Choices Define Life

“At some point in our life, every one must decide if they are a creator or a critic, a lover or a hater, a giver or a taker.” ~ Unknown

the choices are all yours
Choose wisely

Life is a short ride, and the decisions we make each day determine if that ride is a thrilling experience that makes you hold your breath or if it is a calm walk through the park.

The choices we make every day will determine the tone, happiness and satisfaction we get out of life. Choose well.

Critic or Creator

It is the easy choice to become a critic of anybody or anything. It is my experience that a person who will be critical of the way one person lives, or the things they do, will quickly decide it is their duty to point out the parts of your life worth criticizing.

Since being critical is almost always a window into a person’s own feelings of inadequacy, it is often helpful to listen to a critic, if only to understand what they are lacking in their own life.

The other choice here is to be a creator of things and focus on what you can add to the world rather than what is wrong with everyone else. Creation is the best way to connect to your true self and to understand who your authentic self is.  Creativity in all forms is a magical thing and to be a creator is to bring more light into the world. Imagine your thoughts, ideas and creations will never be brought to light unless you do it yourself.

Many people find it easier to critique because they are afraid to create for fear of what someone else might say.  I urge you to create! You are a master at whatever you do.  Pay as much attention to someone being critical as you would to a mosquito buzzing by your ear on a summer’s day, insignificant to the enjoyment of your life.

A Lover or a Hater

Love or hate, its your choice
simple choice, you are never too young or old to make

This is the simplest choice that everyone faces each and every day.  When you look at someone or something you have the option to love what they are or what it is you are looking at or you can choose to hate them or it.

People bring their hate onto others for so many silly reasons, their race, religion, sexual orientation or even what part of the world they are from.  It is just as easy to find a reason to love someone as it is to find a reason to hate them.

Once you choose to head in one direction, most often you are going to continue down this road, always finding more and more reasons to hate people and things.   One person who hates one ethnic group will often easily add several others quickly to their list of undesirables for no apparent reason.

The good news is the choice to love is also one that will grow the more that you use it.  Not everyone is going to be exactly like you, but everyone is a human being living on the face of the earth.  Hating someone or loving them is really an example of how you feel about yourself, and when you realize this you will be less than eager to dish out hate.

Every person is born with unlimited potential and you may be the fuel that allows someone to realize their talents. It doesn’t matter where someone is from, the religion they practice, the color of their skin or anything else. We are all spiritual souls having a human experience.

The choice to love is easy and takes no more effort than hate does.  It is simply a frame of mind.  As time goes by situations arise and you may feel wronged, or unfairly criticized, but when you look at situations from a large perspective, ask yourself: “Is it really worth it?”

Some people I know will swear that it is, some have gotten over their hurt and see it wasn’t.  To me I think that if people understand that their feelings are a choice then they are the person that they have chosen to be, I am happy for them.

Givers or takers

There is a symbiotic relationship that exists between everyone, there are those that are

giver or takere
Gratitude is the key to this transaction in both directions

givers and those that are takers, and we make the choice which one we are.  Most of us will be on both ends of this spectrum at one time or another, as I have.

The secret to giving is that every time you do it, you are really giving a gift to yourself.  If your intent is true and for the purpose of giving something to another, then you will receive as much back or more.  That is how it works.   Some of the greatest givers I have known were not rich people financially, but they were quite rich in their souls.

I have been fortunate to know many people who would gladly share their last dollar or meal with you if you needed it.

This was done cheerfully and with no expectation of repayment.  My personal gratitude for these gifts is immense and I understand how lucky I was to receive them.  I in turn try to live the same way, being a cheerful giver, when I can.

When the taker of a gift or of help doesn’t see the gift with gratitude that problems arise.  There are many who now are given help from others and are not grateful, but feel it is an entitlement or an expected part of living.

These people will never continue the giving only looking for more of a gift from others, never being satisfied or looking for a way to give back.  Nobody should be too proud to accept help, or forget what it feels like to need.  Heartfelt gratitude is the key, on the one side for the gift you have received and for the fact that you have enough to give.

What Do You Choose?

Who do you want to be in your life? What do you want people to remember about you? All of this is totally in the hands of the decisions you make each day.


7 thoughts on “Choices Define Life”

  1. Hi Jonathon,
    I met you today at my blog party. I’d like to respond to your post. I believe it is the fault of the parents. They pass on bigotry and close-minded thinking to their children. In this way hate is perpetuated. It’s quicker than getting to actually know someone and make an informed choice. It is sad and dangerous. Nice meeting you today.

    1. Thank you for stopping by. I agree with you. A lack up understanding and empathy is predominant. We are a world that seeks for material gain and individual recognition. We are all in this life together and being kind and understanding takes a back seat to more selfish things. But it isn’t too late for change and it is people like you that give me hope. The world can become a better place. Thanks for the blog party and for taking the time to stop by, I am grateful to meet you!!

      1. Thank you for your comments which put a big smile on my face. It is people like you who give ME hope since you are using your blog to try to make the world a better place.
        I am grateful to meet you too.

  2. Hi, Jon. I was directed to your site through Janice’s blog party. You have some wise words here. If you could sway just one person from hater to lover, the world would be that much better of a place. Even when it’s difficult to like someone, I try to seek out at least one redeeming quality in them…after that, it’s hard to hate.

    1. Hello Karen, it is great to meet you. Welcome to my website. I have met so many wonderful people through Janice’s blog party. I love your attitude as well, that is great advice to look for one redeeming quality in everyone. 🙂 I am so grateful that you took the time to stop by and visit. Come back again!!

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