One of the most valuable skills a person can develop, in my opinion, is that of asking the right questions. It seems like life keeps bringing experiences that we are consciously looking for. The right question can change your focus, target your awareness and bring you answers that one is looking for.
Questions Make Sense of Things
One area that questioning can help in understanding the world is in making sense of things. How many times have we had an experience that was less than pleasant. A loss, a death, an accident or something else that on the surface is a totally negative experience. And that could be all it is, but when you ask the right question, you find out for sure. What is good about this situation that I don’t see at first? What are the benefits that I can’t see right now? How can my life benefit from this situation?
This is not trying to diminish the trauma and pain that life brings you. How can a death and loss of a loved one possibly be good? All things have the possibility for good in some way. Perhaps you will appreciate those loved ones still in your life. Maybe you will take the time to let those still living that you care about, how you feel. The relationships in your life may become more precious to you. Your experience may become more loving, rich and deep because you looked honestly at the benefits of a loss.
Steer Clear of Self Pity
A question will change the focus of your consciousness in whatever direction your questions lead you. So if you are wallowing in self-pity with questions like “Why me?” or “How can this keep happening to me?” then you are going to find the answers why. Which is more than likely not going to provide comfort or growth? Self-pity is a negative exercise that brings only negative experiences back to your life. That is because all experiences have some value hidden in them and asking a question and thinking about the answer will get you an answer that at the least will show the positive and at best will absolutely enlighten you.
Maintain an Open Mind
I think that the ability to ask, answer and accept the information that the right questions ask is the definition of having an open mind. It is easy to look at things from the short-sighted perception of your day-to-day existence. What benefits could come from this? Even though this isn’t nice to experience what could come from this that is good, positive or even pleasurable? Once you open your mind to these possibilities, they can show up in your life. They have been there all along, but recognizing them allows you to understand them and enjoy the benefits of them in your life.
Questions Eliminate Resistant Thoughts
A good question will not only push your focus toward the desired knowledge or information, it will also get rid of the ideas, thoughts, and preconceptions that are resistant or irrelevant to the challenge at hand.
“What can I learn from this challenge so this never happens again?” At the same time, a question can make all of your resources apparent to us.
Developing a consistent practice of asking realistic and relevant questions will allow us to meet challenges, focus our attention on solutions and move past irrelevant information. This will more than likely make your life a bit more of an enjoyable experience.