Does Life Have to Be Hard?

by Jonathan Hilton

Life is a hard game sometimes.  No matter what you do, or how you try to find the gentler 8235367099_8230f69c0cside of life, the easier the hard times seem to seek you out.  When I look at people who are in their late teens and early twenties today, I have a hard time not telling them to be careful.

Be looking for the tough times that are inevitably going to come.  Yet you know that even if these words were spoken they would be summarily dismissed as the rants of someone who is too old to understand the world today.   Yet, I know that in twenty years that conversation will be quite different.   Some of those “hard times” will give you your greatest gifts and allow you to stretch to lengths that you would have never reached without them.

If Experiences Didn’t Hurt, You Wouldn’t Pay Attention

The experiences we have every day are not meant to be either easy or hard.  Enjoyable or unpleasant.  They are simply experiences that we apply our own labels to based on our 304291_403371469749477_15828334_nexpectations of life and our limited knowledge of everything.

It is difficult to address most things that way, because if they are unpleasant or not desired, how can you not dislike that moment?  If you had a broken arm or found out that you had cancer or any other experience that is on the negative side, who wouldn’t wish that away.  Yet, it is in these moments of despair and testing that our true character and strength is revealed.

Personally, my own dark times were not welcome, and for a long time I blamed everyone for the fact that things were taken from me.  There was a lot of time wasted because in the end, those experiences I detested and wanted to avoid, allowed me to become more than I ever dreamed I could be.

Life doesn’t have to be hard, but the lessons that are harder to learn provide the stone on which our talents are sharpened to their sharpest existence.  You learn, in a more meaningful way than you ever have before.  In fact, you may find hidden talents that would have never risen to the surface without the painful and necessary letting go of the past you, who no longer carries the ideas and thoughts that now embody your personal experience.

 

The everyday experiences of our existence are really only opportunities for learning everything, from our way of dealing with people to accepting how we feel about and view ourselves.  I look at those young people who dream of an easy life and I understand why they feel that way, it would be nice to sail calm seas for life.

Yet to be tested and to find not only that you pass but you are made of sterner stuff than you ever would have imagined, is a lesson that is priceless. Do not fear the hard times, accept them as the learning experiences they are and do what all successful people do.  Keep on moving forward with the lessons you have so honestly earned.

It seems that life does need to have moments of difficulty in order for us to examine the contents of our soul.

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13 thoughts on “Does Life Have to Be Hard?

  1. thehappyhugger

    Totally agree with you, Jonathan. Experiences are the school of life. I smiled when I read your opening lines, because I have a twenty year old daughter and I do that, I keep giving advice and, well, its just as you said. I remember my own mother giving me advice and me not listening and then later thinking, I wish I had have listened to my mum.

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    1. J.D.

      Isn’t that something? I don’t try to give advice anymore because I think it is something we all just have to go through. There are some lessons that seemingly have to be learned first hand in order to stick. I know that your daughter has received good advice from you Michelle, yet listening???? We both know how that goes. Always love to hear from you, hope you are having a great week in South Africa.

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  2. Kim @ Tranquil Dreams

    I’m loving this post! Hard times makes us learn to see the good and be grateful for what we have. It lets us to learn to deal with things as they come and that everything happens for a reason! Its something I’m trying to get through to one of my friends who is going through some drama in her life.

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    1. J.D.

      We are all going through some drama, aren’t we? Everything seems to work itself out in the end if you don’t spend too much time fighting against it. I hope that your friend finds the strength to get through the drama and find the lesson on the other side. I am so grateful for the comment Kim, you always make my day.

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  3. I Am Jasmine Kyle

    What a thoughtful post John. Yes things always work out in the end and we should stress less. I think that’s a hard task for anyone. I tried last winter to teach my self this lesson when things were SO bad. I have PTSD so my disorder and anxiety don’t let me react mildly. It’s a JUGGLING ACT! But your post reminded me of this lesson last winter so it was a GREAT REMINDER! Thanks for this post. Hopefully it will help keep me calm.

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    1. J.D.

      Thanks Jasmine! So good to hear from you! Hope your record is moving forward and your career is about to take off! I hope you remember to let go a little and see the great things you have in your life. There are a lot of difficulties in life that we all have to overcome, I hope that you are doing better with you PTSD, it can be so hard to react as we would ideally like all the time. I hope all is going well for you this summer!!

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      1. I Am Jasmine Kyle

        Everything is set, album release is set for Sept 17. Very exciting! I love the album it”s not PERFECT but for what my budget was I did an AMAZING job!
        The PTSD is starting to cool down it’s been bad lately it only likes to come out when things are really good. It’s FUN that way! Thanks for your support and your post was great! CHEERS!

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    1. J.D.

      Hey there Georgina, it is good to be back, I have been away working as an administrator for a summer camp in Maine. Long hours, great experiences and wonderful people. I am coming back to blog on a more full time basis, but it was great to see your facebook, I have left you a friend request, I also have a Facebook page to follow as well where I post my articles and inspirational sayings and such. It was almost shocking to see your actual picture!! :-) Thank you for taking the time to say hi, it is great of you. I have missed being involved in the blog world!

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      1. georgefloreswrite

        I’m glad that you had something fun going on for summer and I look forward to your posts. Yes, the picture is shocking especially since I act so immature at times. See you soon, Jonathan, I missed you!

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