As a younger person, I often got impatient with what life was bringing. Hurry up! Let’s get to the next stage already.
Being impatient is one of the shortfalls of youth. There are patterns in life and each has its purpose, as a young person I didn’t comprehend this problem. Life presents us
with many challenging circumstances, thrills, accomplishments, and disappointments. With all the excitement it is important to find moments of mindful introspection, a relaxing lull in life.
A quiet period is a time life gives you a space to look around and take a breath or two. Often times there is a lull period after any big moment, positive or negative, where a person needs a chance to gather themselves before moving toward the next goal, adventure, challenge or life experience.
Unfortunately, in our society, the downtime is not appreciated or valued. It is looked upon as wasted time or an unwanted time of emptiness. A time that could be spent doing something. We work to fill all of our moments with fillings of foolishness. Games, TV, movies or just music in the background all engage our minds and stop us from thinking. What are we afraid of?
It seems like we are afraid of the silence, because of what we might learn in its wisdom. The thoughts you have may lead to change but also to a greater appreciation for the lessons that you have learned and how to apply them to the life you have in front of you.
Reflection is one of the most valuable things that I have taken from the lull periods of life. Whenever there is an ending of any kind there is going to be a calm period. Sunshine after rain, tranquility after turmoil, it seems to be the gift of life. It may be only for a moment or it may be longer but the time should be used to evaluate and appreciate the situation that you have just gone through and process it to add value to your life.
Processing traumatic, emotional events can be difficult. It is always hard to get through the painful feelings to see the value of the experience. There is a value of sorts in any experience, as well as the chance to ignore it or embrace it. Not all experiences are pleasant and warm, but that is not what life promises. Each thing we see, hear, and do is designed to allow us to learn something. If the same thing keeps coming to us, then there is something that we haven’t learned and need to get the message. Much like a student needs to pass Algebra 1 before moving on to more complex math. We need to learn certain lessons of life before we move on to something else, more complex or advanced.
Reflection is a time that I have learned to cherish. To look at even bad situations that are not enjoyable to find the lesson. It has always been there and if you don’t learn it now it will present itself again, later. Before long you will be on to the next adventure of life and there won’t be time to look back appropriately and to find the answers. When the calming times present themselves to you, take advantage and look for the meaning of the experience, ask the questions; What did I learn? How Was this valuable? What am I not seeing yet? Seek the motive in the situation, understand the movement of life around you, learn what you need to know to be the best version of yourself.
There is a lesson to learn about the relationship, the job, the trip, the climb, the project, the graduation, the birth, the death ………… In a moment of quiet, there are the answers that you are seeking. They are waiting in the ripples of a lake or underneath the rocks of a river or in the quiet of a moment. Take that moment and look for them. They provide a beauty to all of life that most people miss because they are too busy avoiding thought to look inside the stillness and understand the message that is living there specifically for you to hear.
Life is full of patterns, of “highs” and “lows” that are only different moments of mental intensity that allow for learning or understanding. Many live their entire lives with questions, and never take the time to seek for the answers. Life makes a deal with us that there is always a reason behind it all. In reflection and contemplation, it will be found, if you can recognize the lull and appreciate the silence and thought that it provides.