What Goes Around

Much of what I learn from other bloggers.
Much of what I learn from other creators.

What Goes Around Comes Around 

Finding motivation for new topics can be difficult and sometimes it is way more challenging than others.  Living in Maine there are a lot of inspirations; natural beauty, people, space all can contribute.   Yet the great thoughts I have been exposed to through reading great blogs online can really fuel the fire of creativity.  Below are some of the motivation I have been lucky to be exposed to. Mindfulness, listening, facing fear, and of course what goes around, does, in fact, come back around to you. What you send out does reappear in your life and it leads to some of the most interesting writing.

Playing the Game of Life

Taking Advice on the Game of life

learnThere is nothing I enjoy more than encouraging others.   I am at the stage of my life that I have been through enough to know life is not all sunshine and rainbows but have experienced enough to know that you can still be happy regardless.  In my interactions with others daily  I often find myself counseling people to relax and let life work itself out.  This is of course very difficult to do because we have been conditioned from birth to make things happen. To be the captain of our destinies. But the older I get the more I understand how very little I actually know. Life if much smarter than me and you too. Here are a few observations that life has taught me.

Treasure Chest of Life

What We Value

valuables 1It is revealing how the things we attach value to change over the years.  Some things that once meant everything to us, now mean absolutely nothing, and conversely, some things we didn’t value at all, come to mean everything in our lives as you grow and your values change.  I believe that understanding the things that are valuable or important to us is a huge part of growing and finding what makes you a happy, productive human being enjoying life on this planet. Let’s see what things I am putting into my treasure chest of life. 

What Matters Most

When you are 80 years old, what will matter to you the most?

4058994722_600px_Elongated_circle_80svg_xlargeLife once looked  like a straight road. A path to a predetermined end that was so simple to follow that it would be like playing a board game.

Put your marker at the start, take your turn, roll the dice and see if you can get to the finish before anybody else with more stuff than you need.  Life is not playing out that way for me, does it for anybody?

I know enough to know, that I do not know that I don’t know anything about what life might be like in a year from now, let alone in thirty-one years from now.

Life is Fair

 

fair lifeIf I heard it once, I have heard it a thousand times. Life is just not fair.  I have heard it from family members, friends, politicians and even from myself on more than one occasion.  I am here to tell you today that this statement is the biggest false cliché, defeatist statements that a person can listen to or accept.  Life is very fair and here is why.

Perspectives of Pain and Suffering

painful experiencesWhen a person says, life isn’t fair, they don’t really mean it. What they mean is, I am going through something that is less than pleasant, annoying, or downright heart wrenching, and I prefer it when others experience this stuff, not me.

Action Time

wd oooHow many great ideas are destroyed before they have a chance to take root? How many are discarded by the neglect of time? Due to fear of failure or a lack of self-confidence? The time to wait is over and the time for action is here.  Taking action is THE ingredient that turns the perfect combination of raw materials into a masterpiece.  A life is defined by the actions one takes or in many cases the inaction.

I wanted to share a few of the things I have learned about grasping your life by the throat through action.  none of them are very difficult to do but they can be daunting. I continually have to remind myself about these things.

My Curriculum

If you had to teach something, what would you teach?

564232_438576869504774_929540821_nPresented with the opportunity to teach anything I wanted, and assuming that anyone wanted to learn, there is no doubt that I would try to teach a few of the things I have learned from life that I think are important.

 There were many important things that I never really considered early on in life, which has proven to be invaluable and nearly vital knowledge today.

 These lessons may not be mind blowing but I think they are important for you to be all that you want to be in life.  Whether you think they have a place in your life or not is up to you.

No News. Is Good News!

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Give it a shot, stop watching. What do you have to lose but fear?

I am tremendously grateful for a conscious decision I made  about four years ago to stop watching the national news and leaving the fear mongering and celebrity worship behind.

I don’t seem to be missing out on anything positive and am just as informed as I always have been, but the real benefit is the fact that I have not been subject to the consistent stream of negativity that comes from any of the national news outlets.  I think  this enables me to be happier on a daily basis.

Wish I knew

What do you wish you spent more time doing Ten years ago?

Five years ago, life was very different.
Five years ago, life was very different.

Ten years brings many changes to life, I have changed jobs a few times, moved to new locations, and changed my entire outlook on life.

Looking back,  it is kind of amazing that so many experiences came to me in the short period of a few years.

Now, like most people looking through the lens of experience, there are many things I wish that I had been doing earlier in my life. But all is a process and you have to follow them step by step. What seems like wasted time is really time to learn.  A few of these lessons follow.

Weakness Watch

Self Evaluation Searching for Biggest Weakness

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Do Not Be Afraid To Try To Be A Better Person!

How often do you look at yourself and truly evaluate the greatest weakness? The honesty and emotions that are raised by this sort of inquiry are not dismissed lightly. I recently searched my life to identify my biggest weakness.

Now there are probably many that people who know me would think of, and some who don’t know me could come up with a lot more.  I never claimed to be perfect, but when it comes down to my absolute biggest weakness, it is the fact that I have cared way too much about what other people thought about me. 

Creating Space for Possibility

 Space

quote-Jonathan-Sacks-make-space-in-your-life-for-the-213035Change is an inevitable and vital part of life. Change is happening to everyone each day. Some of the differences are so imperceptible as to be invisible but they are there none the less. It is human nature I think, to want to hold tightly to the past and things we are comfortable with, like a child with a blanket, these ideas, and possessions present a form of comfort, even if they no longer serve us.

Embrace The Unknown

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Be grateful for What is Currently Unknown

All of us have a deep desire inside to know what is going to happen next.  Where are we going? What is the next step? What should I do now?

Sometimes it seems like it would be much easier if our lives were scripted in a book that we could read before hand, like a play.  Follow the script and you will eventually come to your happy ending and everything will be alright.  A happy ending for all situations.  That is just not the way that life works and I, for one, am grateful for it. Face the new experiences of life and bravely embrace the unknown. You really don’t have any other choice.

What is Normal?

no-normalThere is no such thing as normal.  Normal is a word that will bring a different vision to everyone’s mind, but to me each vision is biased by the experiences of the thinker.  My normal may seem ludicrous to you and what you do each day as a matter of life, may seem out of this world. The point to me is that there is no need to appoint a value of “normal” to anybody or anybody’s life.

Gratitude and Appreciation

gratitude-logoOne of the simple things in life that we all know we should do is practice gratitude for the things we have in our lives that bring happiness into our lives. It is easy to look at the struggles and challenges of life and forget to see all of the things that make each day a positive experience.  One of the best practices is to set aside a time of day to look at the past day and decide what it is that you are grateful for.

Appreciate The Flip Side

the flip side of lifeOnce I looked at life and only wanted the good things in my experience.  I think everyone would feel the same way, no sadness, no loss or grief, just happy things that are easy to deal with, yet we all know that life is not going to come as easily as that.  We all must go through some difficult times and I think that is OK because you will never appreciate the good in life unless there is the opposite aspect to compare it to. There is always a flip side.

Do You Really Think So?

thouths matterAre you aware that everything we think and do matters?  This is not something that I knew all my life and it is a concept that I think everyone should contemplate at least a little each day.  When you are looking at your life experiences and wondering why you are where you are, look back at your thoughts, choices and actions of the past and there will be a direct connection to the path that you are on right now.

Avoid the Negative Noise

Keeping it All Positive

challengesNo matter how confident and successful you are, life has a way of throwing challenges your way that will push you to make decisions every day which redefines who you are.  In everyone’s life, there are going to be events that force a constant expression of this experience.

In the end, even after facing a challenge I like to think that we have become a more galvanized feeling of who we are, and we hold on to beliefs with a more critical and realistic passion.

Look At The Time

Time is On Your Side, Even if it doesn’t Seem It

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We should all find activities in life that cause us to lose track of time and more importantly to not worry about what you “should” be doing with those precious moments.

 In our daily lives, we are controlled by the clock.  From the time we have to go to work to the time we are allowed to eat and the time we are able to rejoin the freedom of life yet again.  Time can be an all-controlling factor if you let it, but it doesn’t have to be. You can live your life on your own terms and in your own time.

Life’s Tough Lessons

The Hard Game of Life

Life is a hard game sometimes.  No matter what you do, or how you try to find the gentler 8235367099_8230f69c0cside of life, the easier the hard times seem to seek you out.  When I look at people who are in their late teens and early twenties today, I have a hard time not telling them to be careful. There are some dark times in every life. Don’t worry too much though because they will bring you a lesson that will help you learn a valuable lesson. DO NOT BE AFRAID!

Right Where You Belong

Enjoy the Ride

right wh. shoudl beFrom the time I was a very young child , I have always been in a hurry to get to the next destination.  I remember being a kid and just aching for the time when I would be older and be able to do whatever older kids got to do.

This is a pattern that came up a lot in my life and I am sure in your life too.  I can’t wait until this happens or that happens and then I will be able to do this or have that.