Secrets to a Happy Life

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My 12 Secrets to a Happy Life

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Letting Go of the Past

letting go of the pastThe past is a constant companion in life, it is always there, reminding, motivating or even taunting us. The ghosts of things done, actions taken or not taken that have made up our lives. Reflection on these things allows a person to choose to be swallowed by the past, never able to move forward or to release the past and continue with new experiences. There is a continual connection between you and your past. Hopefully, by visiting the ghosts of your past will allow you to put them behind you and move forward into the best version of yourself. Letting go of the past will definitely set you free. These are some of my trips to the past that have haunted me on my journey that I need to put to rest once and for all.

Acceptance

Acceptance is the Opposite of Judgment
Acceptance means that you are doing the best that you can with what you have

Many of my difficulties in life have come from a lack of acceptance. Whether it was not accepting someone else’s behavior, my circumstances or just the way events have played out. My lack of acceptance has and always will lead to difficulties. Acceptance is the opposite of judgment, the positive side to that negative coin.

Moving Past the Judgment

2664d0e2789d58be9784c145b6b47963It is in our nature to judge others, we do it naturally, judging someone else’s behavior, actions, motives or past. It is a biological need to do this because it will help protect you from harmful situations and people and of course this is important to your survival.

It really jumps out at you when you observe people being judgmental about the behavior of others. It seems that today the judgments of others are high and the reactions to others are based on  blind judgment and hate, it stands out and makes you wonder why it is that way. When you judge someone else in this manner you define yourself, not them. I think it is important to remember this.

My Character

 Character Strengths Evaluation

Awhile ago I took a  quiz online that would reveal my strengths and characterweaknesses.   It was called the VIA Character Strengths profile test.

Be prepared,  it is a rather lengthy test, this post is about the results I got from taking the test.

I enjoy doing creative things because most often they reveal a lot about yourself. I am going to show you what they said were my strengths and then give my opinion on their validity and value because that’s what I do.

The Gift of Kindness

kindness-22744798One of the simplest gifts we can give to others is the gift of kindness. It cost no money to be kind, and it takes no talent, in fact, all you have to possess to practice kindness is a willing heart to undertake the action and be kind. There is probably not a better method for improving a person’s outlook on life than to treat them with a little kindness. All people deserve your kindness, and like most things in life, the more willingly this gift is given the more it is received. Be a giver of kindness today.

Giving

GivingTo give completely is one of the best things that you can do for your well-being. Giving completely means that you expect absolutely nothing in return. Whether it is money, love or kindness to give without expectation of a return will change your life more than anyone who receives something from you.  Think about the energy that you are giving today. Is it positive? Or is it something else?

Taking Action Today

thoughts and actionsOur lives are dictated by the actions we decide to take each and every moment. I will point out the key part of that sentence, they are things that YOU DECIDE to complete.  Taking actions, or lack thereof, create the reality of our lives and nothing will show the world more about one’s true character. Your consistent actions over time will more accurately describe your morals and character than anything else. Your actions tell the world what you want to be included in your life.

Behind

behind
All words have power, behind is no different. Are you behind? Or are you mistaken?

There is a power in the word behind. There are a lot of ways that this word can be positively applied to your life. You can put things behind you and move on unencumbered by the past. You can find some wonderful things that are hidden just behind something, the sun behind a cloud for example. Behind can be a false motivator pushing us forward in pursuit of our goals. Focus on the positive nature of the word behind and it can change your life for the better.

The Silence is Golden

silence
When you are still you can hear the words the silence has to offer

Is there anything quite as unique as silence? Look at your life and honestly count and evaluate the moments that you are experiencing absolute silence. To me, this is any time that you are completely devoid of any human created sound at all. No words, no machines, no music, no nothing but the natural sounds of the world. How many times during any given day does this happen? I can tell you that for me there are few moments of complete and utter silence in my life. There is a value in the silence, that if you get used to it will allow you to put your mind at rest and allow you to talk with your deeper self who often remains hidden behind the crowd of sounds we experience daily.

Your Words

words powerHow can a word affect the way you look at something or feel about something? I think that the right words can make all of the difference in everything from the power of your conversations to the value of your work to others. Words contain within them power and with that power, there is an opportunity to allow you to change the way others see the world, or even change the value of your own ideas. Choose your words wisely. 

Get Busy Living

If the average human lifespan was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?

824608195_6804595553_940581fe4e_xlargePerception has a lot to do with the way that we live.  We all walk through life with no real idea when the game is going to be over and our flame will be snuffed out.

I think that when you are young you don’t often think about death too much because in all likelihood you are going to have many years before that becomes relevant to you. Yet there is no way of knowing.

Lost and Found

find yourself“Not until we are lost, do we begin to find ourselves.”  ~Henry David Thoreau~ Find Yourself

Being lost can be a very scary situation. You have no idea where you are or where to go to find safety and security. Yet it is in these times when a person has to look inside themselves for characteristics that will guide them toward a safe haven. The qualities and talents that we possess are going to work to guide us in times of trouble. In fact, when the seas are calm and we know exactly where we are going there is no need for these talents to rise to the surface.

Life Lessons

“Forget what hurt you in the past, but never forget what it taught you.” ~unknown

forget_what_hurt_you-29022Painful experiences in life can affect you in several different ways. They can cling to you and invade everything that you do each day coloring your existence with doubt and questions about your self-worth and value. Some people and/or events have hurt us down to our core and it seems we may never get over it, but we need to in order to move on and be the productive people we were meant to become in life. There are valuable life lessons to learn here.

Thinking

Positive thoughtsThinking has been a theme for me continually. I seem to have a lot of thoughts, and I wonder what they actually mean. Are my thoughts designed to guide me? Or are they here to distract me? Sometimes I could believe either scenario. Do thoughts actually provide any concrete information or do they just arrive to distract you from accomplishment? Positive thoughts always contribute to your greater good.

Power of Positive Thinking

positive thinking One of the peculiar aspects of this human experience is that the content of our thoughts seem to dictate what happens in our lives. That is the power of positive thinking. The thoughts we have about ourselves and others determine how happy we are, how fulfilling our relationships are and how we affect all those we come in contact with. The thoughts we give our attention to will dictate our emotional outlook. Dwelling on the negative thoughts such as jealousy, envy, fear, or judgment will inject your life with negatives. Whereas focusing on positive thoughts of acceptance, kindness, understanding and love the result will be emotions and feelings that are positive. Our thoughts are a direct cause for our emotional state. We are in control of the thoughts we entertain at any moment, completely and without question. Your thoughts and attitude dictate the reality of your life. Positive thinking is a choice of which thoughts you focus on.

Resilience

resilience
We all have faced challenges and suffered at some point. What did you do with the experience?

Nobody would ever seek out experiences which are painful and cause suffering, but life often presents us with situations which are uncomfortable, difficult and out of our comfort zones. The great thing is that these situations bring with them a great opportunity for growth. It is through our resilience that people gain confidence, learn life lessons, and grow into a better version of yourself.  look for the opportunity that comes with each and every challenge that you face.

Begin Again

begin againToday forget your past, forgive yourself and begin again.

Each day brings with it a choice for you to decide how to live your life. Do you stay tied to the past that is gone?  Is it holding you in place and not allowing you to move forward? Do you blame yourself for mistakes that are done and over with, and can’t be changed no matter what you do? Do you stay stuck in a place of pain and misery?

No Solid Situation

Change Your LifeYour situation is never permanent. It’s what you make it. Life isn’t solid, it’s fluid. IT CHANGES. ~Change Your Life

Each day we are given a snapshot of life, a moment to inhale and then let go. These moments seem like they are painted in pictures or carved in granite, to be observed and enjoyed later at our leisure. This is fortunate because those we love, leave and these memories are all that is left us. Nothing in life is permanent.  These moments of quick reflection work to remind us of the past, but understand that growth will come only when you accept them as being over and move forward and that will change your life. We all carry a museum full of images and memories but they are not relevant and real today because we are changing, and our minds must change as well.

Taking Action

“Knowing is not enough, we must APPLY. Willing is not enough, we must do.” ~Bruce Lee

How many times in your life have you thought you had it all figured out? The secret to wealth, fame, and fortune was all yours and all you had to do was accept it. Yet somewhere we stop short of taking action on our dream, as we allow our potepersonal developmentntial to float away like a solitary red balloon floating away on a summer breeze. It fades slowly into the sky and leaves behind nothing but the smokey emptiness of what might have been. It is time that you took responsibility for your own life and what becomes of your dreams because without your choice to apply yourself and dedicate your complete being to making your future the place that you want to live in it most likely won’t happen. Personal development is all about taking concentrated, motivated actions toward your goals.