To fear or to love?
All situations in life can be broken down into a simple choice. Will you think and act out of fear? Or will you think and act out of love?
I believe that EVERYTHING you think will make a difference in your life. I believe this because of a lifetime of experience and entertaining the wrong types of thoughts. Basically, I lived much of my life under the influence of fear but have chosen to make a change and look at things with thoughts of love.
How You Think Leads to How You Live
This is my basic belief that I have developed later in the game of life. If you are thinking judgmental, mean, sarcastic or hateful thoughts about other people or groups of people, there is no doubt that you will experience those things in your own life.
If you choose to focus on accepting, kind and loving thoughts then that is going to be the general experience of your existence. How do I know? I used to think the former and now focus on the later and although I am the same person, the experience of life has been completely different and much more positive and enjoyable in all ways.
Fear is the chief motivation of those who are critical. A person rejects any thought or action that will lead to change or be different from comfortable beliefs. Even if things are currently going badly, people avoid change because the fear is that the changes might make things even worse.
There is nothing wrong with experiencing fear itself because fear gives you adrenaline to act, but if you focus on that and allow it to move your actions from day-to-day, your experience will suffer. We all face fear every day, but how you choose to deal with it, fear or love is important. Each moment comes down to this simple choice between fear and love, the one you choose is going to define your life.
Change is Always Possible
The most daunting task for anyone to accomplish is to change the way that you think. We have spent a lifetime accumulating experiences which come along with mental programming which has managed to keep us safe and alive.
Yet at some point even though we are safe and alive, the quality of our life needs value. Once you start to pursue happiness and caring, you start to notice what has been making you unhappy. What is it that makes you hang your head with worry? What makes you afraid to speak? What makes you hide your individuality? What makes you hide who you are? Fear.
Fear that you won’t be accepted, or fear that someone is going to take something from you that you love. Fear that someone is going to harm you or those that you care about. These fears are fed by the mainstream media to gain ratings and Madison Avenue to earn consumer dollars. (Another post)
The reality is that fear is just a thought and an illusionary thought at that. What you are afraid of is not real, it is a thought and that is it. What if? What should? What Might? Questions that provide these thoughts, they are not real they don’t exist yet they provide very real suffering for people.
There are many dangers in the world and those should be avoided because they can hurt you, but fear of them will only stop you from doing what you truly want to do.
Getting Out of Fear
Getting rid of fear in your thoughts is simple but it is not easy.
Stop thinking fearful things. Now that would be easy if we could control all of our thoughts, but you really can’t.
Thoughts pop into your mind at a rapid pace, representing your lifetime of experience. Bias, prejudice, hatred, fear are all a part of your experience and they are all associated with others.
You can’t stop them from popping into your mind, but you can control how much you pay attention to them. Simply noticing the thoughts of fear as what they are, fake, surprisingly release you from their power. All of their power over you comes from inside your head and your thoughts. Let the negative go and replace them with something more positive.
Replace thoughts of fear with thoughts of love
Once you recognize and admit what your fears are and let them go, it is amazing how easy the good thoughts and feelings flow. It feels better to be happy, it is healthier to love and it is more enjoyable to live without fear.
It takes some time and you have, to be honest with yourself. Recognizing your own weaknesses can be painful and difficult, but you have a simple choice here. Keep living your life in fear and be unhappy or admit to your negative thoughts and recognize that you have the ability to just let them go and think differently. Caring over callousness, kindness over being mean, understanding over judgment.
The choice is up to you!