What Goes Around, Comes Around

Much of what I learn from other bloggers.
Much of what I learn from other bloggers.

by Jonathan Hilton

One of my favorite methods for coming up with topics to write about is to take a lesson or two from the other blogs that I have read throughout the day and expound upon their ideas. I make a list of thought-provoking messages and try to apply them to my own experience. Living in Jefferson, Maine there isn’t a whole lot of other inspiration.   I have done this directly or indirectly.  If I have commented on your site, then your thought has most likely made my list.  This is what I have been enlightened by today.

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Mindfulness is Important

mindfulnessIn so many ways, I can lose focus on what I am currently doing. Sometimes my mind runs backward into the mist of the past. Just as often it is pulled forward into the fantasy of what may come.

Still more taxing to my mind is the practice of trying to do 12 things at once. I lose focus on enjoying whatever I am doing in the name of hurry.  All of the things that I accomplished today I was careful to do them each one at a time, or at least when I caught myself doing something and thinking about something else, I focused.   I found that I got all of the tasks done better and completed quicker.

One of the great things I read was all of the helpful exercises that you can do to bring yourself back into the moment.  These are simple things and some can even be done in the middle of work because they don’t take much time, and they are unobtrusive.  Some are more for the home.  I like to try new things so this added some interesting thought to my day as well as making me more productive and enjoying life much more.

Listen to Your heart

Quiet the mind. listen carefully.
Quiet the mind. listen carefully.

It doesn’t matter what your religion or philosophy is, as a human being living on the face of the Earth you have to deal with the voices of your Ego. Without going into a lot of detail, this is the voice your often hear that tells you negative things about yourself. Its major function is to keep you safe, but in doing that it can provide devastating feedback and negative comments that destroy your self-esteem.

Today I was reminded that even though you may never be able to get rid of this part of yourself altogether, you can learn to listen to it less and less.  Through practice, you can recognize when these thoughts come to you.  Anytime you think, “I am not good enough”, or “You most likely will fail.” Then you are listening to your ego. The alternative is to listen to your heart.

Your heart knows all and what is best for you and can answer any question because your heart is your connection to the universe.  The voice of the heart is not as loud as the ego. Much like it is difficult to hear sound advice with a siren screaming in your ear, the ego distracts and drowns out this voice you should be hearing.  It is always there, always has been and always will be. You simply need to ask a question and be able to listen for the answer.

I do not want to be a cowardly lion.
I do not want to be a cowardly lion.

 Facing My Fear

I was caused to reflect that no matter how much distance we have covered in life there are still some fears that I need to address on a nearly daily basis to be free of their grip.  For me it is the fear of worrying about what other people think of me.  How much that shyness affected me all of my life and how only recently have I really gotten a complete handle on it.

I am sure there are others who know what I speak about, the feeling of just wanting to fit in and not stand out in any way because then you might be afraid all of your faults will be noticed by the world.   The side effect of this thought pattern is that you are afraid to let anyone really see the real you, which is too much of a risk.  This can stop you from enjoying many things in life.

As you grow older and experience teaches you other lessons, you get to a point where you have to just say to hell with all of that stuff. It is time to be me and some will like it and some will not and that is the way it goes.  At least when you close your eyes at night, you know that you have been the best you that you can be today! There is not much better we can do than that.

What Goes Around, Comes Back Around

goes aroundThis was a song by Justin Timberlake, and I was reminded that I do not have a high respect for his acting ability, but more importantly I remembered the truth of this phrase in life.

Basically it is a karmic statement that what you put out into the world is going to come back to you and most often with a little extra.  Most significantly today I was thinking about how we treat others.  If you lie to someone and treat them unfairly then someone is most likely going to treat you unfairly.

Often times we are so personally involved in the situations of our lives that we never notice this game in action until you take a step back and look at the whole game board, that we can see the connection between our own actions and the experiences we have.

I only know that my decision is to be honest, kind, caring and thoughtful because that is all I can control in life.

 In Order To Move Forward, Leave the Past Behind You

This is a part of what I read:

I wish you gone, dear memory,
I wish I didn’t have to remember every detail…..

I wish I could be free
Of the shackles that you have in me…..

I wish for forgiveness
I wish for it to never have happened….

forget pastI remembered how this felt.  We have all been there, a person is gone and it is for good. There may have been good reasons, but even though they are gone a part of them remains. The pain is caused by a longing for the past.   Eventually we learn to move on and let it go, the shackles of that memory are loosed and you find that love isn’t a prison sentence placing you in a memory cell, it is the power that sets you free.

Final Thought

Really today I was struck by so much good writing and thought that I could really have kept going but I only have a bit of time to write.  Now my secret is out, I get much of my motivation and inspiration from the people who create so wonderfully each and every day! Blogging  is a garden of ideas and a playground for thought!


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30 thoughts on “What Goes Around, Comes Around”

  1. There are so many great thoughts here, thanks for sharing all you’ve learned with us. I was thinking maybe you should have a daily column called “this is what I have been enlightened by today.” :-)

    1. Not a bad idea! I still have about 15 things in my notebook. :-) I am on the road out the door so I am still waiting for my next project. I am thinking you are going to tell me.

      1. haha well if anything amazing comes to mind I’ll be more than happy to share it with you, but I’m certain your own creative genius will be your answer.

    1. Oh Ann you are perfect just the way you are! Thank you so much for commenting and taking the time to read my own ramblings! :-) I hope all is well with you, it looks like spring might actually be coming soon.

      1. Well thank you jon, aren’t you nice. ;-) I have become quite a fan of your ramblings. Spring is finally arriving here I hope it’s on it’s way to you up north.

        1. Feels like spring might be coming here finally Ann! Thank you so much for reading and commenting on my ramblings!! I am very grateful for that .

    1. Thank you again for visiting and commenting, I have done a lot of work on the ego part of my mind and am far from complete but miles ahead of where I used to be. I think that when I can do this and quiet those thoughts the answers come quite easily. So grateful that you took the time to read a bit of my blog, means a lot to me that you would do that! Thank you! :-)

  2. Oh me too Jon! Joining the blogging community has been the greatest decision I have made in recent times. It has changed me completely. I have learnt so much, and I am eternally grateful for the friends I have made via my blog. There are so many people – yourself included – with fascinating life stories, and so many lessons to share. There is very rarely a day goes by that I don’t learn or grow in some way from a blog I have read.

    1. I am honored to be included as one of your friends Meg. You have done such a great job of sharing information and I have seen growth in you over the past few months. Since we are still on the same kind of journey, looking to be the best people we can be. It is always exciting to read your blog and see what you are up to. Thanks for all you do Meg!! :-)

  3. Very different approach! I liked it. I learn a lot from reading others blogs as well. It always sparks something I think I might want to write about. It’s great to be apart of such an inspiring community!

    1. Once in a very great while, I am right. I knew you would love this community and it would help you so much in blogging, writing and life! That is what I did and have gotten out of this, and I never would have done it or known anything about it if it wasn’t for you, at the end of last September encouraging me to write, which started my first 30 day project. Which led to me finding about this wonderful world of blogging. Such a difference for the world.

      1. I’m glad I could help! Writing is so theraputic. It only makes sense to get the most of it that you can if you love to do it! I’m happy to see you’ve made so much progress, great job!

        1. thanks writing is really fun and my major mode of creativity. I think it is the creativity of it that connects you to who you are and in many ways makes you appreciate being alive. I have enjoyed our little project. I am also excited to see what you come up with next!

  4. There are so many wonderful people out there to draw inspiration from. I would be surprised if we haven’t all read what someone else has written and used that to create something of our own at one point or another… I know I’ve come up with several post ideas from comments back and forth at the ends of posts.

    1. I am considering my next project to be a daily rundown of the things I have learned through interactions just like this. When I have read a post and commented on it I make a quick note in my notebook of the idea and the source. For example I just checked and I had two down from you. Not that I am guaranteed to use them in that manner but good ideas to write about. One was Why people love their pets and the other was Don’t put a limit on your creativity. Simple ideas but I can see a post being written about either. It is interesting to me the number of ideas that flow around my small corner of the internet. Just to give you an idea about the number I have accumulated today, there are two pages worth, just since about 9 am this morning. I read when I have a spare moment so here and there and I filled up two pages. Thank you Matt for your participation I am always grateful for it.

        1. You have a lot on your plate right now. Better take care of the fatherhood deal, that is a lot of change in a life. It seems to be working for me. great Ideas by so many great people!

    1. Thank you for the comment. Yes stop listening to that voice that tells you all that bad stuff. Listen to the one that tells you how smart and super you are. Because obviously, you are. :-) I am grateful for the comment and the visit, I was just about to read a post on your site about Blogging in my birthday suit. Seems like there is a naked agenda out there! :-) You are one cool cat!

  5. Like you, I’ve struggled with shyness my whole life. I’m only now coming to the realisation that it is, in a way, a selfish act… to withdraw and withhold from others. Like you say, what goes around, comes around, and so too for contributing and giving of yourself in conversation with others. It’s not something I’ve mastered by any means, but it does seem to get easier with age :)

    1. Shyness to me was a hiding place, a way to stay invisible. When deep down I wanted to world to take notice. When I was in my teens I just tried to fit in as well as I could and not draw attention to myself. Unless it was in athletics. I have found that reaching out and being my true self, as best I can has allowed me to meet wonderful people from all over the world, like yourself Alarna! I think that for me my perceptions and vision became sharper with age, and I cared less what others think and more about what I could do! I am so grateful for the comment and am waiting patiently for the famous children’s book you write. :-)

        1. I did not know that there were some published works out there, so I am going to spend some time today checking them out! I am sure they are wonderful. I will let you know what I think!!

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