Each day we are given a new opportunity to create greatness both in the world we live in and in our personal lives. It seems that as we embark on our daily adventure it can be derailed most often by our own limiting thoughts and fear based behavior. I wonder what would happen if we were able to fully grasp the magic that is available in each and every day and make life the grand show it was meant to be.
This is a much more difficult concept than it appears on the surface. You can’t just will yourself to be happy. It has to come from the focus of your daily consciousness. As you become more aware of positive things inside of you, the level of happiness you experience will increase.
I think that no matter how far along you have come in life there are always some things that have stuck with you and even though you think that you have let go of it, you really haven’t.
For me to be happy in life and to really enjoy the experiences that I am blessed with every day, there is a constant letting go of perceived slights, whether big or small from others. Forgive the people, let the act go and release the negative from your life.
What Goes Around Comes Around
Finding motivation for new topics can be difficult and sometimes it is way more challenging than others. Living in Maine there are a lot of inspirations; natural beauty, people, space all can contribute. Yet the great thoughts I have been exposed to through reading great blogs online can really fuel the fire of creativity. Below are some of the motivation I have been lucky to be exposed to. Mindfulness, listening, facing fear, and of course what goes around, does, in fact, come back around to you. What you send out does reappear in your life and it leads to some of the most interesting writing.
Taking Advice on the Game of life
There is nothing I enjoy more than encouraging others. I am at the stage of my life that I have been through enough to know life is not all sunshine and rainbows but have experienced enough to know that you can still be happy regardless. In my interactions with others daily I often find myself counseling people to relax and let life work itself out. This is of course very difficult to do because we have been conditioned from birth to make things happen. To be the captain of our destinies. But the older I get the more I understand how very little I actually know. Life if much smarter than me and you too. Here are a few observations that life has taught me.
What We Value
It is revealing how the things we attach value to change over the years. Some things that once meant everything to us, now mean absolutely nothing, and conversely, some things we didn’t value at all, come to mean everything in our lives as you grow and your values change. I believe that understanding the things that are valuable or important to us is a huge part of growing and finding what makes you a happy, productive human being enjoying life on this planet. Let’s see what things I am putting into my treasure chest of life.
When you are 80 years old, what will matter to you the most?
Put your marker at the start, take your turn, roll the dice and see if you can get to the finish before anybody else with more stuff than you need. Life is not playing out that way for me, does it for anybody?
I know enough to know, that I do not know that I don’t know anything about what life might be like in a year from now, let alone in thirty-one years from now.
If I heard it once, I have heard it a thousand times. Life is just not fair. I have heard it from family members, friends, politicians and even from myself on more than one occasion. I am here to tell you today that this statement is the biggest false cliché, defeatist statements that a person can listen to or accept. Life is very fair and here is why.
Perspectives of Pain and Suffering
When a person says, life isn’t fair, they don’t really mean it. What they mean is, I am going through something that is less than pleasant, annoying, or downright heart wrenching, and I prefer it when others experience this stuff, not me.
How many great ideas are destroyed before they have a chance to take root? How many are discarded by the neglect of time? Due to fear of failure or a lack of self-confidence? The time to wait is over and the time for action is here. Taking action is THE ingredient that turns the perfect combination of raw materials into a masterpiece. A life is defined by the actions one takes or in many cases the inaction.
I wanted to share a few of the things I have learned about grasping your life by the throat through action. none of them are very difficult to do but they can be daunting. I continually have to remind myself about these things.
If you had to teach something, what would you teach?
Presented with the opportunity to teach anything I wanted, and assuming that anyone wanted to learn, there is no doubt that I would try to teach a few of the things I have learned from life that I think are important.
There were many important things that I never really considered early on in life, which has proven to be invaluable and nearly vital knowledge today.
These lessons may not be mind blowing but I think they are important for you to be all that you want to be in life. Whether you think they have a place in your life or not is up to you.
I am tremendously grateful for a conscious decision I made about four years ago to stop watching the national news and leaving the fear mongering and celebrity worship behind.
I don’t seem to be missing out on anything positive and am just as informed as I always have been, but the real benefit is the fact that I have not been subject to the consistent stream of negativity that comes from any of the national news outlets. I think this enables me to be happier on a daily basis.
Self Evaluation Searching for Biggest Weakness
How often do you look at yourself and truly evaluate the greatest weakness? The honesty and emotions that are raised by this sort of inquiry are not dismissed lightly. I recently searched my life to identify my biggest weakness.
Now there are probably many that people who know me would think of, and some who don’t know me could come up with a lot more. I never claimed to be perfect, but when it comes down to my absolute biggest weakness, it is the fact that I have cared way too much about what other people thought about me.
What do you wish you spent more time doing Ten years ago?
Ten years bring many changes to life, I have changed jobs a few times, moved to new locations, and changed my entire outlook on life.
Looking back, it is kind of amazing that so many experiences came to me in the short period of a few years.
Now, like most people looking through the lens of experience, there are many things I wish that I had been doing earlier in my life. But all is a process and you have to follow them step by step. What seems like wasted time is really time to learn. A few of these lessons follow.
Change is an inevitable and vital part of life. Change is happening to everyone each day. Some of the differences are so imperceptible as to be invisible but they are there none the less. It is human nature to hold tightly to the past and the things we are comfortable with, like a child with a blanket, these ideas, and possessions present a form of comfort, even if they no longer serve us in any meaningful way.
All of us have a deep desire inside to know what is going to happen next. Where are we going? What is the next step? What should I do now?
Sometimes it seems like it would be much easier if our lives were scripted in a book that we could read before hand, like a play. Follow the script and you will eventually come to your happy ending and everything will be alright. A happy ending for all situations. That is just not the way that life works and I, for one, am grateful for it. Face the new experiences of life and bravely embrace the unknown. You really don’t have any other choice.
There is no such thing as normal. Normal is a word that will bring a different vision to everyone’s mind, but to me each vision is biased by the experiences of the thinker. My normal may seem ludicrous to you and what you do each day as a matter of life, may seem out of this world. The point to me is that there is no need to appoint a value of “normal” to anybody or anybody’s life.
It is easy to look at the struggles and challenges of life and forget to see all of the things that make each day a positive experience. One of the best practices is to set aside a time of day to look at the past day and decide what it is that you are grateful for.
Once I looked at life and only wanted the good things in my experience. I think everyone would feel the same way, no sadness, no loss or grief, just happy things that are easy to deal with, yet we all know that life is not going to come as easily as that. We all must go through some difficult times and I think that is OK because you will never appreciate the good in life unless there is the opposite aspect to compare it to. There is always a flip side.
Are you aware that everything we think and do matters? This is not something that I knew all my life and it is a concept that I think everyone should contemplate at least a little each day. When you are looking at your life experiences and wondering why you are where you are, look back at your thoughts, choices, and actions of the past and there will be a direct connection to the path that you are on right now.
When you are looking at your life experiences and wondering why you are where you are, look back at your thoughts, choices, and actions of the past and there will be a direct connection to the path that you are on right now.
Keeping it All Positive
No matter how confident and successful you are, life has a way of throwing challenges your way that will push you to make decisions every day which redefines who you are. In everyone’s life, there are going to be events that force a constant expression of this experience.
In the end, even after facing a challenge I like to think that we have become a more galvanized feeling of who we are, and we hold on to beliefs with a more critical and realistic passion.