by Jonathan Hilton
Life is a hard game sometimes. No matter what you do, or how you try to find the gentler side of life, the easier the hard times seem to seek you out. When I look at people who are in their late teens and early twenties today, I have a hard time not telling them to be careful.
Be looking for the tough times that are inevitably going to come. Yet you know that even if these words were spoken they would be summarily dismissed as the rants of someone who is too old to understand the world today. Yet, I know that in twenty years that conversation will be quite different. Some of those “hard times” will give you your greatest gifts and allow you to stretch to lengths that you would have never reached without them.
If Experiences Didn’t Hurt, You Wouldn’t Pay Attention
The experiences we have every day are not meant to be either easy or hard. Enjoyable or unpleasant. They are simply experiences that we apply our own labels to based on our expectations of life and our limited knowledge of everything.
It is difficult to address most things that way, because if they are unpleasant or not desired, how can you not dislike that moment? If you had a broken arm or found out that you had cancer or any other experience that is on the negative side, who wouldn’t wish that away. Yet, it is in these moments of despair and testing that our true character and strength is revealed.
Personally, my own dark times were not welcome, and for a long time I blamed everyone for the fact that things were taken from me. There was a lot of time wasted because in the end, those experiences I detested and wanted to avoid, allowed me to become more than I ever dreamed I could be.
Life doesn’t have to be hard, but the lessons that are harder to learn provide the stone on which our talents are sharpened to their sharpest existence. You learn, in a more meaningful way than you ever have before. In fact, you may find hidden talents that would have never risen to the surface without the painful and necessary letting go of the past you, who no longer carries the ideas and thoughts that now embody your personal experience.
The everyday experiences of our existence are really only opportunities for learning everything, from our way of dealing with people to accepting how we feel about and view ourselves. I look at those young people who dream of an easy life and I understand why they feel that way, it would be nice to sail calm seas for life.
Yet to be tested and to find not only that you pass but you are made of sterner stuff than you ever would have imagined, is a lesson that is priceless. Do not fear the hard times, accept them as the learning experiences they are and do what all successful people do. Keep on moving forward with the lessons you have so honestly earned.
It seems that life does need to have moments of difficulty in order for us to examine the contents of our soul.