Research indicates that in many cases when people are feeling physical pain, general malaise and chronic weariness the cause can be linked to unexpressed emotion. As a society, and especially as men, we are not taught how to properly express our feelings or even to notice the message they are trying to send us.
Why is Worry A Waste of Time?
It is difficult to stop worrying. When you really look at what you are thinking, much of it is based on untamed thoughts based on fear. Most worries are about things that are never going to happen.
But yet we worry on. The healthiest people seem to have a built in mechanism that allows them to release these thoughts before they settle into their brain and create another wrinkle or make one ill, because in the end, that is all that worry will ever do for you.
What can you do today that you were not capable of a few years ago?
When I think back to where exactly I was 365 days ago, it never ceases to amaze me the jagged artwork that change has woven into the tapestry of my life. Each seemingly unconnected event has worked to put me exactly where I am supposed to be.
Many philosophies support the idea of a preconceived plan for everyone. I am not sure about that yet, but sometimes it seems like things fall into place in ways that you would never believe. So here are some of the things that I can do today that I was not capable of a few years ago.
Read William George Jordan and Be A Better Person
One of my favorite authors is William George Jordan. The reason for this is that his thoughts on many topics clearly resonate with me on so many levels. If you are wondering if you are doing the right thing or moving along the right path, pick up a book by W.G. Jordan and you will understand more about it than you may have wanted to. Here is a short list of topics he has helped clear up for me.
There is little in life as frustrating as change. It comes along in life whether we want it or not and forces us to do something other than what we have been doing, whether we are ready to stop doing it or not.
Most people if not all people have at least a passing disdain for change and I think there are good reasons for this, yet I think we also all are well aware that change provides positives we need. How to deal with this mystery of inevitable and painful movement from one phase of life to another? That is the inevitable question.
What Road Are You Traveling?
All of us are duplicitous by nature. There is the person we allow the world to see and then there is the one we keep hidden and to ourselves. All people live in this duality and for many, it causes a constant struggle. Two paths are presented to us. One is the high road and the other is the low and they are based on the moral decisions that we make each moment of every day.
Seeking Inner Peace
There are so many ways to improve your outlook on life that it is virtually
impossible for me to list them all here for you, but in general, there are a few simple tips I can give you that have made my own personal enjoyment of life increase exponentially.
These are not extremely difficult things to do, solving advanced math problems or rocket science is difficult, finding peace should be simple.
It just requires you to honestly look at yourself and the situations that affect how you feel and making the choice to let events enhance your life not harm it.
Forgiveness has been a difficult thing for me. Realizing that learning to forgive is one of the most important lessons a person can learn. I am constantly analyzing why I have difficulty letting some things go and moving forward.
For most people who I carried low expectations, forgiveness comes easier. We are all learning the lessons of life. It is when someone who I expect more from fails me, I find it extremely difficult to forgive.
From the time we are young, those figures in our lives responsible for molding our behavior seemed determined to limit us in some way.
Many of the limits were common sense, “don’t play in the traffic”, or “don’t jump your bike off that ten-foot ramp!” These warnings were clearly to keep us safe and maintain our well-being, but there were many warnings that have limited our existence. These did not have the same intent. We were told not to try one thing or another because the pain we might suffer if we failed. As we started to create our image of ourselves, we were immediately placed within the boundaries of fear.
Today Is The Thing
Some live their life grasping with a focus completely on the past, hoping to find out their identity yet ending up with a hand that contains nothing but regrets about what the past has provided.
Today, this moment is all there is for you and the more you branch out your attention from that, the less opportunity there is for enjoying the here and now. Keeping your focus on the task that you are working on will allow you to enjoy life.
What gets you excited about life?
Every person no matter what they do has to find things that get him excited about life. They do not have to be complicated or expensive things. They simply get you going and allow you to feel happy about just living on the face of the Earth every day.
I would never presume to speak for anyone but myself but here are the things that I enjoy and make my existence a much more enjoyable experience.
Life is a wonderful thing. It is destined to surprise you and lead you to places that you anticipated. I believe much of the enjoyment of life comes directly from inside of you and how you perceive the people you meet and the experiences you have.
Sometimes early in the journey of life, you may find life a confusing jumble of mixed messages and emotions. Even the greatest adventurer or psychic would struggle to smooth out the details and work through the challenges faced. Nobody ever said that the life would be easy, but in the end, it has the potential to be the most rewarding journey imaginable.
Masks of Life
It doesn’t matter who you are, where you live or how much you have, you have spent a significant part of your life creating and wearing masks to hide your true identity. Real masks that have become convenient in hiding our true identity in social situations. They bring us power, acceptance or even can allow us to survive. Unfortunately, once used, they become quite permanent.
What is a Soul Mate?
Soul Mate- a person ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner.
In this context I am not sure how anyone could argue against the concept. We all have these people in our lives who are uniquely qualified to be a lover or friend over another person. They provide a unique understanding of the place that you come from and help you understand not only what your journey was about but that you are still OK after taking it.
There are days that you remember because they have a long lasting effect on your life. I certainly have many of these. There are days that serve to remind me of those moments. When my life changed so dramatically that it could never be the same again.
What had been my life was over and what was coming next was unknown and unpredictable. The experience I identified as my life was shattered into a million pieces and no matter how they were put back together they would never be the same, they would never fit snugly.
There are few things more invasive in all of our lives today than the electronic tethers and ties that are continually connecting us to the world. Are we really in need of connection?
Kindness makes the world a better place. Nobody can argue with that
sentiment. The great thing is that all people have the ability to practice being kind each and every moment, 24 hours a day, seven days a week. It doesn’t cost anything and the result is always positive. Why then are so many people not kind?
It is probably due to a focus that is spent on the wrong things but we can always change our focus towards the experience of kindness. People always enjoy receiving kindness from others because it feels good. Performing kind acts for others is just as gratifying. Kindness is free and is extremely contagious. Try spreading some around today.
One of the great experiences I have been able to have is to be able to write a lot os great things at my favorite coffee shop, and one of the perks (no pun intended) has been to become friends with the people who work so hard to keep my coffee hot and flowing as I worked my way through many different writing projects. These people don’t know it but their conversations with me provide a lot of writing topics. One of the most common
themes that they discuss is love.
Living life provides a great classroom for learning. It would be easier if we had a manual at the beginning giving clear and unquestionable instructions on how to proceed in life.
Each situation would be so easy to deal with as we navigated our way along our path of life. If we could only tell which bridges were safe to cross, and which ones we should burn and never cross.
I have found this one fact pervasive throughout my life, EVERYTHING we do matters when it comes to our happiness and enjoyment of life.
Every decision that you make throughout every day of you life is a contributor to the essence of your existence. Each decision you make to support someone or to knock someone down will be reflected in your own experience.here are clues everywhere, and you might be able to figure it out, but it would have been so much easier if someone had just sat me down and told me the way things worked. This piece is designed for this, if it informs one person, if it makes one mind think, then it is definitely worth it.