Beginnings

By Jonathan Hilton

beginningBeginnings can be tough. You aren’t yet privy to all of the nuances that make whatever you do easy to slide through with as little resistance as possible. This is true of a new home, a new job, a new relationship, any time you are beginning anything at all! It is also true with life.

Most people don’t have someone who can fill them in on what to expect in this adventure called life.  As you go through life there are many experiences that you will have to deal with. Many tests seem pointless in the moment but the value is only revealed to your years later.   There are many things to learn in life, and one of the most important is who you exactly are. That is a beginning. 

Beginning of School

constant educatonAs you may have figured out the beginning of your education did not start when you entered kindergarten and it didn’t end when you graduated from high school, college, grad school, etc.

Life is a consistent educational experience that usually teaches its lessons with the cold and hard trial and error. We try, we fail, we learn, we plan, we try again. Continually it goes on, and those that are lucky learn quick and those who don’t often lag behind.  The great thing is that as long as you are alive you will always have a chance to catch up.

Beginning to Accept Weaknesses

weaknessGoing along with school and learning, you will find out early and often that a consistent theme in life is making mistakes.  Fortunately for us, mistakes are often hard masters that sear their lessons into your existence. It doesn’t take too many heart wrenching, face slaps of reality to know that some mistakes don’t need to be made more than once.

If you are a slow learner, life will continually flog you with the same mistakes, until you finally get it.  Don’t worry about finishing the course because you will continue to make mistakes your entire life.  Not letting yourself be beaten up by mistakes because of someone else’s perception of you, agenda of life or just plain miserable is the trick. Stand up, dust yourself off and try again.

Your Authentic Self

Ecstasy is simply awareness of your authentic selfEvery person is born with authentic talent or skill that belongs exclusively to them. Life is appears to me to be a process where that authentic you is continually covered up and often times forgotten.  There are many ways in which this happens, one is people tell you that your authentic self isn’t good enough, or silly or unrealistic, or doesn’t fit into what society accepts.

The other is by ourselves, as we make mistakes and fall short, we let it discourage us. When mistakes happen we pine away for a better decision in the past. Our authentic selves gets buried underneath the harsh evaluation of I should have done that, or I could have done this, or I would have gone there.  We pile on the blame to our selves and soon we only know we fall short, we are less than what we should be.

You Alone Can Do It

jordan qupteThe good news is that there is another beginning that comes to most people, it is the beginning of searching for that authentic self. It may start as a gentle nudge in your soul,  you may just feel like things aren’t quite right.  Or it may be jarred loose by a tragic event. The idea of who you are suddenly uncovered by the violent rock slide of events.

One thing I have learned is that there is no one path to reach this, no one process, but many that can work for different individuals.  Some just know what their true self is all about, others have to keep searching through the rubble of regret and self-criticism until the truth is discovered like gold in the midst of so much dirt and debris.

Yes it can and will be found.  We seem to spend the first half of our lives hiding this treasure and the second half is spent trying to get back to this unique inner talent and strength that you have.  This journey can only be taken by you, there are those that will help you along the way but in the end it has to be you that accepts yourself, your talent and your responsibility.  These are the most extraordinary beginnings.

 

 

12 thoughts on “Beginnings”

  1. Great words! Sometimes we get so caught up living our routines that we forget the whole point of life and history keeps on repeating itself over and over. Awareness is key, your post raises this awareness. This was cool thanks for sharing.

    1. These writings I have done the last few days are a part of a writing project I am doing with a young lady who I used to coach at basketball back when she was a kid and I was young. It is interesting to see, that with the whole world of topics, I take each one and turn towards building awareness. Today’s will not be, I don’t think, but you never know. Thank you Raimy for reading and commenting. I appreciate it so much.

  2. Great post, Jonathan. Aptly timed for me. I am at the beginning of a new chapter of my life. I have made mistakes, but have learned from them. I am excited to realize my authentic self. Thanks for being a coach on this journey. {{{Hugs]}} Kozo

    1. You don’t need to thank me, I learn so much from everyone and from your blog as well. Mistakes are a part of the deal, aren’t they? I always try to see that they are a part of the puzzle and if we get back far enough we can see where they fit perfectly. I am excited for you beginning a new adventure. I am right with you, wishing you all of the happiness you can find. Searching for our authentic selves is the name of the game I think. Once you find that, you at least know where you should be going. I appreciate your support and friendship. as you know Kozo, you are the man!

    1. Don’t we all. I think that is a part of the adventure of life, trying to figure out what exactly our contribution to the world should be. All I know is that I am closer to finding out the answer to what I should be doing today. Thank you for reading and commenting Ann, I appreciate it so much. Are you really ramblin? :-) I just like typing that word. Come and comment anytime!!

      1. I tried to answer your question a couple days ago. I had the post all written and my computer hiccuped and poof it was gone. The Ramblin started many years ago when I was a moderator on a message board. I could ramble on and on and on. At the expense of dating myself I will also admit loving Dickie Betts (Ramblin Man) not so much that song, but the artist. I am also from the Zepplin generation. Ramble On. I do love to ramble too. If I could I would have a semi big motor home and travel around with my hubby, dog, and 3 cats. So as you can see I really am ramblin. :-)

        1. That is great! I will keep an eye out for a semi big motor home chugging across the country. I have always wanted to do that. I love Led Zeppelin and I know who Dickie Betts is. So that isn’t too bad. I am glad you dropped a comment here. I look forward to reading more from you!!

  3. NIce post! This and the previous one remind me of a quote from ‘Mr. Nobody: “Every path is the right path. Everything could have been anything else and it would have just as much meaning.”

    :)

    1. Thank you for reading and commenting! I have been hitting on a theme in my writing the past few days. Not on purpose but subconsciously. That is a great quote you added here, I love it, and I think it is true. I am grateful for your contributions and for writing such wonderful things on your blog. It is awesome.

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