Do you deserve happiness? This is a question that most of us ask either on the conscious or subconscious level and the honest answer we give too often is, NO. This is a limiting belief that comes with us through our experiences that have taught us to expect less than the best. There is no reason to look at yourself and believe that you don’t deserve happiness. The only thing stopping you from living a happy life are your own negative stories that you tell yourself in your mind. You always have the choice to look at yourself with softer eyes and admit that you deserve to be happy.
Why Don’t we all choose Happiness?
Happiness is a goal that everyone wants to experience. How many times have you just wanted to be happy with life, your choices, the people that you know and the things that you own? Yet there is a deep feeling of angst inside that what you have and/or what you are is simply not enough. You would be happier if you were taller, thinner, had a nicer car, or a more interesting significant other. The true source of happiness is located within you.
If you had to teach something, what would you teach?
Presented with the opportunity to teach anything I wanted, and assuming that anyone wanted to learn, there is no doubt that I would try to teach a few of the things I have learned from life that I think are important.
There were many important things that I never really considered early on in life, which has proven to be invaluable and nearly vital knowledge today.
These lessons may not be mind blowing but I think they are important for you to be all that you want to be in life. Whether you think they have a place in your life or not is up to you.
All of us have a deep desire inside to know what is going to happen next. Where are we going? What is the next step? What should I do now?
Sometimes it seems like it would be much easier if our lives were scripted in a book that we could read before hand, like a play. Follow the script and you will eventually come to your happy ending and everything will be alright. A happy ending for all situations. That is just not the way that life works and I, for one, am grateful for it. Face the new experiences of life and bravely embrace the unknown. You really don’t have any other choice.
Happiness comes from within each of us and it is up to us to make the decision whether we are happy with your relationships, jobs or lives. There are many reasons that I believe this to be true but here are a few of my favorite locations of where happiness comes from.
So Often We Rely on Things
For much of my life, I was a person who thought that it took things to make me happy. A relationship, a house, a new car, or new clothes would make me feel like I was happy.
What makes you smile?
I have always felt that the endgame in life was to experience happiness, and one of the ways that we show this is to smile. Smiling shows an appreciation for whatever is unfolding in your life.
There are lots of different smiles we share with the world and I am here telling you that there are so many things that make me smile, I am not sure that I can mention them all here. I am trying just to encourage another to smile and feel a bit more positive about life.
What’s Your Mood Today?
I say it all the time, “Have a great day!” and I hear it all the time from others as well, but it
seems like so many people are glum and gloomy every day that they have definitely decided to ignore this kind and tender wish. The unhappiness seems to be so prevalent that I decided to write a little to remind people exactly how to achieve that fantastic day that is there for the taking each and every sunrise.
What are you most grateful for?
by Jonathan Hilton
I am thankful for all these things, but to me there is no doubt that showing your gratitude is the most important thing to do. The feeling of gratitude is important. So for me I guess the act of feeling grateful is the thing I am most grateful for today. Here is why.
There is nothing more frustrating on the surface than change. It comes along in life whether we want it or not and forces us to do something other than what we have been doing, whether we are ready to stop doing it or not.
Many people if not all people have at least a passing disdain for change and I think there are good reasons for this, yet I think we also all are well aware that change is also good. How to deal with this mystery of inevitable and painful movement from one phase of life to another? That is the inevitable question.
I have found this one fact pervasive throughout my life, EVERYTHING we do matters when it comes to our happiness and enjoyment of life.
Every decision that you make throughout every day of you life is a contributor to the essence of your existence. Each decision you make to support someone or to knock someone down will be reflected in your own experience.
I mean there are clues everywhere, and you might be able to figure it out, but it would have been so much easier if someone had just sat me down and told me the way things worked. That is hat this post is for, if it informs one person, then it is worth it.
I was faced with the question today of whether or not anger is a bad thing or a good thing. It is my personal belief that anger is one of the emotions that you should avoid because it is one of the emotions that stems from fear. However being the open-minded person that I am, I am willing to look at the emotion of anger from a neutral standpoint and decide once and for all if it is desirable to be anger or not.
Remember How To Play In Life
Many years ago, I can remember being a kid and just wondering who was going to be available to play after school. There were not many things that were more important to my elementary school self than what I would play, where I would play and who would be available to play with. Growing up in the town of Greenville, Maine, Tuesdays were always a difficult day because the bulk of my colleagues were Catholic and they had to go to Catechism, which significantly cut into my options. I often urged some of my friends to skip their religious instruction for a rousing game of kickball or football or anything outside that involved a game of some kind.
How do you generally move through each day?
by J.D. Hilton Day 60
The problem with me and I think many people is that we spend way too much time planning and plotting to prove how smart we are and not enough time enjoying what is happening in our lives right at this very moment.
What does your joy look like today?
by Jon Hilton Day 17
Can anyone really define their joy as one particular aspect of a day or even a life?
I certainly can’t so when I started to answer this question for today I had many thoughts about what gives me joy right at this moment and in the overall canvass of existence.
My joy today looks like many things of which I am going to try to give you a glimpse of what is making experience great pleasure and happiness today.
If not now, then when?
by Jonathan Hilton- Day 15
Many times there is something that we have been meaning to do that we continually put off until tomorrow because of the potential consequences.
Or the fact that there is change involved and change is a scary thing because nobody really can guarantee you that whatever you are looking to do will in fact be better than what you have already.
This is enough to stop many adventurous people from pursuing an avenue of change, but should it?
Do you celebrate the things you do have?
It can be difficult in our society to really appreciate all that we do have today. There is always another commercial that tells us what we should have, or how we should look, even though what we have and how we look is just fine.
I think that I do currently celebrate the thing I do have, and not worry too much about the things I don’t have but it has not always been that way and it seems many other people have problems appreciating things as well.
What is the difference between being alive and truly living?
by Jonathan Hilton
All people are going to answer this question differently depending on where they are in their life. To me being alive is a fact of nature, and enjoying life and living for a purpose is truly living. But how do you enjoy life?
Other people will answer this very differently. It only takes a few visits to any number of blogs to experience the wide variety of philosophies and beliefs that exist.
By Jonathan Hilton
- One of my favorite stories of my youth was The Lord or the Ring trilogy by J.Rs.R. Tolkien. I loved the fantasy of it and yes I was a total geek about it throughout my life. I had the occasion to read the poem All that is Gold Does not Glitter, the other day, and I wondered why I liked it so much. This article attempts to explain my attachment to this poem and the connections I make to my life today.
- Here is the Poem in it’s entirety:
- “All that is gold does not glitter,
By Jonathan Hilton
My Soul Stretches toward you. Still you are silent.
Are you afraid? Why can’t I see you? Are you hiding?
The realization that I have been searching for you, envelops me.
There is a missing piece of me out there, I have never had.
I have never had it, I don’t know what it feels like, I need it now.
The empty space in my center, that you alone can fill and complete.
I am now calling loudly to you, in a controlled desperation.
by Jonathan Hilton
It is so easy to get lost in thought, lost in thoughts about your past and what you should have done. Your mind can transport you effortlessly to those moments where you perceive that you were really happy, unlike your experience today.