Now or Never

If not now, then when?

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The question that can launch a thousand ships

by Jonathan Hilton- Day 15

Many times there is something that we have been meaning to do that we continually put off until tomorrow because of the potential consequences.

Or the fact that there is change involved and change is a scary thing because nobody really can guarantee you that whatever you are looking to do will in fact be better than what you have already.

This is enough to stop many adventurous people from pursuing an avenue of change, but should it?

Isn’t the point of life to stretch ourselves and create all that we are capable of? Or is it just a game of accumulation, the one with the most possessions at the end wins?

The short answer, I believe,  is life is about growth, because you can have everything in the world and not achieve happiness, you can know that you are producing something totally unique, in a voice that no one else has, be totally broke and still be happy.  So if you look to stretch yourself, you have to ask yourself, if not now, then when?

All Great Things

Most of the great things that man has ever accomplished were created by taking a chance and changing the status quo.  In fact there is really no place in your life that you can look

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All change can be scary

that life hasn’t changed radically from their existence even fifty years ago.

Socially there was still legal segregation in the United States and it was considered bad by the establishment to listen to Elvis. What would they think of Jay-Z or Katy Perry or the fact that the current president of the US is African-American?

Now with Technology

This is what a phone should look like!
This is what a phone should look like!

Technologically we have gone from the television being a new thing, with three channels to a massive entertainment source that you can watch on your phone.  Speaking of phones, if you had told me that I would have my own Star Trek communicator that I carried around with me all the time, I would never have believed it.

The phone was attached to the wall and you had to be home to use it.  Our current phones would really be science fiction.  What if Steve Jobs had said, “Not today world, we don’t need a cool hand-held phone that talks to you.” We would be lost completely.

These things never existed and never would have existed if it wasn’t for the fact that someone thought, if not now, then when?

Are You Living in the Moment?

So when it comes to your personal life, if not now, when? When you look at your life and you see or even more significantly feel that there is something that needs to change, it can be difficult to take the plunge.

live-in-the-moment-for-the-sheer-joy-ofMaybe you are hoping that things will change on their own or you will feel differently tomorrow.  However if you are always looking to tomorrow for things to get better or for them to improve you may be missing out on something, a great opportunity for happiness today.

 

Putting off your own happiness is not a good thing, because you were not put on the Earth to be miserable with life.  Saying I will start being happy when the kids are grown, or after the autumnal equinox or when my next birthday comes, or some other random event you are resigning yourself to wait for.

This is a prime example of not living in the moment because as I have said many times. There is no guarantee that you will be around until the next autumnal equinox or even until tomorrow for that matter.  Today is all that there is and now is the only time you are sure to have.  If you wait, it may well be too late.  It is OK to be afraid, everyone is afraid, but those who find success learn to deal with the fear and move forward anyway.

There will come a point in your life when you will have to cross your Rubicon and challenge what you need to challenge, change what you need to change or create what you need to create.  Then and only then will you be in control of your life and your decisions.

So if not now, when?

Incubus tries to answer the question here:

13 thoughts on “Now or Never”

  1. I was given this “if not now, when?” challenge by a friend last month. I was looking to get out of my house, and had a million excuses why I should wait. “Don’t wait, do it,” is what I heard, and so I signed up to try rock climbing. Now I do it every week. Had I not started immediately, I doubt I would have.

    1. I am so happy that you have decided to sieze the moment and it starts with a little rock climbing, soon other things will follow. You are truly an inspiration for others who need that little push to get back out into life. Thank you Melanie!!

  2. Also a great Tracy Chapman song. I hope you are keeping that communicator in mint condition. That thing is awesome.
    I agree, Jon. Do it now. Great advice. {{{hugs}}} Kozo

    1. I wish my phone looked just like that and I had to say “Kirk to Enterprise.” to talk to anyone. 🙂 Thank you Kozo, I am trying to do it now! Grateful for the comment. Loved your post yesterday!

  3. Okay talk about synchronicity. Today I was faced with this question myself. I’ve been dragging my feet about going out my front door and taking action to get myself a meaningful job. When it came time to put the car into drive I started to freak out, my palms were sweaty, my heart beating at my throat. “If not now then when?” this is what got me going forward. Nothing changes when you let fear control you. The door has been opened, the car has been put into drive, I’ve now taken a step forward to making my dreams come true. This was a terrific post.

    1. I am glad you enjoyed it and I am glad you put that car in drive. I know that there are great things for you to accomplish in life and moving forward will make that happen. Fear, unfortunately is going to be a constant hurdle in life, we all have fear, everybody does. To be successful, I think you have to be able to deal with that. You did that today, and that is awesome. I can’t wait to see what happens next for you. It is going to be an awesome ride. Thank you for being such a great person and leaving such a great inspiration for my writing. It makes me want to write more when I see that it had a positive effect in any way. I am grateful to have known you Raimy-D. 🙂

  4. Lovely post again Jon and as I am not a very patient kind of person I do not believe in tomorrow. Do what you can today, at this moment, in this minute and try your best to enjoy it. Have a great day my friend! 🙂 *hugs*

    1. I have always struggled with patience myself QB. It is a challenge, because I was always taught that action was the key to getting what you want. One of the hard lessons I have learned is that sometimes you have to just let things happen because that is the way it is. I agree with you whole heartedly about enjoying the moment, it has become almost an infatuation with me. Slipping into the moment and enjoying or at least experiencing what I am doing right now, and not thinking ten steps ahead. Plan ahead but don’t exist there before you get there. Always my weakness. Thank you for your great contribution, I always enjoy your comments a lot. 🙂

  5. I need someone like you in my head to remind me of this all the time. It IS okay to be afraid, just not all the time.
    Oh and, I LOVE Star Trek! That communicator is so cool.

    1. I want one so bad, that I can’t believe there is no phone that looks like that, and makes the sound when you open it. That would be so cool. I will gladly give you reminders whenever you need them, but I am sure that you are a capable woman who can handle herself pretty well. I am afraid often, did I do that right? Did I turn of the coffee? Is everyone laughing at me? Will I get hit by a random meteorite today as I walk to the car? There is lots to be afraid of but in reality all fear is just a thought and as real as you make it. 🙂

  6. Great post as always Jonathon! And the best thing about all this is that it doesn’t need to be something big. You can take the tiniest of steps forward today and go from there. I think that’s another that stops people, if the thing of “Oh that’s too much work right now, I just can’t justify it”. Baby steps in the right direction are all we need. The destination is not so important, it’s your attitude and whether or not you are moving forward in some way 🙂

    Thanks for sharing and thanks for the reminder buddy, all the best!

    Rohan.

    1. Thank you Rohan, you are right, I am taking baby steps every day and hoping that my attitude is moving in the right direction. It doesn’t need to be a big thing, just something. I always feel like life provides you with the opportunity to gain the momentum necessary to find growth. All the best back to you Rohan, I am grateful for your comments. 🙂

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