Beliefs are the ideas which we have chosen to provide a particular attachment to. These are thoughts that we have been told during the course of our lives that have been backed up by experience and our emotional reaction to them. It is important to recognize our beliefs because they will form the paradigms of our lives. These rules will determine the reality that we experience in our lives, so recognizing the limiting beliefs and actively working to change them can make your life much more positive.
The Birth of Beliefs
Our basic beliefs come to us early on in life. At the very least our parent’s attitudes about life and us will create our reality and our beliefs about most everything, from money to personal relationships, they are all created and imprinted on our subconscious by our parents and family members. These beliefs are going to be either positive or negative, empowering or enslaving depending 0n experience. If you get messages like, “you can’t possibly accomplish that.” or “You aren’t smart enough to do that.” or “That isn’t realistic, you will never be able to make a living at it.” The reality of your life is going to be limited by those beliefs.
If on the other hand, the messages received were more supportive and encouraging, then these beliefs will propel you into success much easier. The things that we believe, the paradigms of our lives dictate your reality. It goes deeper than what you say in words and includes the example you set. If there is a general mistrust and unhappiness in your life, you are building a belief that the world is full of people you can’t trust. Although there are some people who can’t be trusted, many are very trustworthy and kind. The belief that you have will carry over to the next generation, embedding itself and creating the reality that exists.
How to change a Belief
Once a belief is embedded and you accept it as true, it won’t change until new evidence comes that strongly refutes it and causes the old paradigm to be discarded and the new belief takes its place. This process will be different for all people, depending on the types of beliefs you have, and how open you are to change.
If you are set in your ways and look at change as a danger, then it is going to be difficult to change your belief. Simply put, you are not going to seek change until it becomes apparent there is a problem with what you are thinking and believing right now. Wanting to change and in fact, seeing the need to change is the first step. Then it is a matter of deciding what you want to believe about money, relationships, charity, work, friends, family or any other area that is affecting your life.
Then it is a matter of reprogramming your subconscious, and there are many ways to do this. Some involve changing your belief bit by bit and others involve rapid and immediate change. I think that the best way to change a limiting belief is to recognize the belief, where it came from and how it is hurting your life now. Construction of a new belief is going to involve using your imagination, and introducing images that have a connection to emotion about what you want to believe.
Changing A Limiting Belief is Not Difficult
Some information I have read on this topic has stressed the difficulty of creating changes that last in your belief system but most people who purport this message want to sell you something. My own experience is that most beliefs can be changed pretty quickly and those changes can last.
Simple method: 1. identify the problem in writing 2. write down the change that you want to see in your beliefs. 3. Create thoughts, (affirmations) that support those thoughts 4. Read them, say them, repeat them until the positive thought replaces the limiting belief. You will know it has happened in the experiences you have. As thoughts change, life changes.
“Thoroughly unprepared, we take the step into the afternoon of life. Worse still, we take this step with the false presupposition that our truths and our ideals will serve us as hitherto. But we cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program of life’s morning, for what was great in the morning will be little at evening and what in the morning was true, at evening will have become a lie.” ~C.G. Jung