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What I Like About People

What is the most desirable trait another person can possess?

What_I_Like_About_You_title_cardI think it is impossible to pick one trait another person can possess. So many factors contribute to a personality and allow you to get to know someone in a real and genuine way. So many people I have met don’t show you their true selves anyway because you would stay far away if they did.

 To narrow the multitude of traits to one would be much too difficult to do in the short time I have to write this to give five traits I think are desirable in others.  I could probably come up with twenty without working too hard, but the list of five will have to do. I am sure they are easy to find.

Be  Positive Or Go Home

Many people spend so much time worrying about the things they don’t have that they miss out on all of the great things right in front of them. The great thing 05d3a5f9a3a2203c98679a3a91b88b66is that this behavior is all choice.

 It is raining out.  One person complains incessantly and lets it ruin their day and everyone around them.  The other looks at it as a great opportunity to wear that colorful raincoat and those new rain boots.

 Being positive is a state of mind, and the negative person is always a chore to spend time with.  Being with a positive person makes the time fly by because it is enjoyable no matter what happens.

 Life is only going to give you a finite collection of experiences, and it is your decision if you want not to enjoy them.  I prefer to enjoy each of them to the best of my ability, and positive people make that happen. So you really have to choose your company well. If someone does not see the positive, think about finding someone who will.

Honesty Is The Best Policy

There are few people in the world that you can trust to be honest about important things. That doesn’t mean little white lies should always be frowned on because Honesty 22sometimes people don’t need to know your opinion. However, open and honest communication must build any type of relationship, romantic or friendship.

 The big things have to be dealt with honestly.  From your hopes and dreams to financial matters, honesty is not only the best policy but the only policy I think leads to long-term success in building a relationship that will last longer than a short six months.

Just because you haven’t been “caught” in a lie, once you lie, the relationship changes; usually, you are lying because you are hiding something. Whatever that is. Something you did or something about yourself: dishonesty is a hurtful, painful thing to impose on someone you theoretically care about.

 Once you start hiding things from someone you love, the list of things you are hiding will continue to grow.  Soon you won’t be able to remember which things you should be hiding.

When the truth comes out, and it will eventually, no explanation can work. So always be honest, stop doing things that you would have to lie about, and be much happier. But, more importantly, so will all the people in your life.

Laughing with Me Not At Me

222333Being able to laugh at life and, more specifically, at my sense of humor is one trait I look for. In addition, I enjoy laughing and sharing a laugh with someone else.

There is no way you can do that with someone sober in thought all the time.  Laughter is the best medicine for almost any problem.

 Some believe that laughter can lower your blood pressure and help you lose weight.  All I know is that laughter makes you happy and makes you feel good. Have you ever been mad when you have laughed uncontrollably? Of course not.  There is nothing to do but appreciate the humor of the situation.

 There are only so many moments in life, and it seems like we shouldn’t waste the funny ones spending time with people who have little to no sense of humor. Or spend too much time worrying about themselves to see the joy in many moments. So I don’t judge them, I prefer to leave them sitting in a quiet, dark house, and I will enjoy the laughter that comes naturally with life.

The Smart Choice

beauty-9Intelligence is another trait that I look for in others.  I do not know where I would rate myself on the scale of intelligence, but I know that I value the brains and want to spend time with these people. The intellect of the company you keep will determine how much you can gain from those interactions. Intelligence is one of the most attractive qualities I have seen in a woman. The ability to think, theorize, teach, and grow is the ultimate in individualism.

 Perhaps I hope it will rub off on me, but I know that intellect and intelligence are desirable.  There is something about a smart woman that makes my knees go weak.  I am not sure if intelligence is that way for everyone, but it is definitely for me.  There is always time for silliness in life, but also there is a time for serious discussion and thought. It is nice to have someone around who can share competently in both.

I could probably list many more traits like kind, caring, loving, punctual, accepting, tough, athletic, talented,  and that is without much thought. The fact of the matter is that there are many great people in the world, and they all have a unique set of traits that make them special, and I appreciate them all. But that still leaves the question for you:

What is the most desirable trait another person can possess?

One other trait must appreciate Dire Straits…

 

The End of The World

If you knew the world was ending tomorrow, who would you make sure you visited today?

end of the world
The Mayans thought it was going to happen in 2012, yet here we are!

by Jonathan Hilton  Day 54

Knowing the world would end tomorrow would make me want to see a lot of people today, for a number of reasons, but I think that this question is good motivation to look at how we value people and how we let relationships drift away into indifference for a multitude of reasons.

So I am going to split the people into categories and explain the reasons for each.  One thing is for sure it would be one busy day.

Family First

First of course there would be family that I would want to see, so that I could make sure that they were ready for the impending destruction.  I would want to say thank you for all that you did in my life and that I am very grateful for the kindness and that I love them all very much, ask if there was anything I could do for them on that last day.

Each relationship in that familial web is important and I would hope that I could get to them all.  I know how much I miss the ones that are gone already, they are with me every day and I am not sure about what would happen if the world ended, but as long as I was able I would be carrying them with me.

Forgiveness
I have a clear conscience in this area

Friendship Is Important

Second I would want to visit all of the friends that I have met over the years to say good bye and reminisce about good times shared, and all of the funny memories we had, so that I could tell them how much I appreciated spending some time on this journey with them.

There are many friends from all of the different phases of my life and I guess I would have to use Skype to talk with some of them, but if I could I would talk to them.

The people I grew up with are as dear to me today as anyone, because there is a shared experience of childhood that could not be faked or manipulated.  We knew each other, both the good and the bad, and there was a support and caring there that still exists today.  My high school friends shared a different time with me, but still significant.  The ties you make as a youth are strong even if you don’t see each other on a regular basis.  They don’t break easy.

I went to two different colleges and there are two distinct groups of friends there but they are the people that I really grew up finally with and started to learn about the world.   I have nothing but smiles and great times to share just one more time before the world ends.

Then of course as an adult, there were a lot of people I met through the jobs I have had, but not a lot of them were friends, they were coworkers for the most part.  These “friendships” were clearly only for a short time and they did teach me something, but it is the past where I have found my true friends.

This One Goes Out To You

Next I would find the three people who I was ever in love with in my life.  It might be awkward because I haven’t seen any of them in years.  but I would want to tell each of them that regardless of my actions, I take responsibility for them.  They had an impact

peaceful lake
A nice peaceful place for the end of the world

on me and I have carried it with me for my entire life.  Not the bad things but the good times the memories that made me a better person. They still are making me better today.  I am grateful that we shared whatever we shared.

Forgive Everyone

Time is getting short so I would want to at least call some people I feel like there are unresolved issues with.  To tell them that I forgive them and am sorry for my part in any pain they experienced.

Life is full situations that provide you with a choice, I made some that were universally good and some that might be construed as bad for everyone.  Whenever the end does come these petty things are not going to be on my mind. I send best wishes to those who are angry and hope they find happiness before their ending.  I forgive them for anything they did to me.

Finally

That being done, if I had any time left I would go to a spot that was special to me, there are several and await the end of the world with anticipation, and not be afraid in the least bit. What good would that do? The world is ending and there isn’t anything you can do about it, might as well enjoy the spectacle.

Is there any other song appropriate for this post?

Dream A Little Dream

What does ‘The American Dream’ mean to you?

by Jonathan Hilton

dream-quotesDreaming is one of the powers of the human mind. There are all sorts of dreams, day dreams which distract from doing our work, and then sweet dreams which occur at night to portray worlds, people and situations we may never see any other place.

There are nightmares that bring our deepest, darkest fears to our experience.  The American Dream is a phrase that has symbolized many things to many people. To me it means that anything is possible if a person is free they can do anything they set out to do.

The words themselves have been so diluted by politicians and media brain washers that they have been stripped of much of their beauty.  Yet I believe it doesn’t have to be so, dreams still matter and here is why.

No Dreams, No Direction

When we are young we are encouraged to dream as big as we like. Reach for the stars, don’t worry that it will take a lot of work, or that it may not happen.  Kids are encouraged walt dreamto dream that all things are possible.  That is one of the reasons I think people are perpetually drawn back to their youth, dreams were not only encouraged but there were a multitude of them.

Somewhere along the path of life, that freedom to dream is kicked to the back seat of our minds. It becomes more about the common sense of a situation that becomes important. Find a career that you can survive at, forget those crazy dreams.

 So we do, for college, career, and family we forget what it is that we dreamed about so that we can chase what makes sense to others.  The problem is that without a dream you are left like a rudderless ship, wondering if you could control your direction where would you actually go?  Without a dream there is no compass on your actions and worst of all, you will find it difficult to be happy.

Never to Late To Dream Big

The good news is that it is never too late to start to remember your dreams.  Think back to never let gowhat you used to think of when you were young.  It doesn’t have to be well thought out or make a lot of sense, it has to light the fire of your mind.  The bigger the better.  Life can sometimes be hard and it is difficult. At these moments it is only our dreams that sustain us.

If you have dreamed of living on a tropical island, writing a novel, developing a cure for cancer or traveling across the country. It makes no difference how big the dream, the bigger the better.  Dream it and then start the action steps that will help you make it a reality.

Not all dreams will come true, but they will always lead you toward a greater existence.  It will also make the ride a lot more interesting as you reach to achieve all your dreams .

You Are Not Crazy to Dream

Never fear there will be an auditorium full of people who will want to discourage you and tell you that the dream you are following will never happen.  The choice is to listen and tumblr_llbl4gzwj91qk44ulo1_5001never try to accomplish something you desire, or to ignore them and move forward at all costs.

Remember the people who are telling you that you are crazy to try, are more than likely too scared to follow their own dreams and what if you accomplish your dream? What will that say about their lives?  Do not listen to those who are negative about your dreams and aspirations because nobody has any idea of what will happen in the future if you try your best.  We all know what will happen if you give up, NOTHING!

There are millions of people in the world who settle for mediocrity, and listen to critics. Don’t listen to them, your greatness is far more important than fitting in or listening to fools.

Back to the American Dream

One of the reasons I think that the American Dream has lost its meaning is that it seems

The American Dream can include anything YOU want!
The American Dream can include anything YOU want!

like the dream has been narrowed down quite a bit.  I think all kids are groomed in education to go to school so that they can get a career and grow up to become good consumers.

 They should buy a house, fill it full of stuff and raise children who in their turn will grow up to be consumers, and so on, and so on.   What if you dreamed of something else?  That is what the American Dream means to me. The right to dream of a life and accomplishments that are yours alone and may not fit into the narrow ideas produced en masse from corporate offices.

Hold on to your dreams and become the best that you can be!

What does ‘The American Dream’ mean to you?

When you dream it might come true, When you dream, DREAM BIG!