What can allow you to feel appreciation today? It seems like our society searches for ways to make people feel like their life is lacking in some way. That no matter what you have, there is something out there that you need or should desire in order to feel happy, successful, grateful or positive in any way. This is an illusion that we fool ourselves with each day. You have all you need to feel grateful and to be happy, you simply need to appreciate it.
In order to keep moving through life, we all have to believe that something better awaits us in the future, we need to hope. No matter where we are right now, there is a potential for a future that contains anything that we can conceive of. This is limitless and unlimited.
If life is going great then it can get better. If things aren’t going as well as you would like, it can improve in the short order. That is called hope and without hope, progress is difficult to have.
I have failed to be responsible in many ways throughout my life. I have been selfish, short-sighted, greedy and petty many times. These experiences have led me to the conclusion that I needed to become responsible not only for my actions in the world but for the energy that surrounded my actions or lack of action.
Every person contains within them the same capacity for good and evil. Our life experiences and our reaction to them dictate which character traits are dominant in our lives. Knowing that change is always possible is an important factor. If you don’t like a particular aspect of your life then you are capable of changing it by adjusting your focus on things, which will change who you are on the inside.
Your attitude is the most important facet in facilitating positive change in your life and that simply means that you have to understand, believe that you are capable of change and desire to change to a more positive mindset. Know what type of person you want to be and develop those character traits.
There are endless possibilities that exist in each new day. So often I look at life and see the obstacles in my way. The reasons why I can’t do what I want, go where I want, or be who I want to be. The barriers have existed since I was born, and they seem to be pervasive and permanent. If I never change my perspective of them then they will always stop me. How do I overcome them? Look at the positive possibilities that exist all around you, they are there.
Do you deserve happiness? This is a question that most of us ask either on the conscious or subconscious level and the honest answer we give too often is, NO. This is a limiting belief that comes with us through our experiences that have taught us to expect less than the best. There is no reason to look at yourself and believe that you don’t deserve happiness. The only thing stopping you from living a happy life are your own negative stories that you tell yourself in your mind. You always have the choice to look at yourself with softer eyes and admit that you deserve to be happy.
A limiting belief many people carry around in their mind is “History always repeats.” As a former history teacher, I know that in the broad scheme of life, general themes in history do repeat themselves. However, this is not a given, it takes a combination of circumstances and choices for any event to occur. This is particularly true in your life, don’t be limited by the concern or fear that events from your past are simply going to play again in your mind. Forget your history.
I think that all people at some time have the feeling that they just don’t fit in. It could have been in school, it could be at work or anywhere else in the world. Feeling like you are just too different to find your place is a common belief but it is one that you should get rid of, right now, because that thought is only limiting you from finding the places where you do fit perfectly.
Each and every word we use has an energy attached to it and impacts the lives of all that hear it. Too often we use our words without a consideration of how they will affect others. Words are the building blocks used to build our mindset either positive or negative. Our words radiate around and within us long after they are spoken. It is important that all people are vigilant in noticing the charge of our words and the thoughts behind them. Focusing on speaking positively will allow us to create a more positive mindset. This will make life a happier and more enjoyable experience.
Many problems come from the illusion of separation that people have been taught throughout life. Almost from birth, we are taught to group people and label them based on arbitrary measures. Separation by race, religion, region, economics or any other measure is designed to create an identity but they only serve to build walls between people. Security is a big reason for this, where you fit in, you are safe, but later it can be attached to a person’s self-worth, and value. We are not separate, we are connected. The truth is that we are far more connected than we are different. Eliminate the separations between us and the world will be a much more functional place.
When I think of the wonderful people who I meet each day, I find myself being awestruck by the potential success that exists in all people that they can’t see in themselves. It is like looking at Michael Jordan who doesn’t realize that he is a great basketball player. Greatness exists within everyone in one form or another and learning to listen to your heart and following your interests is all it takes to start to see this.
We each have space inside of us that exists for us to fill with all of the things that matter in our lives. From birth until we leave this experience people make decisions about what exactly is going to fill their empty space most enjoyable. All of the things we pay attention to and the actions that you take fill that space. As we grow older the decisions about the space are going to be more important. Things that filled our space when we were 20 years old, no longer seem to fit and fall away. Events that filled our space are over and in order for new experiences and things to get in we have to let things fall away from us and move comfortably into the past. What is in your space that you should let go of? What should you keep?
Bad days happen. We fall down, we make mistakes, and things fall apart. That is life, but it has been my observation that the people who move swiftly through these mishaps and enjoy the positive side of life have developed habits that are worth emulating. It is easy to let negativity creep into our lives as we live day to day, but consciously focusing our thoughts on the positives that exist in life will provide value where it seems that none really exists. Being in love with your life during each minute is the secret to happiness. Accepting the bitter with the sweet.
Things can change in an instant, and the things you dream of can come to you, today, out of the blue. Change is constant and inevitable. Hope is a powerful tool, that allows your dreams to be realized in a way that you may not have imagined before. It allows those changes to work for your pursuit of your best self.
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The past is a constant companion, it is always there, reminding, motivating or maybe even taunting us. The ghosts of things done, actions taken or not taken lead to the behavior we undertake today. Reflection on these things allows a person to choose between being swallowed by the past, never able to move forward or to release the past and move forward with new experiences.
There is a continual connection between you and your past. Hopefully visiting the ghosts of your past will allow you to put them behind you and move forward into the best version of yourself. Letting go of the past will set you free. These are some trips to the past that have haunted me on my journey and I need to put to rest once and for all.
Many of my difficulties in life have come from a lack of acceptance. Whether it was not accepting someone else’s behavior, my circumstances or just the way events have played out. My lack of acceptance has and always will lead to difficulties. Acceptance is the opposite of judgment, the positive side to that negative coin.
It is in our nature to judge others, we do it naturally, judging someone else’s behavior, actions, motives or past. It is a biological need to do this because it will help protect you from harmful situations and people and of course this is important to your survival.
It really jumps out at you when you observe people being judgmental about the behavior of others. It seems that today the judgments of others are high and the reactions to others are based on blind judgment and hate, it stands out and makes you wonder why it is that way. When you judge someone else in this manner you define yourself, not them. I think it is important to remember this.
Character Strengths Evaluation
Be prepared, it is a rather lengthy test, this post is about the results I got from taking the test.
I enjoy doing creative things because most often they reveal a lot about yourself. I am going to show you what they said were my strengths and then give my opinion on their validity and value because that’s what I do.