Look around you and see what is there to stop you from achieving personal growth. As I examine the life that I am living I see things that appear to limit what I can accomplish. There are walls, both literally and figuratively around me, that make taking some actions seem difficult to nearly impossible. The excuses of life are used, one on top of another, each with their own fear. Unfortunately, it seems that once you start to accept limits in one area of life they will creep into all parts of your life and stop you from not only being your best, but also accomplishing your worthwhile goals and dreams. Don’t be discouraged, the exciting thing is that if you look inside yourself there is an answer. It is the strength and courage to accomplish great things. You have to believe in yourself and doing this is the best kind of personal growth.
One of the things that all people can do is think. Some of us do a better job than others at this skill but we all do create thousands of thoughts each and every day. In all of this thought creation, it is fun to look at how the brain actually works. We can only hold one thought in our mind at a time, the tenor of that thought is going to affect us through a chemical reaction in the brain, so how you think can literally affect your health and quality of life.
A limiting belief many people carry around in their mind is “History always repeats.” As a former history teacher, I know that in the broad scheme of life, general themes in history do repeat themselves. However, this is not a given, it takes a combination of circumstances and choices for any event to occur. This is particularly true in your life, don’t be limited by the concern or fear that events from your past are simply going to play again in your mind. Forget your history.
We each have space inside of us that exists for us to fill with all of the things that matter in our lives. From birth until we leave this experience people make decisions about what exactly is going to fill their empty space most enjoyable. All of the things we pay attention to and the actions that you take fill that space. As we grow older the decisions about the space are going to be more important. Things that filled our space when we were 20 years old, no longer seem to fit and fall away. Events that filled our space are over and in order for new experiences and things to get in we have to let things fall away from us and move comfortably into the past. What is in your space that you should let go of? What should you keep?
Bad days happen. We fall down, we make mistakes, and things fall apart. That is life, but it has been my observation that the people who move swiftly through these mishaps and enjoy the positive side of life have developed habits that are worth emulating. It is easy to let negativity creep into our lives as we live day to day, but consciously focusing our thoughts on the positives that exist in life will provide value where it seems that none really exists. Being in love with your life during each minute is the secret to happiness. Accepting the bitter with the sweet.
Thinking has been a theme for me continually. I seem to have a lot of thoughts, and I wonder what they actually mean. Are my thoughts designed to guide me? Or are they here to distract me? Sometimes I could believe either scenario. Do thoughts actually provide any concrete information or do they just arrive to distract you from accomplishment? Positive thoughts always contribute to your greater good.
“If You Don’t Like Where You Are, move! You’re Not a Tree.”
So many times we feel stuck. In a job, in a relationship, in the town we live in, stuck in our current circumstances which are not fulfilling us. We feel stuck where we are with no hope of moving on to something else that provides a challenge, contentment or happiness. The truth is that we are only as stuck as our mind decides that we are. As people, we have been given the talent to make new choices and take new paths which lead to new beginnings and an unlimited future of possibilities.
Minds work overtime, sometimes and I wrote this list originally several years ago but continually update my core beliefs as new evidence and experience prove old ideas in need of tweaking or total replacement. So here are the current version of MY CORE BELIEFS. Presented in no particular order, here are a few of the things that I hold as truths for my life.
We Are All Connected
Call it God, the Universe, or whatever your religion dictates, but to me, we are all connected through divine order. All people contain the same abilities for great love, and equal power to commit evil. That is just a part of this crazy game called life.
Sometimes you reach the point where things are just not working. Clearly, there needs to be a change. The path of your life is dictated at this moment. Good, bad, successful, right, or wrong all of these adjectives will be applied to your journey depending on the tenor of the choices that you make at the prospect of change. Some people will look at their circumstances and see no choices at all. There are always choices and they usually triggered by the questions that we ask ourselves about moving forward. There has to be a basic belief that life can be something different from what you are experiencing now.
What are you sure of in life? What philosophy can you stand behind and not shy away from because you are sure of its validity? We all have some non-negotiable items in this cache. The sun will rise, the sun will set. Life is fleeting. You must work hard to be successful. The government is looking out for your best interest. If it isn’t one thing, it’s another. There are many points of view which are considered by people constant, unshakable and permanent fixtures in life and creators of our reality. Yet in reality, they are only interesting points of view that you can choose to believe or discard as you see fit.
Beliefs are the ideas which we have chosen to provide a particular attachment to. These are thoughts that we have been told during the course of our lives that have been backed up by experience and our emotional reaction to them. It is important to recognize our beliefs because they will form the paradigms of our lives. These rules will determine the reality that we experience in our lives, so recognizing the limiting beliefs and actively working to change them can make your life much more positive.