The conversation occurs subtly behind the actions of
the day. It is one that we are a huge part of but we rarely take the time to analyze the tone or tenor in which we are speaking. This is self-talk, an ongoing dialogue inside your head that will contribute commentary on the happenings you experience. Too often people just accept the conversation and it is most decidedly dripping with negativity. We tend to be extremely hard on ourselves and give extremely harsh criticism, often crushing our own confidence and self-esteem. Once a person becomes aware of this talk though they can make the conscious effort to change their self-talk and start building a more positive self-image. This will change the way you look at yourself and the way others look at you as well.
Why So Negative and Hard on Yourself?
In the development of life, there is a programming which takes place. All people are given beliefs or programming through the early experience of their lives. Interactions with parents, siblings, relatives, friends, teachers and the media, combine to let us know the rules of this game called life. Most of the messages are learned through pain and we learn to want to avoid pain and seek pleasure. The talk in your head is generally geared to avoiding bad, but things to a bit haywire.
The programming we experienced was mostly completed when we were between 5-10 years old and has become obsolete, outdated or just plain untrue. When you start to notice this voice and see how negative it is, you can then make the choice to change your programming and not allow negative, callous or defeatist thoughts to exist in your mind. You have the power to change and it starts with personal awareness of your thoughts. If you believe you are incapable of doing something then you certainly will be. It is self-defeating and most aren’t even aware it is happening.
Be Kind to You, Change the Self Talk
As you look at this conversation and hear the comments your mind is producing, ask yourself with each one, “Is this true?”, “Is this kind?”, “Is this necessary?” If the comments are not all of these things, you should probably pay no mind to it.
How you treat yourself is going to be important to the experience you have in life. If a person is not going to treat themselves with respect, encouragement, and understanding, then who will?
Take a moment today and listen to re are your self-talk and decide if the conversation needs to change. All people are capable of quick and dramatic change in this area simply by making a decision to treat themselves better.
If you are not going to treat yourself in a caring and loving manner, why would anyone else?
Change from I can’t to I CAN
Change from No to Yes
Change from I have Doubts to I have no Doubts
Change from Impossible to Possible
Change from I’m Unable to I Am Able
Stop expecting the worst and Demand the Best!
For every negative, self-defeating phrase you have ever spoken there is a positive opposite waiting to be noticed and used.