We have all dreamed and attempted to achieve those dreams. At one point in our lives, we have tried to become something or create something and we have failed. Failure is a part of life, a consistent factor in achievement and how quickly that achievement comes will depend on how you react to the failure that you face. It hurts to fail, and the quicker you can overcome that fear of failure, the sooner you can move forward.
I don’t know about you, but for me, finding happiness in life is totally dependant on my own perception. There seem to be two choices in life when seeking joy in life. Either I live from the outside in or from the inside out. The choice is one that dictates how large the portion of happiness I experience at any particular time. But what does it mean to
Living in the moment is a lost art. So many people are living life, just going through the motions, standing still or worse yet living in the glow of past events. There is nothing wrong with understanding and remembering your past, but to allow it to dominate your current life through nostalgia, and thoughts of an idealistic past will lessen the joy you can have today. Living in the moment will provide happiness and satisfaction in each part of your day. In reality, it is all that you are guaranteed to have.
What Life Lessons have YOU learned Recently?
One of the great things about life is that no matter what you are doing, there is always an opportunity to learn new things and grow. I am very fortunate because life has been intent on teaching me a lot of things over the past few years.
I think that I was fortunate to develop a questioning of myself and the world, which allows me to look at situations from a different perspective than I did earlier in life. These are the three life lessons that life has taught me lately.
No pain no gain is an expression I used to follow when I was in high school and looking to get into better shape for sports. Then for years afterward I thought it was a philosophy that missed the mark. Who wants to experience pain? Nobody. But recent experiences have led me back to this phrase and the absolute genius it provides in its simplicity. I believe now that there was much more truth in it than I ever could have conceived. No pain no gain.
That is a question that more and more people are asking because they look at their lives and feel that it is lacking in some way. It is at this point that people start to look at the possibilities and almost as quickly as they think of something they would like to do, there is a competing voice in your head explaining the reasons why it is a bad idea. It is no wonder we are often confused and discouraged quite often. Learn to listen to your positive voice and ignore the negative chiming of your ego is one of the most valuable life skills that a person can develop.
Many are looking for success and financial freedom and it seems like a difficult journey but there are some simple things that you can do that might help you get where you want to be. They are simple but they are not easy either. Here are some of those simple things that you can do to get on the road to success that you are seeking.
What can allow you to feel appreciation today? It seems like our society searches for ways to make people feel like their life is lacking in some way. That no matter what you have, there is something out there that you need or should desire in order to feel happy, successful, grateful or positive in any way. This is an illusion that we fool ourselves with each day. You have all you need to feel grateful and to be happy, you simply need to appreciate it.
In order to keep moving through life, we all have to believe that something better awaits us in the future, we need to hope. No matter where we are right now, there is a potential for a future that contains anything that we can conceive of. This is limitless and unlimited.
If life is going great then it can get better. If things aren’t going as well as you would like, it can improve in the short order. That is called hope and without hope, progress is difficult to have.
I have failed to be responsible in many ways throughout my life. I have been selfish, short-sighted, greedy and petty many times. These experiences have led me to the conclusion that I needed to become responsible not only for my actions in the world but for the energy that surrounded my actions or lack of action.
Every person contains within them the same capacity for good and evil. Our life experiences and our reaction to them dictate which character traits are dominant in our lives. Knowing that change is always possible is an important factor. If you don’t like a particular aspect of your life then you are capable of changing it by adjusting your focus on things, which will change who you are on the inside.
Your attitude is the most important facet in facilitating positive change in your life and that simply means that you have to understand, believe that you are capable of change and desire to change to a more positive mindset. Know what type of person you want to be and develop those character traits.
There are endless possibilities that exist in each new day. So often I look at life and see the obstacles in my way. The reasons why I can’t do what I want, go where I want, or be who I want to be. The barriers have existed since I was born, and they seem to be pervasive and permanent. If I never change my perspective of them then they will always stop me. How do I overcome them? Look at the positive possibilities that exist all around you, they are there.
Do you deserve happiness? This is a question that most of us ask either on the conscious or subconscious level and the honest answer we give too often is, NO. This is a limiting belief that comes with us through our experiences that have taught us to expect less than the best. There is no reason to look at yourself and believe that you don’t deserve happiness. The only thing stopping you from living a happy life are your own negative stories that you tell yourself in your mind. You always have the choice to look at yourself with softer eyes and admit that you deserve to be happy.
A limiting belief many people carry around in their mind is “History always repeats.” As a former history teacher, I know that in the broad scheme of life, general themes in history do repeat themselves. However, this is not a given, it takes a combination of circumstances and choices for any event to occur. This is particularly true in your life, don’t be limited by the concern or fear that events from your past are simply going to play again in your mind. Forget your history.
I think that all people at some time have the feeling that they just don’t fit in. It could have been in school, it could be at work or anywhere else in the world. Feeling like you are just too different to find your place is a common belief but it is one that you should get rid of, right now, because that thought is only limiting you from finding the places where you do fit perfectly.
Each and every word we use has an energy attached to it and impacts the lives of all that hear it. Too often we use our words without a consideration of how they will affect others. Words are the building blocks used to build our mindset either positive or negative. Our words radiate around and within us long after they are spoken. It is important that all people are vigilant in noticing the charge of our words and the thoughts behind them. Focusing on speaking positively will allow us to create a more positive mindset. This will make life a happier and more enjoyable experience.
Many problems come from the illusion of separation that people have been taught throughout life. Almost from birth, we are taught to group people and label them based on arbitrary measures. Separation by race, religion, region, economics or any other measure is designed to create an identity but they only serve to build walls between people. Security is a big reason for this, where you fit in, you are safe, but later it can be attached to a person’s self-worth, and value. We are not separate, we are connected. The truth is that we are far more connected than we are different. Eliminate the separations between us and the world will be a much more functional place.
How many times have you allowed the opinions of others limit your potential? When I think of the wonderful people who I meet each day, I find myself being awestruck by the potential success that exists in all people that they can’t see in themselves. It is like looking at Michael Jordan who doesn’t realize that he is a great basketball player. Greatness exists within everyone in one form or another and learning to listen to your heart and following your interests is all it takes to start to see this.
We each have space inside of us that exists for us to fill with all of the things that matter in our lives. From birth until we leave this experience people make decisions about what exactly is going to fill their empty space most enjoyable. All of the things we pay attention to and the actions that you take fill that space. As we grow older the decisions about the space are going to be more important. Things that filled our space when we were 20 years old, no longer seem to fit and fall away. Events that filled our space are over and in order for new experiences and things to get in we have to let things fall away from us and move comfortably into the past. What is in your space that you should let go of? What should you keep?