One of the most common blocks people face in accomplishing their goals is the worry about what others think of your choices, behaviors or talents. How often have you stopped doing something because you didn’t want to look foolish or be picked on by someone else?
This is a limiting thought that can be easily changed if you start to focus on what you are doing in the moment and forget what others might be thinking about it, you will enjoy life a whole lot more and find success as well. There are several simple reasons that this is true.
Most Don’t Think Of You Anyway
The criticism we imagine is largely located solely in our own imaginations. For the most part, people are too involved in their own drama of life to pay attention to your decisions. Want to start a business? Do it and if someone confronts you with questions, simply tell them you appreciate their point of view and move on with your plan.
We come by this fear naturally. As young people, we find that learning to fit in with the expectations of the crowd makes sense. We don’t get picked on and life is much easier. But there is a point where successful people put this fear aside and worry about how they feel about what they are doing rather than the often misguided judgments of others. I know that to me, it is the fear of what someone might think that has stopped me. Not even the real thoughts of a person but my thoughts about what I thought they might be. Seems silly to carry fear for someone else’s thoughts.
A Reflection on Them
If they are thinking something negative about you, it is because there is a problem with them, not a problem with you. So many people are stuck in their choices that when they see someone trying something different or reaching for a success, they see their own limitation. This is not a pretty sight so many critics will shoot you down to avoid looking at their own failure. If everyone is mired in mediocrity then they won’t feel bad about their own failure to pursue their dream.
Anyone who criticizes someone else for seeking to improve themselves in any way is showing their own limited beliefs. All people choose what they stand for and being a limiting influence on anyone is just letting fear dictate your behavior. What if you fail? What if they fail? What if they look funny? What if…….. These words can haunt an empty life. So what if you fail, you will learn. Learning those lessons may just be the missing piece that you need in order to achieve your dreams.
Don’t Play Small
The moral here is to not play the small game that doesn’t suit you. How do I know? There is something in you that is great and waiting to come out and contribute to the world. The lessons that you will learn along the way will help steer you toward your best self. Honestly, do you think you were put here on this Earth to not succeed? Of course, you were made for success and to let what someone else might think stop you from doing what you want is playing at your smallest. Play the big game that you were meant to play.
The world is full of critics who are generally unhappy people who have decided not to find their purpose. The internet is full of negative people who seek out the creative work of others only to write negative comments about it and diminish them. These people should get all the attention they deserve, none at all. Ignore the naysayers and feel sorry for them. They are stuck playing a game of ego and separation. They need your kindness more than anyone else.