Why do we hug? What does it mean to people? I was walking through a parking lot the other day and witnessed two young people in the midst of a pretty intense hug. Both were emotional, to the point of tears and you knew that they were saying good-bye. For a day, a month, or a year I have no idea. But I did realize that I had been a participant in just that kind of hug on several occasions in the past and I was more than just a little jealous.
Children have a natural sense of wonder and curiosity of all things. How does that work? Why is that color that color? Who is the tallest? The smartest? There are no limits to the questions and the knowledge that children seek. We were all like that at one point, and to return to that kind of mentality could only be a positive for more experienced people.
Personal Growth Leads to Living Well
In our lives, there is nothing so important as seeking out and pursuing opportunities to grow as a person. Just as any other living creature, our purpose in life is to contribute and to continually move toward becoming our best selves. Just as plants are born and start to grow throughout their lives.
As you look at your life and each activity that you are participating in asking yourself if there is a chance for growth in doing this. We are all consciously, physically and mentally going one of two ways. 1. We are getting better or becoming more or growing 2. We are getting worse, becoming less or shrinking.
All people have a greatness within them. Don’t believe me? Well, then I challenge you to do the following 5 things and see what you can learn about yourself.
With the powerful messages from the media we get inundated with each day, of perfect looking people always happy, it sends the message that unless you look like them you won’t really be happy.
This is ridiculous because every person has weaknesses, shortcomings, unique likes and thoughts, the ideal of perfection unattainable. The media tells you what you should think is attractive, what beauty you should aspire to reach. No person on the face of the Earth can live up to that expectation of perfection.
I developed a post about my core beliefs a few years ago. I have experienced a lot since then, but it is remarkable that so much of what I believed has stood up to the test of time.
These personal beliefs are ever evolving but this is where they stand right now.
What’s Your Mood Today?
I say it all the time, “Have a great day!” and I hear it all the time from others as well, but it
seems like so many people are glum and gloomy every day that they have definitely decided to ignore this kind and tender wish. The unhappiness seems to be so prevalent that I decided to write a little to remind people exactly how to achieve that fantastic day that is there for the taking each and every sunrise.
To fear or to love?
All situations in life can be broken down into a simple choice. Will you think and act out of fear? Or will you think and act out of love?
I believe that EVERYTHING you think will make a difference in your life. I believe this because of a lifetime of experience and entertaining the wrong types of thoughts. Basically, I lived much of my life under the influence of fear but have chosen to make a change and look at things with thoughts of love.
What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
For much of my life, I spent a whole lot of time worrying about what other people thought about the things that I did.
To the point that often I would not do things I wanted because I was afraid of what others might think. The fear stopped me from doing some silly inconsequential things and large things alike.
When the thoughts in my head worried about the thoughts in others, the results were a constant fear of showing what I really was like. There was a chance that someone might not like what I would be doing.
So you have a goal in mind and you feel it just might be your passion. It is right there in front of you like the low hanging fruit on a tree. All you have to do is reach out and pluck it and it is yours.
Yet you don’t reach, you stand or sit and just watch the fruit as it hangs there tantalizing your senses. It is often fear that stops us from following our passions and for me most often I have found fear to be a huge barrier to doing what I want. What is it that I am afraid of?
If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?
There are two ways to go with this answer, you can say: “If something hasn’t happened yet then it is not ever going to happen.” This will lead to losing the few strands of hope you have left for accomplishing the task you dream about.
Or the other answer can be: “The time must be ripe for whatever it is that you have brewing, and dream of achieving, and the only thing you have to lose is more time passing before you achieve whatever it is you want to accomplish.” Thus leading to the achievement of your dreams. I don’t know about you but the second one sounds better to me.
Winning The Battle In Each Of Us
Inside every person in the world, there exists a conflict between your two selves.
Students of psychology have several different names for these “voices”, some refer to them as your ego, or perhaps your super ego, but for my purposes, I will address these two voices as Self I and Self II.
These two entities are constantly battling for control of our thoughts and actions. If you don’t believe it, who answers you in your head when you ask the simplest question? One voice asks the other one answers. It happens all of the time. Now let’s get to meet your two voices.
What can you do today that you were not capable of a few years ago?
When I think back to where exactly I was 365 days ago, it never ceases to amaze me the jagged artwork that change has woven into the tapestry of my life. Each seemingly unconnected event has worked to put me exactly where I am supposed to be.
Many philosophies support the idea of a preconceived plan for everyone. I am not sure about that yet, but sometimes it seems like things fall into place in ways that you would never believe. So here are some of the things that I can do today that I was not capable of a few years ago.
How to Find Inner Peace
There are so many ways to improve your outlook on life that it is virtually
impossible for me to list them all here for you, but in general, there are a few simple tips I can give you that have made my own personal enjoyment of life increase exponentially.
These are not extremely difficult things to do, solving advanced math problems or rocket science is difficult, finding peace should be simple.
It just requires you to honestly look at yourself and the situations that affect how you feel and making the choice to let events enhance your life not harm it.
Today Is The Thing
Some live their life grasping with a focus completely on the past, hoping to find out their identity yet ending up with a hand that contains nothing but regrets about what the past has provided.
Today, this moment is all there is for you and the more you branch out your attention from that, the less opportunity there is for enjoying the here and now. Keeping your focus on the task that you are working on will allow you to enjoy life.
Life is a wonderful thing. It is destined to surprise you and lead you to places that you anticipated. I believe much of the enjoyment of life comes directly from inside of you and how you perceive the people you meet and the experiences you have.
Sometimes early in the journey of life, you may find life a confusing jumble of mixed messages and emotions. Even the greatest adventurer or psychic would struggle to smooth out the details and work through the challenges faced. Nobody ever said that the life would be easy, but in the end, it has the potential to be the most rewarding journey imaginable.
There are few things more invasive in all of our lives today than the electronic tethers and ties that are continually connecting us to the world. Are we really in need of connection?
I have found this one fact pervasive throughout my life, EVERYTHING we do matters when it comes to our happiness and enjoyment of life.
Every decision that you make throughout every day of you life is a contributor to the essence of your existence. Each decision you make to support someone or to knock someone down will be reflected in your own experience.here are clues everywhere, and you might be able to figure it out, but it would have been so much easier if someone had just sat me down and told me the way things worked. This piece is designed for this, if it informs one person, if it makes one mind think, then it is definitely worth it.
At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?
I have felt most passionate and alive right now, there is nothing that could top this moment in time until tomorrow!
There are many people who will look far into the distant past for this answer or maybe dream of a day in the future that might be better or more perfect but to me right here and right now is the place where I feel most passionate and alive.
What is the difference between living and existing?
When you look back on your life are you going to remember the times you decided to not try and stretch yourself and accepted what life has given you?
Or will you think back onto the moments where you gave it your best effort and either exceeded beyond all expectation or failed miserably?
Either way, you were fully engaged in the process of finding what you were made of. I believe that much of the difference between living and just existing stems from this search to measure ourselves.
Yesterday, I was reminded how simple our philosophy of life should be. We should all be treating others based on the way we would like to be treated. If we all followed this pattern of behavior, many of the world’s problems would be eliminated easily. However, as we all know there are sometimes things that get in the way of putting the golden rule into practice. Here are a few explanations and thoughts on how to make sure that you are following the golden rule and doing your part to make sure the world is a better place.