What’s Love Got to do with It

Coffee Talk is this good for thought
Coffee Talk is this good for thought

One of the great experiences I have been able to have  is to be able to write  a lot os great things at my favorite coffee shop, and one of the perks (no pun intended) has been to become friends with the people who work so hard to keep my coffee hot and flowing as I worked my way through many different writing projects. These people don’t know it but their conversations with me provide a lot of writing topics.  One of the most common

Young people love to be in Love.
Young people love to be in Love.

themes that they discuss is love.

Most of the people I am listening to are less that half my age, so my inclination is to roll my eyes and think that they don’t know what they are talking about. But on further review,  listening to the hopes and dreams from a young person’s perspective of love, there is a hope that comes back to me. I think that I have forgotten or better yet looked past what it means to be in love.

What did I forget? The feeling of love when it is new. For me as I have gotten older that feeling is either something that I don’t think is possible or fear because I know the pain of being hurt. Great beginnings become painful endings. The possibility of that pain becomes too much sometimes.

Through that lens, it is difficult not to feel people are

How I often feel about love
How I often feel about love

being unrealistic when they are 20 and say that they are so in love and they will spend the rest of their lives together.  The first inclination is to tell them that they don’t understand how long life is, or how much they will change in the next five years let alone the next twenty. Then again, who am I to give advice like I am the expert on love? I am clearly not.

The discussions around this topic though have reminded me of the times that my mind had been affected by love.  We discussed how you live to hear the voice of the one you love and will talk with them all the time because they make your heart go “pitter, pat”.  The happiness that comes just from being with them, and that nothing else and no one else in the world really matters.  Just you and the one you love. Paradise!

Every person in the history of people has been there before and the heights of love make life all that more enjoyable. Food tastes better, experiences are more fun, and the ability to grow is enhanced by that person, because you want to become more, for them.  That is a view of love that a younger person has and an older person forgets because they know the other side of the experience.

For that high, there is a dark side to love that comes when a person has no idea about the potential pain

Who hasn't felt like this?
Who hasn’t felt like this?

when that love is taken or dies on its own. Then there are deep, dark soul building moments of sharp pain and emptiness. where you are so empty because you realize what it is that what is left inside you is a vast empty space with nothing to fill it. The love is gone and you simply can’t replace that hurt with someone else, or something else.  Although you may try.

The scars that are left by this experience are going to teach you a lesson and often the simple solution to this problem is to shut yourself off and don’t allow that power of love to enter into your life again. Control how you feel and don’t let anyone close who might be able to bring out these emotions grow inside of you again.  That has been my life for a long time.

Here is one person who is not too stubborn to learn from the young people in the world when it is appropriate. There is a heart in all of us that deserves to be loved and to experience love and it should seek the happy, giddy and unbridled enjoyment of being with someone else and to just be “crazy” about them and to enjoy the experience of being in love and being less afraid of the experience.

So I urge you all to reach for it, open up for it, and to seek love without fear and to invite it into your life and to let yourself have a love as idealistic like your heart belongs to a young person. Force someone else to roll their eyes at you each day because you are clearly so in love.

If love isn’t a part of your life then, what is the point of it all? If you have love in your life nurture it and deliver empathy to the one you love always. Never take it for granted because it doesn’t happen all the time. Treasure the love that you have and the experience of being in love.







6 thoughts on “What’s Love Got to do with It”

    1. That is great! I wishy you nothing but the best in love and life Purni and of course bacon. You deserve to be happy and I love to see you that way! The most creative and innovative person I have ever “met”. Thanks for taking the time to read this little blurb and to leave me a message. It does make my day to hear from you!!

  1. Normally I’m not a huge John Legend fan. I find him talented, but his music rarely speaks to me through lyric. The song you posted is the exception.

    Isn’t it beautiful to be reminded of the fact that we were all once fairly innocent about life and love? Even when they don’t have it down 100% right, it’s good to be reminded of the joy in the seeking. As for the heart “pitter pats,” it took me a while to realize that although that’s a cool feeling….the unconditional acceptance that happens with the right person even after that particular sensation is gone (well, temporarily–I think that’s a cyclical thing) is worth so much more.

    Great post!

    1. Thank you Kit for taking the time to comment. I agree so much that those heart pounding moments do happen when you meet someone, and that love is possible. As we go through pain and life it seems that I have forgotten all of the hope that comes with being young and being in love. I will take your word about the unconditional acceptance because I don’t know that I have ever experienced that yet. I do look forward to it though. As for the song, to be honest, I had never heard of John Legend before until I was writing this, the song played on Pandora and I thought it was appropriate for the topic. Thank you for taking the time to read and comment, you are as awesome as ever Kitt!!!!!!

  2. Well said 🙂 I especially liked the part about staying open and welcoming love again…despite whatever happened before.

    1. Thank you so much for the comment Rachna! I think that one of the most important things in life is love, that is what these conversations have reminded me of. As I have gotten older, I think I am far too cynical and don’t believe that love is possible or that it will only lead to pain. That is a limiting belief that I have carried for too long. Thanks for the comment and taking the time to read this, you have made my day!! 🙂

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