One of the most common blocks people face in accomplishing their goals is the worry about what others might think of your choices, behaviors or talents. How often have you stopped doing something because you didn’t want to look foolish or be picked on by someone else? This is a limiting thought that can be easily changed if you start to focus on what you are doing in the moment and forget what others are thinking about it, you will enjoy life a whole lot more and find success as well. There are several simple reasons that this is true.
To fear or to love?
All situations in life can be broken down into a simple choice. Will you think and act out of fear? Or will you think and act out of love?
I believe that EVERYTHING you think will make a difference in your life. I believe this because of a lifetime of experience and entertaining the wrong types of thoughts. Basically, I lived much of my life under the influence of fear but have chosen to make a change and look at things with thoughts of love.
In all that we do and all that we try to accomplish, a person has to learn to deal with fear. Fear comes to you through a voice in your head, warning you to be careful how far you stretch yourself, or to watch out for the things you do, the thoughts you think and the ideas you express. This voice in your head discourages you and minimizes your efforts and talents, all in the name of safety and comfort. One of the most freeing things I have learned is that fear is a liar. It lies to you about almost everything and choosing fear is going to lessen your experience and stop you from achieving anything of consequence.
What is the difference between living and existing?
When you look back on your life are you going to remember the times you decided to not try and stretch yourself and accepted what life has given you?
Or will you think back onto the moments where you gave it your best effort and either exceeded beyond all expectation or failed miserably?
Either way, you were fully engaged in the process of finding what you were made of. I believe that much of the difference between living and just existing stems from this search to measure ourselves.
Many problems come from the illusion of separation that people have been taught throughout life. Almost from birth, we are taught to group people and label them based on arbitrary measures. Separation by race, religion, region, economics or any other measure is designed to create an identity but they only serve to build walls between people. Security is a big reason for this, where you fit in, you are safe, but later it can be attached to a person’s self-worth, and value. We are not separate, we are connected. The truth is that we are far more connected than we are different. Eliminate the separations between us and the world will be a much more functional place.