I have found this one fact pervasive throughout my life, EVERYTHING we do matters when it comes to our happiness and enjoyment of life.
Every decision that you make throughout every day of you life is a contributor to the essence of your existence. Each decision you make to support someone or to knock someone down will be reflected in your own experience.
I mean there are clues everywhere, and you might be able to figure it out, but it would have been so much easier if someone had just sat me down and told me the way things worked. That is hat this post is for, if it informs one person, then it is worth it.
Choice consists of the mental process of judging the merits of multiple options and selecting one of them.
Your Choices Count All The Time
Every day you are faced with a thousand choices, from what you eat, to where you go, to how you treat other people and how you treat yourself. Many of these decisions we perform with little thought at all, but you should be aware that each choice you make defines the substance that is you.
Your personal energy is a compilation of these decisions, you can keep them to yourself and not tell anyone else about them, and they will still be a part of you as clearly as if you wore a scarlet letter on your forehead.
Due to this fact, it is significant that you understand there are no small choices, they are all big choices and will help determine what types of things you will attract to your life.
Decisions On the Job
When you go to work at whatever job you are performing, you will be faced with all sorts of choices, which will help determine how much you will enjoy that endeavor and more importantly what kind of person you are going to be.
It doesn’t matter if you are digging ditches or splitting atoms, the choices that you make will determine your success and value at that job. The choices all start with your attitude. Your attitude is the biggest choice you can make about your work.
If you constantly focus on how much you hate your job, it only stands to reason that you will struggle with it. That is your choice. If you approach the crappiest job in the world like it is the sweetest thing you have ever done, then you are not accepting that crappy job as your end all, you are displaying that you are a trustworthy person, with unlimited potential. If you knew someone who was digging ditches for a living, and they approached it with responsibility and a positive attitude, wouldn’t any boss anywhere want that person around all the time?
Wouldn’t they actively look for places that would use that individual’s talent to the best of their ability? The answer is of course they would.
Choices about Your Friends
the people that you spend the most time with will have a significant influence on you. If you crave adventure, find friends that are adventurous. If you enjoy thought-provoking debate, seek out friends that enjoy that as well. Decide what you want to experience in life and spend time with those people who have a similar disposition. Building a positive network of friends will increase your enjoyment of life. The friends who have similar values to me like honesty, integrity and doing what is right, even if it isn’t always easy are to be valued and appreciated, will give your strength and make your life much more enjoyable.
Conversely if you spend your time with people who are negative, gossip all the time, and are miserable about their lives and others, what do you think your outlook is going to be? The transference from one person to another is a fact of life.
Think about the people who you know, aren’t there some people who just put a smile on your face just by being around? Conversely aren’t there people who make you depressed just by saying hello? I know I have met plenty of both, the choice that you need to make is to steer towards all of the positive people when you can. You will make better decisions and enjoy life a whole lot more.
If you have friends in your life who clearly have a toxic effect on those around them, then you have two choices. You can either, totally avoid them and the toxic foolishness that comes with them. Or if that is not possible, and the more fun method, is to constantly challenge them on every negative thought and action.
When they say something negative about someone, disagree and say something you know that is positive. Most of these toxic people are not evil, they have just gotten into the bad habit of feeling that unless they make someone else feel bad they can’t feel good. By choosing to counteract them at every turn, you will either make them so mad they will leave on their own accord or more often than not they will fall in line and agree with you. Be consistent with this and you may just turn a negative toxic person, into a positive happy person. That decision will be a happy one for you.
How You Decide To Think About Yourself Counts
Often times, it is confusing to people who if they really focus and make great decisions about how they think about others, they will be doing well, but they totally ignore how hard they are on themselves. And the truth of the matter is that if you don’t love yourself and treat yourself like you deserve great things in your life, you can’t be too surprised when you don’t get them.
How you decide to view yourself is probably the single most important decision you can make in life. If you look at yourself and point out the flaws, real or imagined, you are beating up your self-esteem for no reason. How can you expect that great things are going to happen for you if you don’t even think you deserve them.
The great thing is that changing this pattern of thought is as simple as changing your mind. Really? Don’t believe me? Then do this. Honestly make a list of all the things you don’t like about yourself. Hopefully it won’t be too long, but I know, some of us are hard on ourselves. For every negative thing about yourself, rewrite the statement as a positive.
You can change the whole statement, or more likely, replace it with something that you do like. For example, a statement like, “my butt is too big”, can be changed into “I have really beautiful eyes.” or “My butt looks great!” In the end, I don’t think it matters, because as smart as we think we are, our brains can only think one thing at a time.
You can choose to make it a negative thing, or you can choose to make it a positive thing. If you think positive things about yourself and your abilities, consistently, you will automatically permeate success and others will be able to sense it. All I can ask is that you try it. Give yourself a break, you are a good person, there are nice things about you, that are so attractive. Focus on them. In the end, what you think about you is all that matters anyway.
Every choice and decision that you make from the minute you wake up to the time you lay your head back down to go to sleep, will affect everything about you and your life. Ask yourself when you are making a choice,”Does this choice honor me.” , If you can honestly answer, “YES.” Then the decision will be simple, indeed.
A peacefulness follows any decision, even the wrong one. ~Rita Mae Brown
It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are. ~Roy Disney
Choices are the hinges of destiny. ~Attributed to both Edwin Markham and Pythagoras
Consider what you think justice requires, and decide accordingly. But never give your reasons; for your judgment will probably be right, but your reasons will certainly be wrong. ~Lord Mansfield
Some persons are very decisive when it comes to avoiding decisions. ~Brendan Francis
When one bases his life on principle, 99 percent of his decisions are already made. ~Author Unknown
You’ve got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you’re not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
Life is the sum of all your choices. ~Albert Camus
The hardest thing to learn in life is which bridge to cross and which to burn. ~David Russell
Although every man believes that his decisions and resolutions involve the most multifarious factors, in reality they are mere oscillation between flight and longing. ~Herman Broch
Indecision becomes decision with time. ~Author Unknown
Do not plant your dreams in the field of indecision, where nothing ever grows but the weeds of “what-if.” ~Dodinsky
Using the power of decision gives you the capacity to get past any excuse to change any and every part of your life in an instant. ~Anthony Robbins
The doors we open and close each day decide the lives we live. ~Flora Whittemore
To decide is to walk facing forward with nary a crick in your neck from looking back at the crossroads. ~Betsy Cañas Garmon
Decisions become easier when your will to please God outweighs your will to please the world. ~Anso Coetzer
In a minute there is time for decisions and revisions which a minute will reverse. ~T.S. Eliot
Good decisions come from experience, and experience comes from bad decisions. ~Author Unknown
Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
Reconsider, v. To seek a justification for a decision already made. ~Ambrose Bierce
The inability to make a decision has often been passed off as patience. ~Author Unknown
Everything is something you decide to do, and there is nothing you have to do. ~Denis Waitley