Each day brings with it a choice for you to decide how to live your life. Do you stay tied to the past that is gone? Is it holding you in place and not allowing you to move forward? Do you blame yourself for mistakes that are done and over with, and can’t be changed no matter what you do? Do you stay stuck in a place of pain and misery?
All of these choices belong to each of us at the dawn of each day and it is entirely up to us which choices we make, to move forward or lag behind. Today arrives with a full package of possibilities, to see anything else is a choice you are making to limit your own existence. You decide what today will bring for you, nobody else has control over that unless you let them.
Forget Your Past
So much of the story we tell others is about our past but is it the real past? Or what we choose to remember about events in our lives. By letting go of the past you will not forget who you are. This is true for a couple of reasons. First of all, we remember the past exactly how we want to. Good, bad or indifferent, when we think of the past events, we color them with anger, love, nostalgia or some other emotion which skews the view. This isn’t done consciously, it is done behind the scenes in our subconscious mind. If you and I experienced the same thing ten years ago, our experience is going to be remembered differently by each of us. Who is right? Both because we remember it the way we need to. How much should you let your life be influenced by an unreliable memory?
The past is gone and you can’t get it back no matter what you do. It is gone, into the history books and no matter how good or bad it was, it will not return. Many people spend a lot of time trying to recreate the feelings they had in the past. Some even stay stuck there, but the fact is, you are not going to grow as you should looking in the past. All things grow and change over time, it is unstoppable. Forget living in your past, embrace your growth and move forward,the quality of your future depends on it.
My harshest critic lives solidly in my own mind. He has been sitting there for the entire show of my life, seeing the mistakes, the poor choices, the selfishness, and the embarrassing moments. He is all too eager to criticize these moments and make you feel bad about yourself. The thing is that the critic in your head is not a fair voice. He does not speak as loudly or firmly about your positive attributes or contributions. Forgive yourself, because to do otherwise is to carry a self-imposed punishment of pain for the rest of your life. You do not deserve that, you are a unique, one of a kind person and you are the only one who can contribute your talents to the world.
Forgiveness brings an understanding to your experience, a thought to your mind and a knowing of yourself that will help guide you in the future. By forgiving yourself you clear away the mist from the windshield of your life and allow a much clearer view of where you have been, where you are and where you want to go. You have to forgive yourself because no one else can give you this gift. It can only come from you and once given, it allows for you to evolve into a better version of yourself. Whatever that may be.
Time to Start Over
Once you have a clear vision of where you would like to go, you are on your way. There is nothing as exciting and at the same time frightening as the opportunity to start again. Will it work? Will you be successful? Will you thrive? Will you fail? The only way to answer these questions is to try. Put your effort out there and see what crops pop up in the field of your possibility.
Begin your new challenge with a renewed hope in your future. There is no limit to what might happen, all you can do is take action and experience the results. Whether it is “good” or “bad” is a matter of perspective and depends on how you keep score. One experience may not work out the way you planned but may lead to the thing that makes your life a dream come true. So would you suffer a so-called failure in life if it led to your ultimate success?
Begin again with the attitude of unlimited possibility and unlimited possibility will be yours. Take action, do, don’t sit in idle planning, that accomplishes nothing but to sooth your mind with fantasies of what might be if you have the courage to take action. Begin again with a brave heart and rise into your destiny.
Today forget your past, forgive yourself and begin again.