Forgiveness Your Greatest Weapon
by Jonathan Hilton Day 66
Perhaps the greatest power you have as a human being living on this Earth, is the power to forgive. No matter what has been done to you, said about you, or taken from you, that loss anger and/or problem will be a part of you until you fully and completely forgive the person that you perceive responsible for whatever misfortune you encountered and release it from you.
Before you can ever really start moving on with your life and grow, it is necessary to forgive everyone in your life for any wrong, real or perceived. I know it sounds drastic and it definitely is hard, but to truly move on in life it needs to be done.
Forgive them sincerely and you will find that a weight will be lifted off your shoulders. In life it seems inevitable that somebody will do something that will appear to be a slight to you, or it could be downright vicious. To hold onto that thought of anger and hold a grudge against someone is only going to make you less of a person and stop you from reaching your potential. Bitterness is all that you will be able to gain if you harbor ill feelings about anyone. Your life will be less because of it.
Throwing Hot Coals
Being angry at someone for something that they did, either real or perceived is going to end up hurting you in the end. I heard it described, as trying to throw a hot coal at someone you are mad at. Perhaps you will hit them and they might be hurt, but the only guarantee in this transaction is that you are the one who is going to be hurt.
There are few things in life more difficult than to let go of our anger. Anger helps us cope, and allows us to feel like we have power. When in reality you are giving all of your power away. You are allowing someone else’s words or actions, determine your feelings. All you have to do is let those feelings go, and forgive, all of your power is then yours.
It is probably unreasonable to think that you can really forgive everyone for everything immediately. Like any journey you need to start with one small step and then take another, and keep on moving. The momentum of your journey will build as you go. Slowly but surely taking back control of your feelings, your relationships and your life.
What I have found is that when you remove the anger, the energy you previously spent on festering anger and perpetuating the negative thoughts about someone else, is better and easier spent on focusing on the great things about people in your life. I feel luckier and better off because of it.
Avoid The Negative, Follow the Positive
Forgiveness will help you release all of the negative thoughts and feelings that can negatively impact your life. If you spend your time thinking about things that perpetuate anger, fear, worry, hate, revenge, avarice or grief then you are focusing on the negative and it is difficult to be positive about your future when that is your focus. These emotions need to be avoided. If you are experiencing anger about something, you have the choice to let it go. If you feel fearful about something, let it go. Experiencing fear will not fulfill you or make your life whole. Let it go, you will find there was nothing to be afraid of in the first place. Worry is the same, most of the time worry is wasted effort 92% of the time. (read explanation here).
Replace those thoughts with those of good will, sympathy, magnanimity, good cheer, or any thought emanating from a spirit of love and you will be much happier. Forgive whoever wronged you for whatever they did and replace thoughts of anger and revenge with thoughts of understanding, and love. You will improve not only your quality of life but the quality of life of all those around you.
How You Know Forgiveness Has Truly Happened
Just saying that you forgive someone is not enough for true forgiveness. It is a start, but in order to really forgive someone and move on, you have to release all of the negative energy surrounding whatever event occurred. The heat test will allow you to know if you have sufficiently done this or not. It is simple and fool proof. Simply think about a person or an event and if you feel any searing pain or emotion about the event or the people involved, you are not done with them. If you honestly experience feelings of love, peace and well being, then forgiveness has taken place.
Quotes on Forgiveness
“Forgive all who have offended you, not for them, but for yourself.” – Harriet Nelson
“Forgiveness is the sweetest revenge.” – Isaac Friedmann
“Forgiving does not erase the bitter past. A healed memory is not a deleted memory. Instead, forgiving what we cannot forget creates a new way to remember. We change the memory of our past into a hope for our future.” – Louis B. Smedes
“Life is an adventure in forgiveness.” – Norman Cousins
“Forgiveness is the key to action and freedom.” – Hannah Arendt
“Forgiveness is a virtue of the brave.” – Indira Gandhi
“Genuine forgiveness does not deny anger but faces it head-on.” – Alice Duer Miller
“As long as you don’t forgive, who and whatever it is will occupy a rent-free space in your mind.” – Isabelle Holland
“Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were.” – Cherie Carter-Scott
“Forgiveness is like faith. You have to keep reviving it.” – Mason Cooley
“Only the brave know how to forgive. … A coward never forgave; it is not in his nature.” – Laurence Sterne
“Remember, you don’t forgive someone for his or her sake – you forgive them for your sake.”
“Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting, nor does it mean that you’ve given the message that what someone did was okay. It just means that you’ve let go of the anger or guilt towards someone, or towards yourself. But that can be easier said than done. If forgiveness was easy, everyone would be doing it.”
“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” – Katherine Ponder
“There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love.” – Bryant H. McGill
“A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.” – Robert Quillen
“Forgiveness is me giving up my right to hurt you for hurting me.” – Anonymous
“Sincere forgiveness isn’t colored with expectations that the other person apologize or change. Don’t worry whether or not they finally understand you. Love them and release them. Life feeds back truth to people in its own way and time-just like it does for you and me.” – Sara Paddison
“Once a woman has forgiven her man, she must not reheat his sins for breakfast.” – Marlene Dietrich
“Forgiveness is the giving, and so the receiving, of life.” – George MacDonald
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” – Louis B. Smedes
“We are all on a life long journey and the core of its meaning, the terrible demand of its centrality is forgiving and being forgiven.” – Martha Kilpatrick
“To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness.” – Robert Muller
“Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.” – Mark Twain
“Always forgive your enemies – nothing annoys them so much.” – Oscar Wilde
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” – Mahatma Gandhi
“Forgiveness is a funny thing. It warms the heart and cools the sting.” – William Arthur Ward
“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” – Paul Boese
“It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend.” – William Blake
“If you can’t forgive and forget, pick one.” – Robert Brault
“He who cannot forgive breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass.” – George Herbert
“Without forgiveness life is governed by… an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation.” – Roberto Assagioli
I still would do whatever it takes…………..