The Day Before

You never see the real painful things coming.
You never see the real painful things coming.

There are days that you remember because they have a long lasting effect on your life.  I certainly have many of these.  There are days that serve to remind me of those moments. When my life changed so dramatically that it could never be the same again.

What had been my life was over and what was coming next was unknown and unpredictable. The experience I identified as my life was shattered into a million pieces and no matter how they my life will never be the samewere put back together they would never be the same, they would never fit snugly.

Autumn’s Song

Fall really has it all, bright colors over a melancholy heart.
Fall really has it all, bright colors over a melancholy heart.

There are few things that make me feel as great inside and out as the autumn of the year. Living in a legitimate four seasons area, a person is fortunate to see all of the positives and negatives that each time of year provides.  Each has a list of positives and negatives but the one that makes me happiest is fall.

Peace

“A house divided against itself cannot stand.” – Abraham Lincoln

133622396_80_80This famous quote by Abraham Lincoln was given well over a hundred years ago and I believe that it can be directly applied today, to the reason we do not have peace in the world. When it comes to war, hatred and discrimination of any kind there first has to exist a feeling of separation in one’s mind.  A cognitive judgment that a person places on another to exclude them from themselves and their lives.

The Gloaming

 

The time after sunset and before dark, the Gloaming!
The time after sunset and before dark, the Gloaming!

There is a time between the light and dark of day where if you look closely all things appear to be possible. It is the location in life where the ghosts of daily accomplishments and future possibilities meet.

Did the light of day provide something that was worthwhile to contemplate? Or were the seeds planted that are going to flourish into the bountiful harvest of tomorrow?

These are the thoughts that arrive in the gloaming,  as the day resigns its light and accepts the inevitable cover of the night.

Challenges and Choices

challenges-make-life-interesting

Age is just a number, however, there are some numbers that are much more intimidating than others and turning 50 is one of these.

To me, at this milestone, I have conflicting feelings, I assume all people are the same.  I have fears and insecurities about life, just as I did when I was turning 40, 30, 20 or even 10.  Hopefully, I have developed tools and learned lessons that have helped me navigate the aging process in a positive manner. Embracing the experience. Reflection is one of the tools that I use to understand the value of an experience. To take that lesson into living my life every day.

Help!

 

Everyone feel like this sometime
Everyone feel like this sometimes

For many people, including myself, there are times in life where we are not sure what to do next.  A new situation confronts us, we have to move left or tack right, something is headed right for us! What do we do?

Now for me, either because of the way I was brought up or because I am just a very stubborn person asking anyone for help or advice is almost always out of the question because, it would reveal to the world, gasp,  “I don’t know everything.”

Your Time

Make your Time Count

Don't Waste Time
You can’t recycle this one.

No matter who you are, where you live, how much money you have or what you do in your spare time, we each have an account that we are continually making withdrawals from and cannot make deposits.

Everyone in the world has a finite, fixed sum in this account, and still most waste a great portion of the capital available.  Time is the currency in this account and you are spending it with every minute of your existence.

Learn From Your Mistakes

Everyone Makes Mistakes

Everyone makes mistakes
It’s OK To Make Mistakes

It is an inevitable part of being human that we all make mistakes in life.  Nobody is perfect, no matter how hard we try to be.

That has always made we wonder: Why are we all so hard on ourselves when we do make a mistake?  When you really analyze things you can see that failure can be a real bitch to deal with, nobody would choose a mistake and the trauma that comes along with it over the easy sailing of success, but that leads back to the point, no matter who you are, no matter how smart, funny, popular or talented, you are going to make mistakes and experience failure at some point in your life.

At this Very Moment

A person may not be able to see it, but at this very moment, there are at least a thousand thoughts running around inside our heads.  Some thoughts are great and some are just, well, thoughts.  They are not all deep and meaningful but they are all ours, here in no particular order of importance are thoughts that you might have  this day.

I’m Really Blue, Are You?

I'm Blue
I am definitely blue, but not in a bad way!

by Jonathan Hilton

Pouring over my daily dose of inspiration I was looking for a great idea to write about, and most great ideas come from other bloggers who know much more than me.

I didn’t have to look very far to find one that hit me right where I live.  It was on the site called Creative Guru , which features great ideas, fantastic writing and a tale of self discovery.

Some Of My Core Beliefs

my mind works overtime, sometimes
my mind works overtime, sometimes

All People live by a code of beliefs, that are accepted over the course of their lives, based on their accepted moral code. What has worked and what has not worked in my life has led to a list of core beliefs that generally guide my day to day actions. There are days I lose my focus but I have found that getting back to the core of beliefs is a step in the right direction.

These are ever evolving and I am editing completely but at that time this is what they were, in no particular order.

Build Your Adventure Pack

The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.”
― Eleanor Roosevelt

Why We Need Adventure Packs

Learning from Mistakes In Life

Learning From Mistakes Of Life

everyone makes mistakes
Mistakes help you learn.

Life is continually teaching each of us lessons, and we merely need to pay attention to the daily events we experience, our reactions to them and even the experience of others in our lives to learn something on any given day.  One of the things that I have noticed about myself and everyone I know is that we really don’t like to make mistakes. When we do, we beat ourselves up for them for days, years and in some cases for the rest of our lives.  It makes you start to wonder, why we are so afraid to make mistakes?  Are we born perfect knowing everything? Aren’t mistakes an inevitable part of growing and developing as a human being?  If you show me someone who has never made a mistake then I will show you someone who has never tried.  It makes me start to wonder why we are as a society so afraid to make mistakes.  When you look at our educational system, it is designed to celebrate the achievements of a select few, while the majority of students who may be the most creative thinkers and eventually the people who would change the world are held up and discouraged by this unrealistic expectation of our society to conform.  Be perfect or you are a failure.  Why are we so afraid to fail?

Remember How to Play

Remember How To Play In Life

Playing Catch
Remembering the fun of play

Many years ago, I can remember being a kid and just wondering who was going to be available to play after school.  There were not many things that were more important to my elementary school self than what I would play, where I would play and who would be available to play with.  Growing up in the town of Greenville, Maine, Tuesdays were always a difficult day because the bulk of my colleagues were Catholic and they had to go to Catechism, which significantly cut into my options.  I often urged some of my friends to skip their religious instruction for a rousing game of kickball or football or anything outside that involved a game of some kind.

The Leaf Is So Simple

The Leaf Is So Simple

A leaf in Autumn 2
The leaf is so simple but full of memories

The leaf is so simple. I remember never being able to understand how a green leaf could change into so many different colors? Or why a tree would shed it’s most valuable skin? I always think back to my childhood when I recall memories. Probably because the best ones derived from innocence.

Jumping in Leaves

Everyone remembers jumping in the leaves. It’s priceless. You tend to forget year after year that those leaves do in fact have pointy stems. That is, until you get one in the eye. Or that they’re rather fragile the older they get and crumble making their way into your clothes causing you to become itchy.

The Indispensable Man

indispensable manA poem I used to read and recommend often and was struck today with how true it really is.

THE INDISPENSABLE MAN

By Saxon White Kessinger

Sometime, when you’re feeling important,

Sometime when your ego’s in bloom,

Sometime, when you take it for granted,

You’re the best qualified in the room.

Sometime when you feel that you’re going

Would leave and unfillable hole,

Just follow this simple instruction,

And see how it humbles your soul

Take a bucket and fill it with water,

Put your hand in it, up to your wrist;

Avoiding the Negative Media

Avoiding the Negative Media

news boycott
Stop watching the “News”, they lie.

It was about four years ago that I had simply had enough. No matter what was happening in the world it seemed the media had to spend its time spreading fear, unhappiness or promoting programs on their network of stations that even further spread fear and unhappiness.  Enough was enough and I tentatively started my own personal news boycott to avoid the negative media and their effects on me.

Love Stinks

When you fall in love, you sometimes don’t have control over your senses. You are prone to do unpredictable things and might be susceptible

Love Stinks
So Does the Music

to influences, you would never otherwise fall prey to.  Music can creep into your life, let me rephrase that, bad music can creep into your life at that point and leave an indelible mark on your memory.  One that will never truly go away no matter what you do.   I heard a song on the radio today, which brought this horrible phenomenon clearly into my thought, Billy Ocean singing his mid-eighties hit, “Suddenly”, and I realized that not only did I know every word, but I was getting a little emotional thinking about it.  Weird I thought, to hear music from so long ago,  I’m clearly being haunted by Billy Ocean.  Something clearly needed to be done. The video of the song Payphone below sums up my thoughts on love songs.

Learning from Failure

Make The Most of Your Failure

Learn from failure try again
Samuel Beckett

Sometimes it feels like we can never do anything right, that everything we do is inherently wrong and we have no clue what we are doing.  Most thinking people will feel this way at some point in their lives, it is just human nature.  Often as we try out new thoughts to see which ones are “keepers”, and which ones need to be thrown back, we will experience failure characterized as a mistake.   However it is important to understand that mistakes in life are not only inevitable, they are vital to our growth as people and professionals.  You will never experience genius in any field without first experiencing a few missteps along the way.

How Baseball Is Like Life

Baseball Is A Part Of Daily Life For Many People

baseball is like lifeI have often wondered why I have such a love for the game of baseball, it is sometimes long and the action sometimes is slow, but it continually comes back to me that so many aspects of the game are a direct representation of the way life is.  Life lessons are displayed daily on the baseball diamond, and we simply have to be paying attention to soak in the knowledge.   Following are some of those observations.How baseball is like lifeKeep your Head In the Game