Seeking Yourself

It’s Tough To Find Quiet Today

Seek Moments of Solitude
No Man is an Island

by Jonathan Hilton Day 65

As our society has evolved to produce more and more entertainment for people to enjoy, the moments available for actual individual, creative thought have become few and far between.

I know that personally, there were times where I was entertained during every moment of my free time.  It was common to turn the television on  immediately when I got home to add noise to a quiet house, to having music playing all night long to, “help me sleep”, it was a non-stop bombardment of my senses that was actually distracting me from engaging in any original thought at all.

When you look at how our young people choose to live life, it is even worse, between Ipods, computers, video games and television, there is very little left for the imagination to do for them.  They are living an amusement park ride of the senses, allowing for outside influences to supply the entertainment, not developing their individual thoughts or imagination.  This is not everybody, but a large portion of the youth today.


Finding Your Thoughts In The Quiet

time for solitude

Solitude is not a dirty word.  As we are developing as people, it seems like you are constantly judged by how many friends you have and that if you are ever by yourself then you must have a problem.

That is not true, what you need to develop is an ability to be by yourself and to use that time not as a sign of social dissatisfaction, but to use it as a time to develop your individual creativity and thoughts.

It is in this time alone that you will be able to find your original thoughts and understand the many experiences that you have.  If you find a quiet time without any distraction and allow your mind to work unfettered by any outside influence, you will experience original thoughts, no matter how intelligent you feel you are.

You will find your own thoughts in the quiet times.  You will be surprised what you will be able to create and understand in that time all by yourself.  You will find many of the things that you are passionate about as well as being able to glean wisdom and understanding from the experiences you have had throughout your life.  You will also start to really notice all of the rich details in the things around you that previously you were oblivious to.

Knowing Yourself is The Ultimate Reward For Solitude

Probably the best thing that finding a little solitude will give you is a much deeper understanding of yourself.  What makes you happy?  What makes you sad? You will find the things that make you smile, and the things that break your heart.

There are many things that people like to do with others and you need to have contact with many people to be a well rounded individual.  But I also think that it is important to find moments of pure solitude so that you understand what parts of yourself you have to offer to others.

So challenge yourself to find some moments of solitude, and to think original thoughts that are yours and yours alone.  All of those in your life will appreciate you and your unique thoughts more than you can imagine.  Give it a try.

Quotes on Solitude:

“Solitude is as needful to the imagination as society is wholesome for the character.” ~James Russell Lowell

” Arranging a bowl of flowers in the morning can give a sense of quiet in a quiet in a crowded day—-like writing a poem or saying a prayer.  What matters is that one be for a time inwardly attentive.” ~ Anne Morrow Lindbergh

“Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself and know that everything in this life has a purpose.” ~Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

“In solitude we give passionate attention to our lives, to our memories, to the details around us.” ~ Virginia Woolf

‘In meditation it is possible to dive deeper into the mind to a place where there is no disturbance and there is absolute solitude.  It is at this point in the profound stillness that the sound of the mind can be heard.” ~A.E.I. Falconar

“O Solitude, the soul’s best friend, That man acquainted with himself dost make.” ~Charles Cotton

“Solitude is the nurse of enthusiasm, and enthusiasm is the true parent of genius.” ~ Isaac D’Israeli

“One of the pleasantest things in the world is going on a journey; but I like to go by myself.” ~William Hazlitt

“I am sure of this, that by going much alone a man will get more of a noble courage in thought and word than from all the wisdom that is in books.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

5 thoughts on “Seeking Yourself”

  1. Jon,
    I agree 100%. My life has improved so much since I disconnected my cable and made it a priority to meditate at least 30 minutes everyday. I get so much insight and understanding just being with my breath.
    I was talking to some parents the other day, and they wanted to buy season passes to the amusement parks for the summer. I was thinking that I’m just going to take my boys to a secluded beach or forest. {{{hugs}}} Kozo

  2. “if you are ever by yourself then you must have a problem.” I used to think that for a long time. Being alone can be so peaceful. You have time to collect your thoughts, and put them in order.

    1. The older I get the more valuable alone time is, and the more I enjoy the company of others. All of the thought and experience in the world are not worth anything if you don’t have someone to share it with. Life should be a bit of time to yourself and time with others, all things in as much of a balance as you can have.

  3. If you’ve never been alone, how can you know who you are? If you’ve never sat in silence and let your mind think unencumbered by outside stimuli how can you know what thoughts are truly yours?
    I have two follow up thoughts on that. First – maybe the hermits have the right of it after all. Second – if you’ve seen the movie Into the Wild (and read the book, of course) at the end he comes to the realization that true happiness has to be shared.
    So, it’s important to do what is needed for self discovery, but it is also important that you have people around to share in those discoveries with afterwards.

      It should be no shock to me that you would reference a movie that I really like and that has helped me on my journey. I wrote this awhile ago, but your point resonates. There are times when it is definitely good to be alone but without the companionship of others you miss out on a lot of things. Humor, friendship, kindness, the ability to give and to receive. Thanks Matt for the great comment, it is always so great to hear from you. 🙂

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