“We are either getting better or we are getting worse, nobody stays the same”. This is true in all aspects of our lives. In all that you do, either you are becoming more effective or you are becoming less vital. What you pursue counts and it is a simple matter of personal choice how self-improvement enters your life. My three main areas of focus are on the physical, mental and spiritual sides of myself. My goal each day is to become at least 0.001% better than I was yesterday. If I can keep growing and becoming a better person than my contribution to the world will grow and my experience will be that much more significant.
There are endless possibilities that exist in each new day. So often I look at life and see the obstacles in my way. The reasons why I can’t do what I want, go where I want, or be who I want to be. The barriers have existed since I was born, and they seem to be pervasive and permanent. If I never change my perspective of them then they will always stop me. How do I overcome them? Look at the positive possibilities that exist all around you, they are there.
Many problems come from the illusion of separation that people have been taught throughout life. Almost from birth, we are taught to group people and label them based on arbitrary measures. Separation by race, religion, region, economics or any other measure is designed to create an identity but they only serve to build walls between people. Security is a big reason for this, where you fit in, you are safe, but later it can be attached to a person’s self-worth, and value. We are not separate, we are connected. The truth is that we are far more connected than we are different. Eliminate the separations between us and the world will be a much more functional place.
There is a Strength in knowing Your Weakness
All people have to face that fact: they are not perfect. Our lives are infected by personal shortcomings and weaknesses of all sorts. These imperfections may be physical, spiritual, emotional, financial or in any aspect of our experience. The secret to enjoying life despite these shortcomings is to fully explore, and embrace each and every one of them. Personal growth can only come from understanding.
Don’t Hide from Imperfections
For myself, I see weakness each and every day. Each day I am confronted with situations that either reveal or specifically highlight some glitch in my personal makeup. There are clear choices
When you are 80 years old, what will matter to you the most?
Put your marker at the start, take your turn, roll the dice and see if you can get to the finish before anybody else with more stuff than you need. Life is not playing out that way for me, does it for anybody?
I know enough to know, that I do not know that I don’t know anything about what life might be like in a year from now, let alone in thirty-one years from now.
To live life is to be let down. Disappointment just seems to come with the territory. We then have a few simple choices, to carry around the anger of being hurt or to forgive and move on. Sometimes the actions are so painful that it seems impossible to forgive like you will be letting the person that wronged you off the hook. That is the exact attitude that keeps you suffering and under the control of an event or actions of others for a long time. There are many benefits of forgiveness the will make your life a more enjoyable experience.
What Appears to Be the End, is Only a New Beginning
It is hard to let go of things that have ended, one of the best lessons that you can learn is that all things have a shelf life, and when it is time to move on, you need to be able to do this with faith. Understanding that what you are moving toward is a piece of the puzzle you are going to need in order to achieve dreams and have positive things happen for you.
We all know the old saying about not being able to teach an old dog new tricks, but I am here to tell you that an old dog may, in fact, be taught new tricks, sometimes the method of the lesson need to change but the lessons can be learned.
Learning is your responsibility
The ability to learn new things and take in fresh information is one of the parts of living life that make it interesting. Show me the man who thinks he knows it all and I will show you a man with no clue about life.
Looking at the experience of living I can only come to one conclusion and that is that life is a beautiful play. Designed to teach you lessons along the way, fooling you into believing that you are in control and driving the ride you are on, but supplying the stage for triumph or tragedy. Revealing slowly, surely and completely that we may not be completely in control of this story but the mere beneficiary of the script. Left to choose to become this or that, rich or poor, smart or ignorant, accepting or judgmental, there are many choices we do make but it is all seems to be a predetermined act and we are merely the actors.
When you look at your existence what do you feel? Are you located in your body alone, simply taking up the space that you are physically in at the moment? Or are you more than that? Only you can answer this. Do you make yourself small like a pebble or big like the sky? This decision is made each day by all people living all over the world, in all sorts of circumstances.
Question everything and only accept those things prove true. How do we learn? There are several different ways that we can infuse our minds and souls with new ideas and knowledge. However, each individual needs to determine the validity of each morsel of information for themselves, regardless of the source that is providing it. Don’t believe anything except after individual investigation and introspection have proven it to be so. Finding what is true for you is vital to living a life that is honest and true to yourself. What beliefs you accept will determine your reality.
Personal Growth Leads to Living Well
In our lives, there is nothing so important as seeking out and pursuing opportunities to grow as a person. Just as any other living creature, our purpose in life is to contribute and to continually move toward becoming our best selves. Just as plants are born and start to grow throughout their lives.
As you look at your life and each activity that you are participating in asking yourself if there is a chance for growth in doing this. We are all consciously, physically and mentally going one of two ways. 1. We are getting better or becoming more or growing 2. We are getting worse, becoming less or shrinking.
The conversation occurs subtly behind the actions of
the day. It is one that we are a huge part of but we rarely take the time to analyze the tone or tenor of which we are speaking. This is self-talk, an ongoing dialogue inside your head that will contribute commentary on the happenings you experience. Too often people just accept the conversation and it is most decidedly dripping with negativity. We tend to be extremely hard on ourselves and give extremely harsh criticism, often crushing our own confidence and self-esteem. Once a person becomes aware of this talk though they can make the conscious effort to change their self-talk and start building a more positive self-image. This will change the way you look at yourself and the way others look at you as well.
Look around you and see what is there to stop you from achieving personal growth. As I examine the life that I am living I see things that appear to limit what I can accomplish. There are walls, both literally and figuratively around me, that make taking some actions seem difficult to nearly impossible. The excuses of life are used, one on top of another, each with their own fear. Unfortunately, it seems that once you start to accept limits in one area of life they will creep into all parts of your life and stop you from not only being your best, but also accomplishing your worthwhile goals and dreams. Don’t be discouraged, the exciting thing is that if you look inside yourself there is an answer. It is the strength and courage to accomplish great things. You have to believe in yourself and doing this is the best kind of personal growth.
Yesterday, I was reminded how simple our philosophy of life should be. We should all be treating others based on the way we would like to be treated. If we all followed this pattern of behavior, many of the world’s problems would be eliminated easily. However, as we all know there are sometimes things that get in the way of putting the golden rule into practice. Here are a few explanations and thoughts on how to make sure that you are following the golden rule and doing your part to make sure the world is a better place.
Age is just a number, however, there are some numbers that are much more intimidating than others and turning 50 is one of these.
To me, at this milestone, I have conflicting feelings, I assume all people are the same. I have fears and insecurities about life, just as I did when I was turning 40, 30, 20 or even 10. Hopefully, I have developed tools and learned lessons that have helped me navigate the aging process in a positive manner. Embracing the experience. Reflection is one of the tools that I use to understand the value of an experience. To take that lesson into living my life every day.
by Jonathan Hilton
Have you ever seen the focus of your life change in thirty days? This is the experience that I have had over the last month as I have looked to improve my writing skill and myself, as a person as well.
This is an evaluation of my project to answer one question each day for thirty days, and to work on putting more of myself into my writing for the purpose of being more honest and open about the things I write about.
The beginning of this project