Learn From Your Mistakes

Everyone Makes Mistakes

Everyone makes mistakes

It’s OK To Make Mistakes

by Jon Hilton

It is an inevitable part of being human that we all make mistakes in life.  Nobody is perfect, no matter how hard we try to be.

That has always made we wonder: Why are we all so hard on ourselves when we do make a mistake?  When you really analyze things you can see that failure can be a real bitch to deal with, nobody would choose a mistake and the trauma that comes along with it over the easy sailing of success, but that leads back to the point, no matter who you are, no matter how smart, funny, popular or talented, you are going to make mistakes and experience failure at some point in your life.

But I wanted to say that it is not the mistakes and failures of our lives that define us, it’s the way that we react to those mistakes and failures that define who we really are.
“In school we learn that mistakes are bad, and we are punished for making them. Yet, if you look at the way humans are designed to learn, we learn by making mistakes. We learn to walk by falling down. If we never fell down, we would never walk.”
― Robert T. Kiyosaki, Rich Dad, Poor Dad

How a Mistake can Crush You

mistakes can crush you

Good Quote

When bad things happen in life, you have a choice in how to deal with it.  Really you have a choice.  You can let the bad thing define you, or you can let the unfortunate incident teach you how to be a better person.

Being human, I have made tons of mistakes in life, bad decisions and experienced failure.  There have been times when I was discouraged and felt sorry for myself, that life wasn’t fair, and it was easy to place all of the blame on the actions of others.

But if I wanted to grow and evolve into the kind of person I wanted to be I had to look hard in the mirror and understand that if I let the bad things that have happened in my life crush me, then I am allowing my life and my destiny to be determined by someone else.

When you let your whole being be so controlled by not only the mistakes you make, but even more importantly, what you perceive others to think about your set backs, you will slowly be crushed by your mistakes.

How a Failure can inspire You

Don't let Mistakes Define You

You Are Awesome

All great things have been accomplished for one of two reasons, inspiration or desperation.  What may on the surface seem like a failure, may in the broad scope of one’s life be viewed as a victory.

You may have discovered a talent you never would have discovered because you were forced to look for it.  You may have traveled somewhere that you never would have gone because your failure forced you to move.  You may have met your soul mate only after a particularly bad break up that allowed you to look inside yourself, and discover what you really need in a relationship.  It is easy to quit in life, it is easy to just go into the fetal position and say “Enough.”

But when you push yourself to keep going in pursuit of a happy life,  you will find that many of the unhappy barriers we face in life are merely hurdles to hop over on our way to the finish line, not impenetrable walls that stop us from achieving greatness.  Sometimes, or mistakes, failures or set backs can provide the momentum to push us toward our dreams.

Don’t let the Fear of Failure Determine Your Future

learning from mistakes

A Long Book!

Whatever the case, we can’t let the fear of failure determine how we live our life.  Because you can fail at any time.  It can happen.

Learning how to deal with the loss and disappointment of having things not work out the way we plan, may be the most valuable lesson we can learn in life.  Life guarantees us all only one thing, that you will have experiences, that’s about it.

You are not given the assurance that your life will be non-stop happiness without any sadness or disappointment.  Those just come as a part of the package, but true greatness can be achieved by anyone who sees the risk of failure and disappointment, but continues on to see what happens.

Do not let the fear of what might happen stop you from doing anything in life.  You may fail, you may look foolish, some people may laugh, you may be misunderstood, but all of that doesn’t really matter if you have to courage to look your fear in the eye and try!

You will NEVER accomplish anything worthwhile unless you create a dream and then have the courage to try to make it come true.  If you make mistakes or fail along the way, understand that it is not a condemnation of your goals and dreams but a needed step to achieving it.  Nobody ever said that doing anything worthwhile would be easy, or quick to achieve.

In fact, as in most things it is the journey to achieving our goals that needs to be appreciated as much as the achievement of the goal itself.  You will always cherish the victory, when you know it was hard-fought and won.  It will have a great deal more value to you.

Quotes On Mistakes

“Some of the best lessons we ever learn, we learn from our mistakes and failures.  The error of the past is the success and wisdom of the future.” – Tyron Edwards

“Failure is an event, never a person.”  ~William D. Brown,

“I have learned more from my mistakes than from my successes.” – Sir Humphry Davy

“The only time you don’t fail is the last time you try anything – and it works.”  ~William Strong

“Even a mistake may turn out to be the one thing necessary to a worthwhile achievement.” – Henry Ford

“I have not failed.  I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”  ~Thomas Edison

“If you have made mistakes…there is always another chance for you.  You may have a fresh start at any moment you choose, for this thing we call ‘failure’ is not the falling down, but the staying down.” – Mary Pickford

“I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.”  ~Bill Cosby

“When we begin to take our failures non-seriously, it means we are ceasing to be afraid of them.  It is of immense importance to learn to laugh at ourselves.” – Katherine Mansfield

“There is no failure except in no longer trying.”  ~Elbert Hubbard

“Try again.  Fail again.  Fail better.”  ~Samuel Beckett

“We learn wisdom from failure much more than success. We often discover what we WILL do, by finding out what we will NOT do.”  - Samuel Smiles

“If you’re doing your best, you won’t have any time to worry about failure.”

“Anyone who has never made a mistake, has never tried anything new.” – Albert Einstein

” You know, by the time you’ve reached my age, you’ve made plenty of mistakes if you’ve lived your life properly.”   – Ronald Reagan

“Failure doesn’t mean you are a failure… it just means you haven’t succeeded yet.”  ~Robert Schuller

“One fails forward toward success.”  ~Charles F. Kettering

“Nobody makes a greater mistake then he who does nothing because he could do so little.” – Edmund Burke

“One must be a god to be able to tell successes from failures without making a mistake.”  ~Anton Pavlovich Chekhov

“A man may fall many times, but he won’t be a failure until he says that someone pushed him.”  ~Elmer G. Letterman

“Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat.”  ~F. Scott Fitzgerald

“There are defeats more triumphant than victories.”  ~Michel de Montaigne

“Notice the difference between what happens when a man says to himself, “I have failed three times,” and what happens when he says, “I am a failure.” ” ~S.I. Hayakawa

“A failure is a man who has blundered, but is not able to cash in the experience.”  ~Elbert Hubbard

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21 thoughts on “Learn From Your Mistakes

    1. Jon

      Thank you Michelle, I am always glad to accept thought provoking compliments as well! :-) The school of life is indeed a good teacher, and having the perspective to accept mistakes or failure as a part of being who we are, I think gives you the courage to try something new and expand your mind and your reach!I am so grateful as always for the comment!

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  1. Alarna Rose Gray

    Fear of failure is a big one. It’s something that can shoot us in the foot, because the more we think about how we’ve failed, the more likely we are to do it again, instead of learning from it. Thanks for the boost! (and I love your pic of “mistakes I’ve made”… feels familiar!) :)

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    1. Jon

      Thank you Alarna, I know that book of mistakes was very long in my life! We all make mistakes and we all learn from them and I am sure that someone as wise and intelligent as yourself has learned plenty about life from your mistakes. :-) Two comments in one day Alarna, this must be Christmas! Thank you so much for reading and commenting!

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    1. Jon

      Nobody likes the failure part of life. Yet it is a part of life and it does teach some valuable lessons that I have needed to learn. I have made huge mistakes in many different areas, but I have also gotten a lot of great gains from evaluating them as well. I am so glad to have you reading and commenting, I can’t tell you how grateful I am. :-)

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  2. djmatticus

    JD – it’s at this point where I would normally throw in my two cents, but what you said here, “it’s the way that we react to those mistakes and failures that define who we really are.” so completely summarizes everything I was going to say, that I have nothing additional to add! (I think that may have been your plan all along?) Great post.

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    1. Jon

      Your two cents are always welcome at my bank Matt. I appreciate your effort. Can you believe that we are getting a foot of snow today here in the great state of Maine! I can’t stand this winter, I am ready for it to end! So any thoughts of moving to a cabin in Maine, bring a shovel .

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  3. raimyd

    What a great post, something I’ve been contemplating on a lot lately. Fear of Failure, in my case is fear of not being good enough for the job, fear that my skills dont measure up and that I’ll fail. I really needed to hear this right now, I’m so happy you blog :-)

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    1. Jon

      I just saw this comment that I never replied to, and I thought, Hey Raimy-D. you superstar of blog and thought, you measure up just fine! In fact it is others who need to try to keep up with you!! Keep being awesome. Thinking great thoughts and sharing them with the world!

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  4. Kozo

    I have made some big mistakes in my life, Jon, but I’m starting to realize that these mistakes are the result of being on the wrong path in life. So, in essence, the mistakes are directing me towards my authentic self. I agree with you 100% about how crushing it can be when we worry about “what you perceive others to think about your set backs.” Thank you so much for this post. If anything, it makes me realize that I am not alone in being someone who has made mistakes, yet is trying to be better because of the mistakes. {{{hugs}}} Kozo

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    1. Jon

      We have all made mistakes Kozo, they do not define us they guide us I think. Besides, they are all in the past and there is no way you can change them anyway. Each day is a new beginning, a new chance to be successful and find your strength. To make a positive difference in the world. You seem to be doing this just fine!!

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        1. Jon

          I make more than that I am sure. :-) We all make them and they are nothing to fear. If you try sometimes you are going to fail, but that is ok because you can try a different way and maybe you will succeed the next time.

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    1. Jon

      Oh MFE, you will probably never fail at anything because you are so very perfect. :-) I of course have accumulated a masters degree in mistake making and like all things in life, you have a choice. Let your mistakes run you over or learn from them. Thank you so much for your comment, I always love to hear from you. :-)

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