Breaking The Rules

I’m a Rule Breaker

As a human being living on the Earth, you are constantly bombarded with warnings from the time you are born, until the time your life here is done.  People tell you the rules, clearly and with very little gray area, what is acceptable behavior and what is not. Some were designed to keep you physically safe, but many were designed to keep you from being original, or standing out in any way.

Looking at all of those rules I have had stated, explained, written and spelled out for me, I am here to urge you to do something dangerous.  I want you to ignore all of the stuff you have been warned away from and break the rules, because in the end that may be the only way you can find your true identity and create something great.

The Beginning of the Problem

When you are a child, the adults in your life are most often going to warn you about all of the “bad” things that could happen to you if you are not careful. Warnings about touching the stove, playing with fire, jumping out the window or any other common sense activity are more than likely going to fall on deaf ears anyway.

How many children have taken the warnings of imminent danger as a call for adventure? I know that many of my most lasting learning experiences resulted from just this type of situation. My parents always warned me about burning myself on the cigarette lighter in the car.  That only led me to touch the cigarette lighter in the car when it was orange, you know what I learned? Don’t do that it hurts, and I never did it again.  Experience is the greatest teacher.

As I grew up, though, it seemed that other people wanted the adventurous spirit to leave me, and I started to take people’s word for things and started doing exactly what society expected of me because I wanted to fit in.

To hell with what you feel, go to school, get a job, buy a house, retire, then die.  That is the appropriate life path we are taught.  I was a good person, but I never had adventures and never did anything outside of what was expected of me.  Things were safe, but they were not very interesting. I was more concerned with what other people thought of me than what I thought about myself.  That is an equation that can’t exist forever.

Wake up Before it’s too late

Much like being trapped in a dream, where you are falling and you know you will wake up before you hit the ground, and even though your heart is beating fast, you know it wasn’t real.  That is how life happens sometimes, a traumatic experience occurs, a death in the family, a loss of a job, divorce or destitution and it causes you to experience a shift in your personal paradigm that changes you in profound and often wonderful ways.  You in effect wake up and look at yourself and see that not only are you not living your dreams, you have forgotten what they were! This will lead you to realize that there must be changes.

Looking at the path that you have been following you suddenly see that you are not being yourself, you are not being what you were born to be.  You wake up and need answers.   I think some look for help in unhealthy relationships, and some look for chemical answers but no matter what your reaction is, you know that just like when you left childhood things behind, you can’t go back to the way things were before.  It would be like going back to the dream and completing the fall to your death.  Not acceptable.

Why Are You Here?

You are not just here to fill up the space you are in.  That would be a meaningless existence, you are not just here to sleepwalk through your life.  You are here to inspire, to teach, to change, to be an example.  Life shouldn’t be taken as an opportunity to tell others the rules, what they should do, what they should not do. Life is an opportunity to be an example of what is true to you.  Some will accept your life and get your message, while others will most likely think you are crazy.  There is someone out there that needs your unique personality and talents.  Be that person!

You weren’t born to make a difference to everybody, but you are here to make a difference to somebody.  Whoever that is, right now, is looking for your example of change, and it is up to you to provide it.  You may never know, just how many lives you touch, but that doesn’t make your impact any less important.  The rules of life will tell you where to work, how you should look and what it is appropriate to say.

Most of the greatest accomplishments in the history of man were achieved by people who didn’t follow these types of constrained expectations.  You are here for a purpose, find it and then pursue it.  If you are not sure, be yourself and see what happens.

Dare To Dream

In my past, I was an empty vessel, like a marionette with someone else pulling my strings, a façade of a person.  I was once asked if I were to pursue anything that I wanted, what would that be?  I realized that I was in deep trouble at that point because I really didn’t have a dream. There was no burning desire, no call to greatness, there was a loud and ominous……………nothing.

That was the beginning of my personal awakening because I believed life had to have more of a point to it than to simply exist, spend money and acquire things.  I began to dream.

At first just little dreams, that I almost felt guilty about.  Then as I continued to see the power that dreams possess, and the strength that you can take from it, I started to have bigger dreams.  These dreams have become a fuel. To search share my thoughts, to search for a purpose to be a better person.

Many people are lucky enough to realize this power early in life, but some people do not become aware until much later.  Dare to dream. Whether you achieve your dreams or not should be a  part of the adventure of life.  The pursuit of a goal is often the real thrill anyway.

I was once told that if you never try then you will never know and that is definitely the case in following your dreams.  The rules will tell you where you should go and what you should do, your dreams will tell you where you want to go and what you want to do.

The One Person You Can Believe In

When it is all said and done, there is going to be one person that either always came through for you or ultimately let you down. That person is you.  Believe in yourself, that you can do whatever it is you set out to do.  There will be struggles, and times of doubt, that is part of being human.  That doesn’t mean that you should stop trying to achieve, or stop trying to reach for the greatness you dream about.

You have a light inside of you that is unique to you, and nobody else can touch it or take it away from you.  Life often makes people forget their strength, as they allow bad experiences and bad luck to dictate their behavior.  All of the should haves, would haves, could haves of life, force people to doubt themselves and forget how great they really are.

You can rediscover who you are, and what your passion is by not living up to a stereotype thrust upon you by others, and create a life that makes you happy.  Ignore the so-called conventional, and follow your inner voice that knows exactly where you should be and what you should be doing. The rules will tell you to make as much money as you can, and you will be happy. The truth tells you to be as happy as possible and it won’t matter how much money you have.  There are many very rich people who are very unhappy, because no matter how much money you collect it doesn’t fill your heart, or nourish your soul.

No matter what you decide to do in the end, if you at least consider breaking the rules of convention and following the path you should be on all along, the world will be a better place for it.

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