Welcome to My Oz

wizaThe Wizard of Oz has always been a classic, because of the message it teaches.   Yearly it is enjoyed by children of all ages, but because of the symbolic search, the characters embark on. The search for personal growth is one that I am very familiar, the ability to think, have a heart, maintain your courage and find a home.  I think we are all looking for the same things. Here are a few things I have learned on my trip through Oz.

What Others Think

caring-what-others-think-2One of the most common blocks people face in accomplishing their goals is the worry about what others think of your choices, behaviors or talents. How often have you stopped doing something because you didn’t want to look foolish or be picked on by someone else?

This is a limiting thought that can be easily changed if you start to focus on what you are doing in the moment and forget what others might be thinking about it, you will enjoy life a whole lot more and find success as well. There are several simple reasons that this is true.

How to Be Unhappy

unhappy 1There are several sure-fire behaviors that we can all choose which are guaranteed to ruin your life, give you less happiness and cause you to be angry each day. Practice these things and you are guaranteed to be unhappy.  Be careful because happiness will always seek a way into your life.

Be Mean to Others

A great place to start is to make sure that you are mean to other people. Most people are mean and accepting of others because we see faults in them that unhappy 2we see and dislike in ourselves. So look at what you dislike about yourself, recognize it in someone else and be mean to them. Gossip about them, name call and discriminate if you can.

Enjoy Every Second

It is not uncommon to move through a day on a very

Every second provides an experience that may never come again
Every second provides an experience that may never come again

strict schedule, moving from event to event merely marking time as a restriction in completing the actions of your day.  Move quickly, work quickly, think quickly, love quickly.  The conditioning of our lives leads us to value brevity in completing all tasks because it is viewed as the most efficient use of time.

Painful Power

greatnessLife isn’t always easy. The path of least resistance is most often not going to be your path.  Hardships and chaos can make you wonder what this is all for. Why do we have to experience painful moments? What is the point?

I have found accepting the difficult parts of life to be the hardest lessons learned. They are painful and cause you to look deep inside of yourself to find the truth.  You can feel angry, upset or out of control. Whatever your reaction to the events of your life, understand that the events are not going to change, but the reaction and growth you experience will.  So what is the point?

Let Go of Your History

udestiny historyrl So much of our lives revolve around the stories we tell. Not only the ones we tell others about our past but more importantly the stories we tell ourselves about the past. These stories about our perception of our history tend to color and temper the expectations that we have for ourselves today.  What is the value of this? It is time to let go of the history and move forward.

No Regrets

Don't Regret the Past
A Ship Carrying A Choice You Made

I was having a discussion with a friend the other day about all of the things we had done that in retrospect seemed like bad ideas.

Failed relationships, poor decisions, wrong turns on the path of life all came up, and my friend said the magic phrase, “If I knew then what I know now, things would be different.  If I could only do it all over again.”   That thought is probably one that everyone has had at some point in their lives.  I, myself, have thought this before, but not any longer.

Choices Define Life

“At some point in our life, every one must decide if they are a creator or a critic, a lover or a hater, a giver or a taker.” ~ Unknown

the choices are all yours
Choose wisely

Life is a short ride, and the decisions we make each day determine if that ride is a thrilling experience that makes you hold your breath or if it is a calm walk through the park.

The choices we make every day will determine the tone, happiness and satisfaction we get out of life. Choose well.

Escape

Many of us exist in prisons of our own making that stop us from expeiencing life fully
Many of us exist in prisons of our own making that stop us from experiencing life fully

Are you living life in the way that you really want? Do you say everything you want? Or do you hold back your true thoughts because of a fear that what you really think will cause suffering for you? If you are not confident enough in your ideas to speak them without fear, you are living in a prison.  If you don’t do exactly what you want because you are afraid of what others will think you are in a prison. I think that for much of my life I have been in a prison of my own making and it is time to organize a prison break. In order to escape your cage, you need to honestly assess its limitations.

3 Big Messages

 

what messageWho hasn’t wanted to spread a valuable message to a large number of people all at once?  That is the draw of blogging and writing.  It is alluring to share advice because you hope all of your mistakes and bad experiences can help others.  It would be great to have my thoughts and ideas help other people in a broad way.

I am stating my message, I want to make it one that a reader might remember and might have a positive effect on them.  We can only deliver the message, it is up to others to decide if they want to hear what we have to say. Here are 3 big messages from me to you!

Be Happier Now

  No Need To Wait, Be Happy Now

why you should be happier
Choose to be happier

We are all looking to be happier in life.  There are some simple steps that you can take each moment to improve your personal happiness and they are all easy to master. You simply need to have a consciousness about your actions.

Being generally happier about things in your life is a choice, and if you  look at things and truly aren’t happy about the way they are going,  then changes need to be made with a few simple choices. You can turn things around, right now, today, just by changing your focus.

Positive Personal Transformation

trustprocessAll things are changing at all times. Absolutely nothing or nobody stays exactly as they are right now. Either things are moving in a positive direction or they are becoming less positive and your life is a reflection of the transformation you are currently experiencing.

Personal wealth, health, and relationships are developing each day and your choices fuel that process one way or another. Fortunately, we are creators and can take charge of the transformation process. Here are 6 factors that lead change in a positive direction.

Smile!!!

  What makes you smile?    

Smiling is my favorite
Mine Too!

I have always felt that the endgame in life was to experience happiness, and one of the ways that we show this is to smile. Smiling shows an appreciation for whatever is unfolding in your life.

There are lots of different smiles we share with the world and I am here telling you that there are so many things that make me smile, I am not sure that I can mention them all here. I am trying just to encourage another to smile and feel a bit more positive about life.

A List

make a list
Who’s on your list?

I was reading a great article the other day which stated that we all have a list. This list contains people who need us or has needed us at some point, in some way in their lives. They are our personal assignments that we are destined to help achieve, get through or overcome something. Or perhaps just to help make their lives a little bit better and brighter. When you look at life like this, each interaction that you have throughout the day can put a new person on your list if you want it to.

How Old are You?

How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?

by Jonathan Hilton     

Why is it that we get all hung up on labeling our journey through life by the number of years we have simply existed.  I have to admit, when you are young, it is a great day to be the center of attention and get some great gifts, but that changes as you age.  From being kind of a neat day to becoming another discriminating notch on the journey of life.

The Health of Expressing Yourself

How does an event or situation make you feel?

Research indicates that in many cases when people are feeling physical pain, general malaise and chronic weariness the cause can be linked to unexpressed emotion.  As a society, and especially as men, we are not taught how to properly express our feelings or even to notice the message they are trying to send us.

Overcome Your Fear

Fear Lies

Fear is a Liar
Don’t Listen to fear

In all that we do and all that we try to accomplish, a person has to learn to deal with fear.  Fear comes to you through a voice in your head, warning you to be careful how far you stretch yourself, or to watch out for the things you do, the thoughts you think and the ideas you express.  This voice in your head discourages you and minimizes your efforts and talents, all in the name of safety and comfort.  One of the most freeing things I have learned is that fear is a liar. It lies to you about almost everything and choosing fear is going to lessen your experience and stop you from achieving anything of consequence.

No Approval Needed

I-AM-who-I-AMI was reminded today that I am grateful that I don’t really care what anyone else thinks about what I think and do.

I was reading a website which reminded me of all of the times when we are young that it becomes difficult to be who you are. Peer pressure, to be what and who society tells us we should limit us.  It can become a lifelong affliction if you aren’t careful. So today I am grateful that I don’t care what anyone else thinks about who I am and what I do.

Why Worry?

Mr. Worry Knows no worrying will really help anything.

Why is Worry A Waste of Time?

It is difficult to stop your mind from thinking about bad things that might happen.  When you really look at what you are thinking, much of it is based on thoughts that are untamed, repetitive and based entirely on fear.  These are the worries that keep you up at night but have no chance of really occurring.

But yet we worry on.  But there are some people who seem to have a built-in mechanism that allows them to release these negative thoughts before they settle into their brain and create another wrinkle or make you physically ill.  because in the end, that is all that worry will ever do for you.

Some Favorite Thoughts

Read William George Jordan and Be A Better Person

William George Jordan being the best we can be
You Are Better Than Most

One of my favorite authors is William George Jordan.  The reason for this is that his thoughts on many topics clearly resonate with me on so many levels.  If you are wondering if you are doing the right thing or moving along the right path, pick up a book by W.G. Jordan and you will understand more about it than you may have wanted to.  Here is a short list of topics he has helped clear up for me.