Forget Your Regrets

What would you regret not fully doing, being or having in your life? 

4559365435_16203_gallery_xlargeLife is full of moments, each with its own individual fanfare and trumpets, that it is up to you to embrace or at least to notice, the majesty in each and every day.

Some people live their life grasping with a focus completely on the past, hoping to find out their identity yet ending up with a hand that contains nothing but regrets about what the past has provided.

Today, this moment is all there is for you and the more you branch out your attention from that, the less opportunity there is for enjoying the here and now. Keeping your focus on the task that you are working on will allow you to enjoy life.

All That You Do

In everything that you are doing, if it is worthwhile, shouldn’t you be doing it well?  I think that we should strive to complete everything that we undertake to the absolute best of our abilities.

There are times when our best may not be enough, but more often than not it will regretbe.  I would only regret something today if I didn’t give it an honest effort.

Regrets come from thinking what might have been, so the only way I can regret what I am doing is if I could have done it any better.  If I spent time looking backward, I would regret moments that I didn’t give all that I had to something.

To me, those situations are few and far between but they do exist.  Today I am trying to pay attention to what I am doing so that I won’t be able to regret them later.

 In all that I do, I strive to be focused and give my best effort to do it, in the best manner I am capable of.

To Be or not to Be

fcd97ac86af9a9d2a31d9bcdc0971a3cThe question of whether our being or existence was worthwhile has been asked throughout time.  Some people have one bad experience taint everything else that comes in their life.

 It can happen when you are young and becomes the excuse for everything going wrong throughout life.  There is no need to have a childhood or an adult trauma define everything about your being.

 We all have some sort of obstacles or insecurities to traverse so that we can see ourselves and our lives clearly.

 Once that trauma drama is overcome, and you see yourself for what you are, a creative, one of a kind, giant among men that can do just about anything, then you will not regret a moment.

 Who is to say that the bad experience in you life wouldn’t end up being the catalyst for you to spring to greatness.  It is only an anchor if you keep yourself tied to it.  Never regret your being, I know I don’t.

Time to Have it All

What you have is really depending on how you look at life.  Do you regret that you don’t have regretown more possessions to pile into your house or apartment?

 What you have in the manner of possessions I don’t think matters.  Although things provide a momentary pleasure, it is just a fleeting moment that passes as quickly as the dusk slips into darkness.  Then in order to feel good, you need to have more stuff.  Stuff is not going to satisfy your soul or lead you to happiness.

What you have that will lead to happiness is the love of the people in your life.  Of this substance, I am not sure that you can have too much.  It is the kindness one shows to another when they are down.

The acceptance of a person’s idiosyncrasies and to still claim them as your own.   Love, caring, and kindness are attributes that make life enjoyable and these feelings will last inside of you.  When the smell of a new car or the shine of the latest technological gadget has long faded, those you love and the feelings of joy will remain with you.

 You may be able to trick yourself for a season or two, into thinking that stuff will make you happy, but in the end, the emptiness that is inside you can only be filled by the love of people and it starts by loving yourself.

 

Regrets happen when you combine your thoughts of the past with your perceptions of their outcomes.  You should have tried something else.  If you only would have gone sooner.  I should have known what would happen.  All of these regretful thoughts do nothing to change the past they only muddy up the waters of today making tomorrow more difficult to get to.  Leave regrets in the past, enjoy today and hope for the best tomorrow possible.

What would you regret not fully doing, being or having in your life?

I made mistakes but held on to my faith……….No Regrets, No Regrets!!

14 thoughts on “Forget Your Regrets”

  1. Well written as usual Jon and Ingrid Bergman said it for me : I have no regrets. I wouldn’t have lived my life the way I did if I was going to worry about what people were going to say. 🙂

    1. That is a great quote and thought!! I feel the exact same way now, but I didn’t always feel that way. I worried a lot about what others thought about me. Until I realized it really didn’t matter at all. Thank you QB for taking the time to read and to comment. So grateful!!

  2. This is a great message to send. I think we all need to be reminded to let our regrets go–they take up too much space in our mind.

    Another great post!

    1. Thank you Katie! I agree, and I have had a lot more time to build up the regrets than you, so I agree whole heartedly. 🙂 Thank you for taking the time to read and comment, it is an awesome thing to do.

  3. “Who is to say that the bad experience in your life wouldn’t end up being the catalyst for you to spring to greatness. It is only an anchor if you keep yourself tied to it. Never regret your being…”. These are three of the greatest sentences I have read out of you yet. Hello light bulb!
    I must go ponder this for a bit now…

    1. Thank you so much! It makes me feel so happy that anything I wrote had a positive affect on anyone. That experience is something that has shown up a lot in life. I am really happy that you liked this. You are being a catalyst right now of smiles.

  4. Jon, you know, as I was reading this post I was thinking how I always find something that you’ve written that helps me think more positively and also causes a clarity of thinking. Have you ever thought of writing a motivational/inspirational book – I have a feeling it would do very well if you did so.

    1. I have thought about it and I am still thinking about it. Thank you for saying that. I am glad that something you read on my site has helped you in any way! It makes my day!!

    1. Ha, happens to everyone. Thank you for taking the time for reading and leaving your comment. It just makes me want to scream. (in a good way)

  5. Yes, Jon. Yes, yes, yes. I love how you counter regret with presence. If we spend our time regretting something in the past, we are missing the present moment. Great advice. I also love the three sentences that Melanie mentioned. And this one, as well, “When the smell of a new car or the shine of the latest technological gadget has long faded, those you love and the feelings of joy will remain with you.”
    Living in the present with love and kindness=no regrets.
    Thanks for reminding us, my friend. {{{hugs]}} Kozo

    1. Thank you Kozo for giving me such great counterargument. Not regretting things in the past has been a recurring theme for me, and the more I experience the less I regret anything because it has taken the paths I have walked to get me to the point I am at now. I would never have contemplated life, or behavior or love or friendship or anything else I now think about if not for the journey I have been on. Besides regrets are an anchor to the past that isn’t going to take you anywhere!! Thank you for the comment and the thought my friend! You are the man!!

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