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When you are 80-years-old, what will matter to you the most?

by Jonathan Hilton   Day 24

4058994722_600px_Elongated_circle_80svg_xlargeLife once looked to me like a straight road, a path to a predetermined end that was so simple to follow that it would be as simple as playing a board game.

Put your marker at the start, take your turns and see if you can get to the finish before anybody else.  Life did not play out that way for me, does it for anybody?

I know enough to know that I do not know that I don’t know anything about what life might be like in a year from now, let alone in thirty four years from now.

 I can only take a blind guess at what I hope will matter to me if I am fortunate enough to join the ranks of the octogenarians.

I Will Have to Move It, Move It

I am going to be happy that I have my physical freedom. At 80 the machinery will be a bit worn out but it will all still work to propel me to whatever task I set before me.

Even though it takes a bit longer to get where I am going, I will still get there.  There will be peoplemattermostsome aches and pains, even the best antique vehicle needs a bit of tender loving care, but that will not stop me.

 It will matter to me that I am still an  active participant in life, meeting with people and sharing stories, and still contributing to the lives of others around the world.

 Being active is not the most important thing in life, but I think it is one of the things that allows me to be a participant rather than just an observer of life.

Still Writing after all These Years

Writing will still matter and still be a significant part of my life. I imagine there will be a bit more of an urgency to get all of my thoughts collected for posterity’s sake, before the clock runs out.  I am not sure what I will be writing about then, because really I am not

Who knows what types of machines the writing will be done but I will be doing it!

Who knows what types of machines the writing will be done but I will be doing it!

sure what I will write about today until I do it, yet it does get done.  There are an infinite number of thoughts, topics and interesting tidbits that need to be explored, discussed and thought about.  Do my thoughts really matter?

 They do to me and that is all that really counts.  By the time I am 80 there will be so many different thoughts that I have recorded that I may have forgotten all of them.

 I know this will happen because it already does.  Writing will definitely still be important to me.

Sit a Spell, Tell Me About It

The way that we interact with each other is going to be more important to me when I am 80 than it is today. I know it will matter to me because so many people have already made stupid thingsan impact on my life, some will never know the permanent marks they left on my heart, mind and soul.

 Yet those marks will be there none the less and I do not think that the next thirty years are going to be filled with any less interaction, in fact I am seeking much, much more.  Relationships of a personal nature are the way that we connect directly with other people and share our thoughts and accept the thoughts of others.

It may be the most important thing or just one of several, but to share what you know, think and feel with others and to be well received is a great gift.  It may even fool you into thinking that you know something about life.  I am sure that life will still have a twisted sense of humor when I am 80 as it did when I was 40 or 30 or 10.

The World Will Matter Then As It Does Now

Even if I make it to the ripe old age of 80, I think the thing that will matter to me most is what I can contribute to the happiness of others.

What will MatterCan I help someone through a difficult moment by letting them know that no matter how dark the sky is and how the storm howls there will be an ending to the storm and the sun will come out again.

No bad time lasts forever, although that is little consolation for the people going through them.  Eventually circumstances change as they must and all things even tough times come to their inevitable conclusion.

 The hope that all pain and despair can have an ending eventually is a message that I not only want to share but feel compelled to print.  Almost everything that I write is around this message, mostly subconsciously, but I have seen the dark, dark night and had no light to mark the dawn. It will mean the most to me to mark the dawn for all those who are looking for a sign of hope. You matter now and you will matter then. We are all connected after all and you are only as alone and isolated as you choose to be.

There is an understanding that we see in aging for many people that there is a gentle failing of the power of youth, that fades over time, and the physical promise of a young person is slowly but inevitably replaced with a spiritual understanding about life and its fragility.

When I am 80 I imagine I will understand this dance, look back and see the errors of my ways and see the foolishness involved in getting upset about it all, when all things were working as they should or could.

When you are 80-years-old, what will matter to you the most?

I’m not tryin’ to cause no big sensation, just talkin’ bout my generation!! Even at 80!!

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8 thoughts on “Older Days To Come

  1. You are a wonderful person, Jon…
    Loved this and I hope we all reach a good old age. I’ll have to start scooping more moisturiser out of the tub though 😉

    1. Jon says:

      I am sure we will make it exactly how far we are supposed to go. I am glad that you took the time and read this! It means a lot to me always to see your comments and know that something I thought was appreciated. Thank you Michelle. :-)

  2. djmatticus says:

    The Who will definitely still matter to me when I’m 80. 😉 And music in general, and family, and writing, and movies… You are right that we never know what the next year is going to bring, but I think we all have core items that will remain important to us no matter what the rest of the world throws at us. Several years ago I had to do some soul searching when I was going through a rough spell to figure out what I actually needed to be happy. Once I figured out what those things were it was easy to make them happen and get myself turned around. Those things will always remain important to me, now, tomorrow, and 49 years from now.

    1. Jon says:

      Matt, I gotta say that it is so good to see your comment. I missed you! These are great words and great thoughts as well. The tough times do allow us an opportunity to find out what is really important to us and to make choices about what actions we will follow. I am glad you made such great decisions, because here you are. As life throws different challenges at you, then you will have this compass to guide you still. I am sure that they will be remembered next year and 49 years from now. I just realize how much I liked being 30, life was easy back then. :-) I am grateful for your comments and it really is great to hear your thoughts again.:-)

  3. Kozo says:

    I used to scream the lyrics, “I hope I die before I get old.” Love “My Generation.” Now I’m looking forward to sitting down with you when we get 80 and looking at all the peace, joy, and connectivity in the world, Jon. Maybe we can meet at the Early Bird Special. We might even write a co-authored blog post. Sounds like a date. {{{Hugs]}} Kozo

    1. Jon says:

      I hear ya, Kozo, The Who was a huge influence on me too! I always remember being young and rebellious when I hear this. Thinking how older people just didn’t understand. :-) Now I know better. When did I get older? I will be looking for that early bird special. Some day we will write a co-authored post. That could be pretty interesting. Thanks for the comments and the read! You are the man!!

  4. MissFourEyes says:

    Writing will always be important for sure. Writing about weird things that happen to you when you get to be 80 (fart jokes on a whole new level), yes that sounds like fun. Oh to be able to say “Dang nabbet” and “Don’t Flip Your Wig”! 😀
    Loved this post, Jon.

    1. Jon says:

      Those are perks I completely didn’t realize I would have!! I already look at young people and think.”They have no idea how good they have it!” Then I will be talking about virtually everyone in the world. :-) Dang Nabbit! You are right and that feels pretty good I think I am going to adopt it into my lexicon right now. Thank you for stopping by and sharing some thoughts and for reading on this wonderful Saturday!! Fantastic as always MFE, love to hear from you. Makes my freakin’ day!!

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