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How to Use Your Space

You Create Space Where Things are Created

quote-Jonathan-Sacks-make-space-in-your-life-for-the-213035Change is an inevitable and vital part of life. Change is happening to everyone each day. Some of the differences are imperceptible as to be invisible, but they are their none the less. It is human nature to hold tightly to the past and the things we are comfortable with, like a child with a blanket. These ideas and possessions present a form of comfort, even if they no longer serve us in any meaningful way.

We each have a certain amount of space in our lives for the people and possessions that matter most to us.   Space in our lives is an important entity. There is only so much in our consciousness, and for new things to come into our lives, we must let go of some older things. To be healthy, all people must grow, and space helps us evolve into a better version of ourselves.

Cleaning Out The Closet

616245989833236_a-c5911e68_0MWQUg_pmCreating space in your life is the same as creating space in a closet. Your life has collected experiences, thoughts, and ideas about everything from the designated hitter’s value in baseball to where honesty fits into your life. As we develop as people, the number of items we collect can become bulky and hard to handle. Our “closets” are getting full, and it is time to weed out our thoughts and find the ones that will provide the most value in your life.

As you look at the new thoughts and information coming into your existence through a change, you can remove older ideas and ideas that are simply taking up space. Some clothes once were relevant in your closets at home, which are not of value anymore. Finally, giving them away to charity and getting them out of your life creates space for new things that will have relevance in your world today.

The same can be said about thoughts, ideas, and beliefs we carry throughout our lives. How many are ready to be recycled? What new ideas and experiences can take their place?

Growth is the Result

The benefit of letting go of the old and creating space for the new is the unstoppable force of growth that will come with it. I have found that growth is a constant journey in my life, and at times, when we slow down and resist growing, life will urge us on. Sometimes that guidance will come in the form of a challenge, creating space, 222which, as unsavory as it seems, moves us toward becoming a better self. We will change anyway, get older, wiser, or become less intelligent and accepting of things. It is up to us what types of change we institute in our lives. Creating space allows new things and people to come into our lives more easily.

Letting Go of Mistakes and Misfortune

This also means that the more we hold onto the past’s mistakes and misfortunes, the less space we have available for forgiveness, learning, and all kinds of positive new things. If you are still holding onto the pain and disappointment of a past relationship, the less room there is for someone new who can bring some healing, joy, and happiness into your life. You will cling to old emotions and disappointments while new possibilities move past you because there is no space for them to enter your life. Make the space.

If you feel crowded and slow in your life and desire new things, a great place to start is to let go of the past and allow the latest to come into the spaces you created. You will never know what will come. Your life will be changed one way or another, and each day provides a blank canvas for you to create your life on. You decide if the painting will be of the possibilities in front of you or the misfortune and mistakes behind you.

Look at your life today and see what space can be created. To move forward, you have to put the past behind you. Letting go of the things that no longer serve us allows room for new experiences, people, and something that makes our lives more enjoyable. Relationships, jobs, artistic expression, etc. Accept it, embrace it, and move forward.

 

Change Leads to Growth for You and Me

It should be a habit we all have not to get too comfortable with the way things are nowadays. Change is on the horizon.   If things are going well in life, you had better buckle up because life will send some challenges your way.  On the right side, if things are in a difficult place in your life, then good news for you, they will be changing soon.  We have no idea if our life circumstances will improve our experience or increase the volume of our suffering. But you can count that things will keep moving along the change timeline. Here are a few things to remember as you move through your day.

Change Happens

There are two types of people in the world regarding change. The first group holds on so tightly to how things are that they can’t imagine anything changing in life for the better. So when the inevitable changes come, they let them roll over them. Like being in a box slowly filling with water, and rather than leaving, they say right where they are, even with certain evidence things have changed for the worse.  It may be they just can’t let go of the past or wish things would never change. They stay in that catastrophic situation. It can happen in business, a relationship, or any other area of life.

The second type expects the change to come because it will.  These changes develop the skill of anticipating what will happen next. Even if they are wrong, they will still be ready for the changes that come their way.  They will be able to treat an avalanche like a friendly snowstorm because they know that with change comes opportunity, and opportunity brings the ability to make your dreams, ambitions, and goals jump to life.  You must embrace that change will happen, and life will move on. You might as well enjoy it because it beats the alternative.

Shifts in Life

Shifts in life can be hard when they bring changes you don’t necessarily want to experience—losing a job or the end of a relationship or something along those lines. But when you know change is coming, and it will happen, you can start to monitor situations to make solid guesses where the change is needed.  Maybe you can be proactive and bring about changes that will help circumstances or make your life or relationships more prosperous and fulfilling.  Recognize when a situation is getting stale and move on from it because it will eventually move on from you.

Then learn to adapt to change quickly. Let go of your attachments to the past and how things were and embrace the new stuff change has brought you in life.  It may seem like a weak trade-off sometimes, but at others, it will be a real bargain because the depth and quality of your experience will improve. Whenever something or someone leaves your life, they leave a space for something or someone else to enter. Growth does not randomly push you here or there. It will help you toward being the person you should be.  Move with it and embrace it.  People grow and change, things get old, and often, they break.  Roll with it and accept it.

Enjoy all the moments.

Savor the adventure and enjoy the new experiences coming into your life. You can’t get too comfortable with the situation. It may seem stable, or it may last for years. Maybe you have developed solid daily routines to help maintain things, but if you pay attention, you will see small cracks develop over time in your routine, and slowly, the buildings of your life will start to fall.  It is not a matter of if; it is a matter of when.  You can try to be proactive and create change the way you would like life to be, and sometimes that will work, but most often, things will change on their own and move in the way that suits life the best.

Don’t fight it because when you deny something happening, you create suffering for yourself. Please take a moment, with the past well, be grateful for it, and then let it go because there is so much to be thankful for right now and in the future.  Be ready to change and change quickly again and again.  You might as well learn to enjoy it and become an expert.  You will never be too comfortable, but you can always find joy, happiness, and fulfillment if you learn to adjust to the shifting sands of change.

“What do we need to let go of, and what do we need to move on to?”

“The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude” -Oprah Winfrey.

“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” -Leo Tolstoy.

“The measure of intelligence is the ability to change” -Albert Einstein