Daily Positive Thought Project:  Stop Lying to Yourself

It is often easy to look at our relationships, both personal and business and have feelings which are not so positive. In these, situations it can be easy to tell yourself little lies about things that will allow you to get through the day.

You can make excuses for someone else’s behavior, in order to make yourself feel better but in truth, you are lying to yourself.  There are a right and a wrong way to treat people. We can treat people with honesty and sincerity or we don’t.  That choice defines who we are as people.

When you are in a situation it can be difficult to be objective, when that is exactly what we need to have. So my advice is to take a step back and write down without emotion exactly what is happening, action by action. Are people telling you the truth? Are they telling you one thing, then acting another?  Are they being judgmental? Are you happy with the way things are going? Why not?

Making this objective list allows you to take the emotions out of it and then the challenge is to think about what advice you would be giving someone else in that situation. Then try to follow that advice.  It will not be easy because the emotions will inevitably creep back in.

Try to remember that you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect in all situations.  If you are not being treated that way then you should consider making changes in the treatment that you accept from others.

“Just be honest with yourself. That opens the door.”—-Vernon Howard