There are several sure-fire behaviors that we can all choose which are guaranteed to ruin your life, give you less happiness and cause you to be angry each day. Practice these things and you are guaranteed to be unhappy. Be careful because happiness will always seek a way into your life.
Be Mean to Others
A great place to start is to make sure that you are mean to other people. Most people are mean and accepting of others because we see faults in them that we see and dislike in ourselves. So look at what you dislike about yourself, recognize it in someone else and be mean to them. Gossip about them, name call and discriminate if you can.
Never learn to accept your flaws, because being mean to others is virtually impossible when this happens. Once you start to show kindness, your urge to be kind will grow. Soon kindness will outshine any mean thought and you will be accepting of others and yourself. Happiness is an uncontrollable byproduct of this situation so beware.
Whatever you do worry about yourself only. Let’s face it, you are the only one that matters. Everyone else only matters in as much as they contribute to the value of your life. If they can’t help you, forget them and find “friends” who are going to be able to advance your career and wealth in some way. Never put another person first or care what makes others happy.
If you should start putting other people first then your life would quickly become a happy experience. So be vigilant that this never happens. Once a person starts to give to others, it can grow into a habit. Giving is a precursor to receiving, so if you give love you are also going to receive it. It is almost impossible to be unhappy when you get kindness and love from others, so be vigilant. Each day is a new opportunity to be kind.
The funny thing is that if you allow a little gratitude for something, it is going to invite more of that very thing into your life. Soon you will be smiling all the time and happy without even realizing it. So make sure to be ungrateful in order to maintain a solid level of unhappiness in your life.
For no real reason other than you are completely miserable, send hate out to everyone and everything. That is sure to make you very unhappy. Be careful though because there are always going to be people who are going to want to love you despite all of your flaws.
Love is a very powerful emotion and once you start to allow it in your life it will have a tendency to grow. Soon before you know it, you won’t even be able to fathom how you ever hated anything. You will start to care about people and happiness will be the unstoppable result. You will send love to all people and the momentum in your life will be moving toward uncontrollable, unstoppable and unimaginable happiness. Who would want that?
Wallow in Self Pity
Finally one of the best ways to build and maintain unhappiness is to continually feel sorry for yourself and blame all circumstances and other people for any misfortune in your life, real or perceived. Always ask the question, “Why me?” or “Why do these things always happen to me?”. Never ever accept responsibility for your actions.
Be careful here because once a person stops feeling sorry for themselves they could find uncontrollable happiness in their lives. You will recognize this possibility when you start looking for solutions rather than wallowing in the past or letting challenges overwhelm you. Once you get past the why me mentality, happiness is easy to attain and hard to get rid of so be very careful about putting the past behind you, it will make your life better.
Nothing makes a person as unhappy as unlimited complaining. Be unhappy about everything and share it with anyone you come in contact with. Never let any positive words pass your lips. Even when good things happen, complain about them. Not only will you be unhappy but everyone around you will be unhappy too! It is a win-win.
The danger here is that some people will begin to use positive thinking. They will look at the good side of any situation, and that will definitely make them happy. When you speak with positive energy, you spread positive energy. So your positive talk can spread just as quickly as the complaining. Soon everyone you know will be happier and it will all be your fault. Watch out for positive thinking, it will make your life a happier experience.
As you can see from these examples that it is easy to make yourself unhappy if you want to. It seems like many people I run into daily, don’t need my advice in this area. Remember it takes just as much effort to choose to be happy as it does to be unhappy so choose your actions and thoughts wisely.