Many problems come from the illusion of separation that people have been taught throughout life. Almost from birth, we are taught to group people and label them based on arbitrary measures. Separation by race, religion, region, economics or any other measure is designed to create an identity but they only serve to build walls between people. Security is a big reason for this, where you fit in, you are safe, but later it can be attached to a person’s self-worth, and value. We are not separate, we are connected. The truth is that we are far more connected than we are different. Eliminate the separations between us and the world will be a much more functional place.
All experiences in life are an opportunity for growth and learning. The person you are today has been built brick by brick from the things that you have gone through both good and bad. Those things that were not so enjoyable or were extremely painful are often considered darkness and the darkness that comes into our lives can be difficult to get rid of even many years later. Unfortunately, as we are going through these dark times there is no real way to gauge the benefits that are coming to us down the road, but that doesn’t make the value any less tangible. What makes a situation dark? Is it something that another has done to us? or is it our own weakness and inability to say goodbye and move on?
If you had to teach something, what would you teach?
Presented with the opportunity to teach anything I wanted, and assuming that anyone wanted to learn, there is no doubt that I would try to teach a few of the things I have learned from life that I think are important.
There were many important things that I never really considered early on in life, which has proven to be invaluable and nearly vital knowledge today.
These lessons may not be mind blowing but I think they are important for you to be all that you want to be in life. Whether you think they have a place in your life or not is up to you.
Minds work overtime, sometimes and I wrote this list originally several years ago but continually update my core beliefs as new evidence and experience prove old ideas in need of tweaking or total replacement. So here are the current version of MY CORE BELIEFS. Presented in no particular order, here are a few of the things that I hold as truths for my life.
We Are All Connected
Call it God, the Universe, or whatever your religion dictates, but to me, we are all connected through divine order. All people contain the same abilities for great love, and equal power to commit evil. That is just a part of this crazy game called life.
There are questions we ask ourselves all of our lives that can haunt us if we let them. What if that decision was wrong? What if I shouldn’t have done that? What if I had tried out for the chess team in high school? What if I said yes?
There are a million of these questions that you can consume your time with, but they don’t add up to anything in the end because the fact is whatever you are “what if-ing” about didn’t happen, will never happen and so should concern you about as much as what the weather was in Borneo in the year 1656.
There are several sure-fire behaviors that we can all choose which are guaranteed to ruin your life, give you less happiness and cause you to be angry each day. Practice these things and you are guaranteed to be unhappy. Be careful because happiness will always seek a way into your life.
Be Mean to Others
A great place to start is to make sure that you are mean to other people. Most people are mean and accepting of others because we see faults in them that we see and dislike in ourselves. So look at what you dislike about yourself, recognize it in someone else and be mean to them. Gossip about them, name call and discriminate if you can.
If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?
There are two ways to go with this answer, you can say: “If something hasn’t happened yet then it is not ever going to happen.” This will lead to losing the few strands of hope you have left for accomplishing the task you dream about.
Or the other answer can be: “The time must be ripe for whatever it is that you have brewing, and dream of achieving, and the only thing you have to lose is more time passing before you achieve whatever it is you want to accomplish.” Thus leading to the achievement of your dreams. I don’t know about you but the second one sounds better to me.
In all that we do and all that we try to accomplish, a person has to learn to deal with fear. Fear comes to you through a voice in your head, warning you to be careful how far you stretch yourself, or to watch out for the things you do, the thoughts you think and the ideas you express. This voice in your head discourages you and minimizes your efforts and talents, all in the name of safety and comfort. One of the most freeing things I have learned is that fear is a liar. It lies to you about almost everything and choosing fear is going to lessen your experience and stop you from achieving anything of consequence.
What can you do today that you were not capable of a few years ago?
When I think back to where exactly I was 365 days ago, it never ceases to amaze me the jagged artwork that change has woven into the tapestry of my life. Each seemingly unconnected event has worked to put me exactly where I am supposed to be.
Many philosophies support the idea of a preconceived plan for everyone. I am not sure about that yet, but sometimes it seems like things fall into place in ways that you would never believe. So here are some of the things that I can do today that I was not capable of a few years ago.
One of the great experiences I have been able to have is to be able to write a lot os great things at my favorite coffee shop, and one of the perks (no pun intended) has been to become friends with the people who work so hard to keep my coffee hot and flowing as I worked my way through many different writing projects. These people don’t know it but their conversations with me provide a lot of writing topics. One of the most common
themes that they discuss is love.
All People live by a code of beliefs, that are accepted over the course of their lives, based on their accepted moral code. What has worked and what has not worked in my life has led to a list of core beliefs that generally guide my day to day actions. There are days I lose my focus but I have found that getting back to the core of beliefs is a step in the right direction.
These are ever evolving and I am editing completely but at that time this is what they were, in no particular order.
It can be amazing to think that we spend so much time and effort in our lives looking for things which are outside of our existence to make us happy, when the place we should be looking is inside of ourselves. The thoughts we think and the beliefs we adhere to and the actions we take surrounding them are all contributing factors to what we do have and what we do not in our lives. We are always looking for gold, outside when it is hiding in plain sight within.
The anticipation of the voice at the other end of the line was immediately crushed as I heard the words, “David’s dead”. They were flatly spoken and yet the emotion behind them was calling for help. I had just turned 18 and was dealing with the end of high school, baseball season, a new relationship and looking forward to the rest of my life, but the largest lesson was taught to me with those words, ringing through the telephone. Paul was dead and my life would never be the same.
by Jonathan Hilton
But what I found was you.
Dark journeys I have traveled alone,
but light was just a momentary thought away.
The negative propagation that overwhelms,
replaced by sunlight and sea breeze laughter.
Much as the winter is killed by the spring,
the reality of missing pieces, stands out brightly.
Incomplet and utter dark night,
combined with twin bright flashes of starlight.
resistance is gone, I am resigned to the fate.
Walk, run, crawl, faster, quicker,
So here it is Valentine’s Day 2013. I initially was going to rant about how this day is not about love and only about how much money a person has to spend to adequately show their love to another. That this isn’t actually a holiday at all, but a manufactured event of greeting card companies to sell more greeting cards between Christmas and Easter. But that is just being miserable for the sake of being miserable so I decided to focus on what the focus should be on this day, LOVE.