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Life is a Journey

Life is a continual array of experiences that lead us all to choices we make, actions we take, and the consequences which result, and then the cycle starts all over again. We face the challenges we are presented with by understanding and mastering the principles we build our lives on. Four factors determine how well we manage, react to, and even create the circumstances we experience in life. They are security, guidance, wisdom, and power. Each of these factors drives each of us positively or negatively. Each element drives us positively or negatively. If we are unaware of where we are on the continuum of understanding, there is an opportunity for someone or something else to make the choices for us.

You determine the center of your existence by choosing the principles or your truth. If you think honesty, kindness, caring, understanding, and love are the center of your life, you will react one way. If you let the negative opposites of those things dictate your behavior, then you will respond quite differently. We have the choice to act in either direction, and you are responsible for exactly which actions you choose, why, and the consequences of those decisions. YOu are responsible for yourself and others.

What is your Security?

How you value yourself will define the level of security you have in your existence. On the opposing end of the continuum, you will have no protection and live your life continually, seeking the approval of other people and organizations. On the healthy side, a person who operates from a base of security will be sure that the decisions they make represent the principles they stand for, regardless of what others think about it.

The value you bring to the world and your relationships is not questioned because you are secure in who you are. You are not ruled by your emotions but understand the messages they are bringing you. Each day is an opportunity to display your strength or lack thereof. Learning who we are and what we want to stand for and having the courage to live from this center principle allows our security to provide a positive force in our lives. Or you can live at the whims of others’ opinions of you. This choice will usually involve what is best for them, not you.

Guidance System

If you look at life like a map, display clearly what is happening in the world outside of yourself. The guidance you develop will make moment-by-moment decisions that will enable you to be your most productive and powerful. If you have poor advice, you will rely on society to provide your direction and even for others to make these choices for you. Robust guidance systems come from an inner compass that understands the principles you stand for and will continually make choices moving in that direction.

Again you will be held responsible for the circumstances that result from your choices in how you guide your life. Either you can move from the thoughts and ideas of others, or you can create your level of power and stick to that. Ensure your maps and understanding of the world are accurate if you are dealing with a faulty plan. You will not find the right places like a GPS set on the wrong coordinates. Moment by moment, decisions are made by our standards and principles. You are developing a powerful inner direction that provides unyielding guidance to where you want to go.

Current Level of Wisdom

If you are lucky, the lessons life brings will leave you with some wisdom to help guide you in the future. Your perspectives of life and how you understand it shows actions. Taking the learning from today and applying it to the challenges of tomorrow is the most significant definition and example of wisdom. You will embrace better abilities to judge situations and people and see the value. Comprehension of the factors we face personally, professionally, and in all areas of our life, being able to balance them and apply solutions across areas, is true wisdom.

The continuum of wisdom stretches from the weak area of dealing with an inaccurate map of reality, and all things seem distorted. Nothing seems to fit where it should be—to the other side, where strength exists, provided by a complete and accurate map of life where one sees all parts of their lives totally and adequately related to each other. Many fall somewhere in between the two. Take an honest look at your maps and the information they give you. Do you need to try harder at what you are doing, or do you need to focus some energy on clearing up your map? The answer will reveal where your current level of wisdom is at.

Peak Personal Power

Our power is based on our ability to act in any situation. The strength and potency we can accomplish a task with. This power comes from our energy level and allows us to make sound decisions and choices. Personal power enables an individual to evaluate hurdles inside themselves and outside of them. Creating and supporting a vision of what their life should be. When you see something you don’t like about your life, you can create a plan and take action to overcome deeply embedded habits that aren’t healthy for you.

The continuum of personal power spreads from the weak side where we feel immobilized or allow someone else to pull our strings, leaving us making another person’s wishes. On the healthy side, we operate at a high level with the power to act according to our values. Instead of being affected by other people and circumstances, we can make our own choices and take action. How powerful are you? With personal power comes responsibility for yourself and the plans you make, and the steps you take.

These four factors circle our center, and we can work to adjust our locations on each continuum. Being honest with ourselves and others about where we stand will allow us to create a more productive reality full of the things we desire to see. Being a compelling force in our lives and the lives of those we deal with daily. Evaluating and developing the highest level of security, guidance, wisdom, and personal power should be the goal of each day you live to get the most out of your life.

 

Security

All of the things we do every day are to find true safety and security. The relationships we build, the jobs we work, the friends we make, the places we go, everything we do is build this illusion of being safe and secure.  It is only an illusion.  No matter how hard we work to establish a life with no danger, we are all continually susceptible to suffering.  So, where do true safety and security come from?  It can never come from outside of you; it can only come from the inside of you. This is the only place it can exist and grow in any real way for any of us. The human experience is full of pitfalls and ugliness, along with the magic and beauty we can see every day. It is time you started looking at the things stopping you from seeing what is stopping you.  It is your limiting beliefs.

Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

Our beliefs have been formed over the experience of our lives. As young people, we look to our environment to see where we fit in and survive and thrive. We look at our role models and listen to the lessons we are taught.  We also are very good at feeling our way and where we fit.  When we find a situation causing pain or trauma, we create a limiting belief about it.  Pushing trauma away, hiding it inside of us, denying the suffering it causes and the pain you feel is creating a mess from your childhood that will affect you for the rest of your life until you make an effort to deal with your emotions around it.

The only way to overcome these childhood traumas is to learn to accept your pain. Whatever it was, no matter how big it was to you and your development, accept it. That doesn’t mean you approve of it, or like it, or forgive anyone for things they did. It simply means to accept it happened, you felt how you felt, it is over, you are still here.  Accepting it will take power away from that trauma, and you move past a hurdle of pain you have been carrying all of your life.  You will be able to move past it into a positive relationship, career, and life. Seems like a good deal to me.  Accept the experiences you have had in your life.

Building Real Security

Moving into a structure of real security inside yourself takes effort and conscious thought, but anyone can do it and become invincible.  First, be present at the moment at hand.  All we have is right now, don’t spend time waxing poetic about the past or worrying about the future.  Think about the future but don’t build an attachment to what has to happen.  Thinking of things you want to accomplish and taking organized steps toward these goals works. Obsessing and worrying about all the things you think can go wrong or must happen will not.

Accept yourself for the person you are. Just like you accept your past, you have to do the same with yourself. Wishing you were something or someone else is a slap in the face to you and the greatness you have.  Too many people look at their flaws and obsess about fixing what is wrong rather than looking at what is right and building on that solid and powerful foundation.  Successful people don’t deal from a place of lack, they work from abundance, and we all have abundance.  Open your heart to yourself and all that you have to offer.

Appreciate Life

Look at the world around you and celebrate what you see that is good.  There are always reminders of how great the universe is.  Sometimes we get so wrapped up with our own thinking we get run over by them.  Rather than appreciating the rain, we complain about it.  When it is sunny, we say it is too bright.  Look around you and see the wonder that is always right there. Feel a connection to it and celebrate it.  For example, you drive down the road and move past trees, lakes, birds flying, bright blue skies dotted with puffy white clouds, all pretty miraculous, but we don’t see them.  Appreciate it all, life is a short trip, and it will be over before you know it.  Don’t waste your time being self-centered and a prisoner of your thoughts.

Learning to have unconditional love for yourself and life all around you is one of the most difficult things to do.  We are constantly getting hurt, emotionally, physically, and spiritually leading to an almost constant healing process.  But as we heal, we learn, grow and become a different and most often better person.  Being yourself and giving that to the world is a true gift. Some people will break your trust and reject who you are. That is their problem, not yours.  You are one of a kind and incredible.  Be you, and don’t worry about being accepted by negative people with small minds and smaller conscious thought patterns.  Be the great you that you were destined to be!

Safety and security come through this path.  You can build huge walls around yourself, but they won’t keep you safe in the end. Only being yourself, being vulnerable, and accepting all of the things about yourself can bring security.  To do anything else is a definition of insecurity, and it is tough to be happy and healthy through a vision of insecurity.

Take action on your own vision.  Your emotions are a clue to what you need to work on. How you feel in certain situations will lead you to the issues in you that need acceptance and a place inside you so that you can move past them into the best version of yourself.

  1. “Absorb what is useful, Discard what is not, Add what is uniquely your own.” — Bruce Lee.
  2. “Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” — Viktor Frankl.
  3. “Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” — George Bernard Shaw.
  4. “The only journey is the journey within.” — Rainer Maria Rilke
  5. “They must often change who would be constant in happiness or wisdom.” – Confucius
  6. “We must become the change we want to see.” — Mahatma Gandhi
  7. “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.” — Will Durant
  8. “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  9. “What we think, we become.” – Buddha
  10. “Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” — Napoleon Hill.