***Always Be Honest-How much is your integrity worth? What can you gain by being dishonest that you can truly enjoy? If your word is worth nothing than neither are you.
Some Honesty Quotes
“Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom.” -Thomas Jefferson
“Integrity is telling myself the truth. And honesty is telling the truth to other people.” – Spencer Johnson
“Honest hearts produce honest actions.”- Brigham Young
What is Honesty
When you look at being honest and telling the truth it would seem a simple thing to practice. When you make a statement, make a truthful one. However, it seems that being totally honest is a little more complicated than that.
Recently I was told by a friend that everyone, to some degree is dishonest at least once a day, and usually more. I initially took issue with that statement and argued that telling the truth was a choice and anyone could do it. Then I was issued a challenge, really evaluate everything you say and do throughout the day and see how honest you really are. I accepted and what I realized was that being honest is much more difficult than I first believed.
The main reasons people don’t always tell the truth are:
- Fear of harm: The easiest reason to understand why we lie is for self protection, including self deception, to prevent harm to ourselves. This harm can be either physical or mental.
- Fear of conflict: To some degree, we all fear having an argument.
- Fear of punishment: When growing up, how often did we lie about how well we did in school, or who started a fight? How often do we cover up our mistakes and transgressions?
- Fear of rejection: Sometimes, our insecurities are the foundation of why we lie to each other, because we want to be remain popular in our relationships. Typically, it is harmless boasting to make ourselves appear more admirable to other people.
- Fear of loss: This is usually the loss of personal objects, such as money or expensive valuables. Greed is the foundation for this reason and can be found in each of us. We often lie to make ourselves more desirable to other people too. Most common, people lie for fear of alienating their significant other. Other times, when our self esteem starts to decline, we even lie to ourselves as means to prevent loss of morale.
- Altruistic Reasons: We often lie to help our friends and loved ones. How often do we flattery someone just to make them feel better? Or don’t tell the whole truth because we are afraid of hurting someone’s feelings? This is the only selfless reason why we lie.
It comes down to a matter of integrity. Do your words have any truth in them? Should anybody trust and listen to what you say? I believe that being honest is important because nobody will ever trust or believe you if you are not honest. If you would lie, where do you draw the line morally? Once you start to blur the lines of acceptable behavior it is a slippery slope.
Definition of Honesty
Honesty refers to a facet of moral character and denotes positive, virtuous attributes such as integrity, truthfulness, and straightforwardness along with the absence of lying, cheating, or theft.
Additionally an honest person will inform others of opportunities for growth and self-actualization. Secrets allowing people to be harmed, self-deception – not being aware of one’s own environment, and remaining silent when duty calls forth an opinion become silences which hurt others in the long-run. Honesty means being open about one’s life.