Life is such a crazy, wild, up and down ride that it can be difficult for anyone to deal with. Sometimes there seems to be no rhyme or reason why things happen and dealing with the sudden, quick changes that are thrown at us makes it hard to understand if there is something that we should or could be doing better. I mean, in the end, shouldn’t we be happy? Shouldn’t our daily routines and struggles bring us personal satisfaction and make us feel valuable as individuals? I think that it should, and one way to do this is to practice positive thinking.
What Positive Thinking Means To Me
I don’t think that positive thinking means you only have bright happy thoughts because that would be impossible and unrealistic. Everyone has darker thoughts each and every day, you really can’t help it. Our ego has been building protective thoughts our entire lives and some of these are not very nice. Your ego and its voice are designed to keep you safe.
Your ego is conditioned by your experience, so if you gave something your all and failed, this is fodder for the ego to tell you the next time you want to put everything into something, negative thoughts about you and your ability. From what I have read most of these conditioning experiences happen early on in life, but all of life’s adventures can add to it. Learning to recognize and ignore this voice is the key to positive thinking to me.
It’s Not a Cover Up
We all make choices that we know weren’t good. I know I have, and in hindsight, I can’t believe how foolish and thoughtless some decisions were. What was I thinking? I used to beat myself up all the time about these choices, and they were a part of my daily existence.
Positive thinking does not mean to forget or overlook these negative/poor choices, it is a way to put them into proper perspective. Accept that these things happened, then leave them in the past where they belong, because no amount of second guessing, longing, or fantasy replay in your head is going to change what happened in the past.
All that you can control is what you think about that situation. This doesn’t mean sugar coat it or ignore it, but to deal with it process it and move on.
What is A Positive Thought
I think that there are two schools of thought and emotion. They come from a place of love or a place of fear. You can imagine that love brings with it peace, understanding, empathy, sympathy, kindness, hope, truth and of course love. Fear brings hate, doubt, anger, jealousy, resentment, lies, inferiority and ego.
Positive thinking is embracing the thoughts of love and paying no attention to the thoughts of fear. This doesn’t mean that you don’t have them because we all do. Someone makes you mad or treats you poorly and the thoughts of fear will rise. You will always have a choice at this point, let them rule your actions, or recognize them, experience them and don’t let them rule your actions.
This doesn’t mean you let people walk all over you because you can defend yourself and your being without resorting to hateful, violent or unhealthy thoughts. You can do it with understanding, empathy, and love.
Another Positive Thought
For me, when I started to realize that I could entertain whatever thought I wanted, it changed the way I looked at the world and the people in it. Really the power of knowing that I was in charge of how I felt was overwhelming. It made me want to learn more because experiencing life through this lens was a much more fulfilling and enjoyable.
This led to more social experiments and finding the reaction of others is almost always a mirror of the emotions you show to them. Strangers smile and are friendly when you extend friendship. People appreciate you when you show them appreciation. It is not hard to look at what someone else does and appreciate the thought, time and talent it took to create whatever it is.
Let Things Play Out
It never ceases to amaze me that when something happens to you, good, bad, or neutral, almost always there is a path the growth or development in front of you all you have to do is take it. I have beat myself up and ridiculed myself for years about decisions in my past, only to realize I was wasting my time because those things actually set in motion circumstances that greatly benefited me in the end. I also came to know that those benefits would have never been able to occur in any other way.
I think that when I relax and let events play out, and accept what is happening that I can achieve greatness. This doesn’t mean we are off the hook on taking action because we always have a choice and we have the ability to act. Don’t be afraid to act, but understand that your action may end up in failure, but that failure may be the step you need to take to reach the highest potential, that you have inside you.
You Are Great, There is Really Nothing You Can Do About it!
Now it is time to stop blaming yourself for the past. You made choices, you took your throws, and it didn’t turn out how you hoped. Accept it, learn from it and move on to the rest of your life. You were not put on the Earth to think about the past, you are here to be great! Because you know what? You are great and there isn’t a damn thing you can do about it!
Everyone is born with a greatness inside of them, and some easily find it. Some have to work harder because life is full of should haves, would haves and could haves that will consume your mind. This shouldn’t happen, because I can’t even conceive of the level of greatness that is inside of you. Only you can let it out. That is about all anyone can hope for.