  One of the things that I have noticed about myself and everyone I know is that we really don’t like to make mistakes. When we do, we beat ourselves up for them for days, years and in some cases for the rest of our lives.  It makes you start to wonder, why we are so afraid to make mistakes?  Are we born perfect knowing everything? Aren’t mistakes an inevitable part of growing and developing as a human being?  If you show me someone who has never made a mistake then I will show you someone who has never tried.  It makes me start to wonder why we are as a society so afraid to make mistakes.  When you look at our educational system, it is designed to celebrate the achievements of a select few, while the majority of students who may be the most creative thinkers and eventually the people who would change the world are held up and discouraged by this unrealistic expectation of our society to conform.  Be perfect or you are a failure.  Why are we so afraid to fail?

My First Reading List

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My Reading List

A reading list if quite important. Over my recent history, I have been on a mission of learning, a quest to improve myself and to understand why life works the way that it does.  I wish that I knew the wisest man in the world, who could simply relay all of the vital information I need to know to me.  Unfortunately, I don’t think that person exists, and I don’t think that the experience would be quite as vital or memorable as it has been.  I have traveled many miles in the distance of understanding and followed many paths by using only my mind and my reading list.  The vehicle which has allowed me to do this has been the gift of literacy and the knowledge imparted to me from the wisest people who have ever thought thoughts.  I wanted to compile a list of all of the books I have read that have contributed to my journey of self discovery.  So that if you are looking for knowledge you will find out if you need to read these books or not.

Improving Your Mind

a-mind-is-a-terrrible-thing-to-waste-reallyEach of us is given a gift at birth called our mind. We spend our lives trying to develop it (or not) and skills that help allow us to experience success in many different phases of life. As we learn it all from the rudimentary activities of function to the most complex ideas, our mind helps us develop goals and make the plans that allow us to achieve them.  Our brain is our best friend and most valuable tool. It is designed to learn and grow and has a nearly limitless capacity to accomplish nearly anything.  There are some simple things that we can do to enhance the process and avoid destroying the potential that our valuable brain possesses. Improving your mind is a full time job.

Don’t Keep Us Separated

What invisible walls separate you from others?
What invisible walls separate you from others?

Many problems come from the illusion of separation that people have been taught throughout life. Almost from birth, we are taught to group people and label them based on arbitrary measures. Separation by race, religion, region, economics or any other measure is designed to create an identity but they only serve to build walls between people. Security is a big reason for this, where you fit in, you are safe, but later it can be attached to  a person’s self-worth, and value.  We are not separate, we are connected. The truth is that we are far more connected than we are different. Eliminate the separations between us and the world will be a much more functional place.

Learn Everything You Can

a138890e4646fecda59789f343ebc053Each of us has the opportunity each day to learn something. In fact, the only thing stopping us from learning information that will expand our minds, building our potential and developing a greater understanding of the world and ourselves, is a decision not to learn.

Knowledge is the great equalizer for all people and the choice to not pursue it will make you a smaller person and limit what you can do.

Let Us Begin Again

 

beginningBeginnings can be tough. You aren’t yet privy to all of the nuances that make a job or task work with as little resistance as possible. This is true of a new home, a new job, a new relationship, any time you are beginning anything at all! It is true with life. Beginnings  are both terrifying and exhilarating.

Most people don’t have someone who can fill them in on what to expect in this adventure called life.  As you go through its stages, there are many experiences that you will have to deal with. Some tests seem pointless at the moment but the value is only revealed to your years later.   There are many things to learn in life, and one of the most important is who you exactly are. That is a beginning.

Old Dog New Tricks

doggieWe all know the old saying about not being able to teach an old dog new tricks, but I am here to tell you that an old dog may in fact be taught new tricks, sometimes the method of the lesson need to change but the lessons can be learned.

Learning is your responsibility

The ability to learn new things and take in fresh information is one  of the parts of living life that make it interesting. Show me canstock22929502the man who thinks he knows it all and I will show you a man with no clue about life.

Pain Is a Teacher

Thereledarning is a gift are few teachers in my life who have gotten my attention and held on to it quite like pain. When you are in pain there is no escaping the message. Pain is a neurological phenomenon that is vital to let us know something is wrong. It could be physically wrong or mentally wrong but either way, pain lets you know that something must change. Without exception, pain has changed me with each visit it has made to my life.

Happy Thanksgiving To You

thanksgiving-high-definition-hd-wallpaper-desktopIt is Thanksgiving 2015 and another year is slowly winding to its inevitable end, of over spending and stress. Yet Thanksgiving always gives me pause to remember the people who I have been fortunate to know over the course of time. As I was working out this morning I was trying to think of all the people who have touched my life in a positive way. From people I have met through some experience in my life, growing up, high school, college, work life, or one of the many who I see in the course of my life at the places I frequent, or on the internet through blogging, all of you have made an impact on me and I am grateful that I know you.

30 Questions that Changed the Way I Think About the World

30 day challenges
The First of Many I Hope

by Jonathan Hilton

Have you ever seen the focus of your life change in thirty days? This is the experience that I have had over the last month as I have looked to improve my writing skill and myself, as a person as well.

This is an evaluation of my project to answer one question each day for thirty days, and to work on putting more of myself into my writing for the purpose of being more honest and open about the things I write about.

The beginning of this project