Weakness Watch

Self Evaluation Searching for Biggest Weakness

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Do Not Be Afraid To Try To Be A Better Person!

How often do you look at yourself and truly evaluate the greatest weakness? The honesty and emotions that are raised by this sort of inquiry are not dismissed lightly. I recently searched my life to identify my biggest weakness.

Now there are probably many that people who know me would think of, and some who don’t know me could come up with a lot more.  I never claimed to be perfect, but when it comes down to my absolute biggest weakness, it is the fact that I have cared way too much about what other people thought about me. 

Wish I knew

What do you wish you spent more time doing Ten years ago?

Five years ago, life was very different.
Five years ago, life was very different.

Ten years brings many changes to life, I have changed jobs a few times, moved to new locations, and changed my entire outlook on life.

Looking back,  it is kind of amazing that so many experiences came to me in the short period of a few years.

Now, like most people looking through the lens of experience, there are many things I wish that I had been doing earlier in my life. But all is a process and you have to follow them step by step. What seems like wasted time is really time to learn.  A few of these lessons follow.

Creating Space for Possibility

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quote-Jonathan-Sacks-make-space-in-your-life-for-the-213035Change is an inevitable and vital part of life. Change is happening to everyone each day. Some of the differences are so imperceptible as to be invisible but they are there none the less. It is human nature to hold tightly to the past and the things we are comfortable with, like a child with a blanket, these ideas, and possessions present a form of comfort, even if they no longer serve us in any meaningful way.

Embrace The Unknown

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Be grateful for What is Currently Unknown

All of us have a deep desire inside to know what is going to happen next.  Where are we going? What is the next step? What should I do now?

Sometimes it seems like it would be much easier if our lives were scripted in a book that we could read before hand, like a play.  Follow the script and you will eventually come to your happy ending and everything will be alright.  A happy ending for all situations.  That is just not the way that life works and I, for one, am grateful for it. Face the new experiences of life and bravely embrace the unknown. You really don’t have any other choice.

What is Normal?

no-normalThere is no such thing as normal.  Normal is a word that will bring a different vision to everyone’s mind, but to me each vision is biased by the experiences of the thinker.  My normal may seem ludicrous to you and what you do each day as a matter of life, may seem out of this world. The point to me is that there is no need to appoint a value of “normal” to anybody or anybody’s life.

What If?

What If?

what-ifThere are questions we ask ourselves all of our lives that can haunt us if we let them. What if that decision was wrong? What if I shouldn’t have done that? What if I had tried out for the chess team in high school? What if I said yes?

There are a million of these questions that you can consume your time with, but they don’t add up to anything in the end because the fact is whatever you are “what if-ing” about didn’t happen, will never happen and so should concern you about as much as what the weather was in Borneo in the year 1656.

Gratitude and Appreciation

gratitude-logoOne of the simple things in life that we all know we should do is practice gratitude for the things we have in our lives that bring happiness.

It is easy to look at the struggles and challenges of life and forget to see all of the things that make each day a positive experience.  One of the best practices is to set aside a time of day to look at the past day and decide what it is that you are grateful for.

Appreciate The Flip Side

the flip side of lifeOnce I looked at life and only wanted the good things in my experience.  I think everyone would feel the same way, no sadness, no loss or grief, just happy things that are easy to deal with, yet we all know that life is not going to come as easily as that.  We all must go through some difficult times and I think that is OK because you will never appreciate the good in life unless there is the opposite aspect to compare it to. There is always a flip side.

Books to Grow Your Mind

There is nothing that has allowed me to grow and understand life on a new level more than the books I read. They are a portal into knowledge and understanding that I can only hope to comprehend adequately. I know that my personal growth has stemmed directly from my experience with books and I wanted to share a few of the most recently read that I can highly recommend to all interested parties.

Do You Really Think So?

thouths matterAre you aware that everything we think and do matters?  This is not something that I knew all my life and it is a concept that I think everyone should contemplate at least a little each day.  When you are looking at your life experiences and wondering why you are where you are, look back at your thoughts, choices, and actions of the past and there will be a direct connection to the path that you are on right now.

When you are looking at your life experiences and wondering why you are where you are, look back at your thoughts, choices, and actions of the past and there will be a direct connection to the path that you are on right now.

Your Greatness

What I would change about the World

If there was one thing that I could change about the world it would be to

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Messages people receive every day

remove the thought, “I’m not good enough” , from the thought process of everyone in the world.

This single thought has managed to cause more damage than any other in the history of mankind and if people are honest, every person has entertained this thought at one time or another.

Inspiration

What inspires YOU?

Inspiration can be hard to find. Sometimes writing is as easy to create.  Much like a raindrop falling to the Earth, the 181129216233675879_jrZJ8Ysk_cwords seem to have no choice but to be written. There is little struggle and those are the topics, projects, articles and posts that make publishing your thoughts fun and exciting!

Unfortunately, there are going to be some days where finding the words is like driving down the road and having it turn into a dead-end right in front of your eyes. You begin with a promising thought but it quickly plays out and you have no choice but to turn your mind around and start over again.

Avoid the Negative Noise

Keeping it All Positive

challengesNo matter how confident and successful you are, life has a way of throwing challenges your way that will push you to make decisions every day which redefines who you are.  In everyone’s life, there are going to be events that force a constant expression of this experience.

In the end, even after facing a challenge I like to think that we have become a more galvanized feeling of who we are, and we hold on to beliefs with a more critical and realistic passion.

GO FOR IT

All the possibilities in the world are open to you today. There are dreams to pursue and make come true. Go for it!

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I have encountered  a lot of people who spend their time loudly and definitively  telling themselves and all who will listen,  why someone should not be attempting to chase a dream. Why they shouldn’t follow their innermost desire or pursue a goal that seems to be an integral part of themselves and their destiny.

Look At The Time

Time is On Your Side, Even if it doesn’t Seem It

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We should all find activities in life that cause us to lose track of time and more importantly to not worry about what you “should” be doing with those precious moments.

 In our daily lives, we are controlled by the clock.  From the time we have to go to work to the time we are allowed to eat and the time we are able to rejoin the freedom of life yet again.  Time can be an all-controlling factor if you let it, but it does not have to be. You can live your life on your own time.

Life’s Tough Lessons

The Hard Game of Life

Life is a hard game sometimes.  No matter what you do, or how you try to find the gentler 8235367099_8230f69c0cside of life, the easier the hard times seem to seek you out.  When I look at people who are in their late teens and early twenties today, I have a hard time not telling them to be careful. There are some dark times in every life. Don’t worry too much though because they will bring you a lesson that will help you learn a valuable lesson. DO NOT BE AFRAID!

Right Where You Belong

Enjoy the Ride

right wh. shoudl beFrom the time I was very young, I have always been in a hurry to get to the next destination.  I remember being a kid and just aching for the time when I would be older and be able to do whatever older kids got to do.

This is a pattern that came up a lot in my life and I am sure in your life too.  I can’t wait until this happens or that happens and then I will be able to do this or have that.

Winds of Change

winds of changeThe most powerful constant in life is the experience of change. We try to ignore it, and if things are going well we resist change, but inevitably and continually change is occurring all the time and how we deal with the changes that we face will define our life experience.  Change doesn’t have to provide a painful experience, it is our attachments to what is that causes the pain.  By Allowing changes to enter our lives rather than fight against them will determine your happiness.

Seeking Ralph Waldo Emerson

The great thing about books is that they provide ideas for thought that are new to you. Like planting a seed in the ground, your own thoughts can grow from the ideas of someone else and today I am grateful for the many thoughts I have read from the great Ralph Waldo Emerson.  When I read the words RWE has written, they always spark a new light of thought. Of Course, it would be unrealistic to share a million thoughts but here are a few favorites and the seeds they have cultivated in my mind.

Working For A Living

Would you rather have less work or more work you actually enjoy doing?

dream-more-work-lessIn my life, there has always been a peculiar relationship with work. There were years where I immersed myself in it and built much of my own identity around what I did for a job.

 This is comforting because it is socially acceptable and it provides you with a sense of accomplishment.  Yet in the end, this sense of accomplishment is really a facade.